=I do have a problem with fuzzy youth of scripture.
That explains a lot about you. You're at that age where, you know everything, and yet, your brains isn't even fully developed until around age 25. So Maybe you might consider the fact that you might be wrong!
I bet when you're 50 you wont feel the same way.
I was using text to speech. That was supposed to be 'fuzzy use' of scripture.'--- as in I see that as problematic. Sorry I did not catch the error before I posted. But honestly, as confusing as my miswording error was, I do not get why you interpreted it as you did.
Also regarding vows, I mean to say 'let your yes be yes and your no be no' is about not swearing vows.
But I am in my 50's now. I'm also a married man.
I have also done a bit of work with youth from time to time over the years, and I have some materials on sexual morality I want to prepare. But my approach is to stick with the teaching of scripture. There is a lot to be said about pornography--- looking with lust. That's a huge issue that cuts across age groups and affects the young. Young people (and adults) in the church need to know not to fornicate or commit adultery. LGBT is a huge issue. We've had a couple of young folks who had issues with LGBT show up for evangelistic focused meetings we've done, and I've been in on conversations about that. I haven't had any kids ask me if it's okay to masturbate. I'm not going to preach against it without scripture, but it's not something I would encourage them to do.
It is noticeably absent from the Old Testament lists of sexual sins. I also do not find it in the New Testament scriptures. In the Old Testament, the man in a war camp who had an emission at night was to leave the camp, wash, and return after sunset. But intercourse, masturbation, or wet dreams could produce emissions. Men who had one, or a woman laying with a man who had one, were to wash and be unclean until evening.
If everyone married early, maybe the issue wouldn't have come up because they would have had that outlet. I've read Jews wanted to marry off the young men at 18 to 12, but the Greek men married in their late 20s. They married off girls in their teenage years. I Corinthians corrects incestuous fornication and warns against fornication with prostitutes, but it doesn't mention masturbation. The arguments against masturbation are as loose as the arguments against birth control or else by asserting that masturbation is included in some other word like lewdness or fornication.
This issue is a huge practical issue, not just for individuals, but for the body. In I Corinthians 5, there was a man who was a fornicator. He had his father's wife. Even if he'd married his widowed step-mother by custom, Leviticus lists this among sins for which Gentiles were driven out of the land. The church was to deliver the man over to Satan and not keep company with him. There are other sins as well.
Should a church deliver masturbators over to Satan and not keep company with them, when the sin doesn't show up in any of the lists of forbidden activities in scripture? How can you feel comfortable condemning someone as sinning without scripture to back it up?