What is the Difference Between Confidence and Delusion? Can Knowing the Difference Save Us From a Lot of Heartache?

[CarriePie]

Why am I picturing a news bulletin something like this:

"This just in. Bearded Men and Lumberjack Populations have been DWINDLING across America!! Authorities have narrowed their search down to 2 Beard-Hunting Bandits (@Elizabeth35 and @CarriePie's pictures flash across the screen.) These ladies are considered armed (with nets/lassos) and HIGHLY DANGEROUS.

DO NOT attempt to apprehend alone. ESPECIALLY if you're a male and wearing plaid -- and doubly so if wearing coveralls!!"

And if they like hiking (or at least don't mind getting dirty), critters, and aren't afraid of spiders they are really in a heap of trouble (just speaking for myself here lol).

 

[CarriePie]

His posts about you lowered my opinion of HIM, not you. It was clear he was being petty and ridiculously one-sided. I didn't even need to hear your side to know that HE was the one with maturity issues. 💙

Thank you for your healing words! I mostly just stayed quiet. It was not easy seeing posts made about me and still operate as normal here, but I knew that being quiet was my best defense. I think that anything else would have given attention to the situation, and I suspect that is what he wanted. I chose to pray for him and forgive and carry on with my life.

 

[CarriePie]

Just to move on and throw some humor in here...

 

[Lynx]

A person might look like a 10 to you (we all judge a little differently), but talk to them for 5 minutes and that might drop down to a 1, or still be a 10.

I'm exactly the opposite. At least I hope I am. Maybe?

Let's just say I'm desperately clinging to the hope that I am the opposite. It's the only shot I have.

At first glance I am a three. But when you start talking to me I can climb to as high as a five and a half, maybe even a six.

Or at least I sure hope I can.

 

[Lynx]

The more recent fella was actually a member here. He's a Christian. He had a lot he needed to work out though. I was always trying to be forgiving, but he'd make posts about me that only told his side of the story and sometimes his posts weren't very nice. He's no longer a member here.

Heh... You THINK he's no longer a member here. I've got a sneaking suspicion...

 

[CarriePie]

Heh... You THINK he's no longer a member here. I've got a sneaking suspicion...

He got around the ban then, eh?

Well, I'll carry on nevertheless lol.

 

[Lynx]

He got around the ban then, eh?

Well, I'll carry on nevertheless lol.

He occasionally does. his personality always shines through though.

 

[CarriePie]

He occasionally does. his personality always shines through though.

He was banned the other times? I thought he told me he requested deletion on the other accounts. I only knew of the last account being banned. Interesting.

 

[Lynx]

He was banned the other times? I thought he told me he requested deletion on the other accounts. I only knew of the last account being banned. Interesting.

He usually leaves on his own, loudly. But he always sneaks back in.

But it's possible we are talking about two different guys. It's hard to keep all of them straight.

 

[Snackersmom]

He usually leaves on his own, loudly. But he always sneaks back in.

But it's possible we are talking about two different guys. It's hard to keep all of them straight.

If I am correct about who you are referring to, they are 2 different people (though with some similarities). 🤓

 

[enril]

I was DEVASTATED when I found out I couldn't wear contacts anymore, and tried everything, but nothing works. My eyes are so dry (even with constant drops) that I run the risk of them sticking to my eye without coming off, causing permanent damage.

While I think I've found some fairly cute glasses (but they were quite an investment,) I can't wait to shed them in heaven.

But for now, at least I don't have to wear separate sunglasses (I have the transition lenses that change with UV light,) and, it's a funny thing.

As I've gotten older, the circles under my eyes have gotten darker -- but my glasses help hide them at least a little bit!

i love wearing glasses. they make anyone who wears them look smart. you look great with glasses in your picture. plus to me at least people with glasses look more genuine. and certainly more memorable with the number of ppl i know. which is why it is particularly evil when someone gets new glasses that look just like someone else.

 

[Elizabeth35]

Why am I picturing a news bulletin something like this:

"This just in. Bearded Men and Lumberjack Populations have been DWINDLING across America!! Authorities have narrowed their search down to 2 Beard-Hunting Bandits (@Elizabeth35 and @CarriePie's pictures flash across the screen.) These ladies are considered armed (with nets/lassos) and HIGHLY DANGEROUS.

DO NOT attempt to apprehend alone. ESPECIALLY if you're a male and wearing plaid -- and doubly so if wearing coveralls!!"

I needed this laugh!!

*frantically searches for nets and lassos*

 

[Elizabeth35]

And if they like hiking (or at least don't mind getting dirty), critters, and aren't afraid of spiders they are really in a heap of trouble (just speaking for myself here lol).

Yeah, for me he's gotta be okay with spiders and critters because I am NOT so he definitely needs to take care of that.

 

[CarriePie]

Yeah, for me he's gotta be okay with spiders and critters because I am NOT so he definitely needs to take care of that.

I haven't dated a guy yet that likes spiders. I'm left feeling like the strong one. Like this, in other words...

 

[LifelongLearner]

Will chuck my two bobsworth in, i don't think marriage and kids was meant to be a lasting thing and that it was for a practical, time limited purpose. Not saying romantic love didn't exist historically but i do think it has been fetishised in comparatively recent times.

Late in life i realised it was preferable living with just my little cat than with my ex-husband too. Who i was seriously in danger of loathing because we had so little in common left by then. Personally think marriage was instituted for procreation/population, property and other functional and legalistic purposes. Also think in modern times it's been used as a tool in the general dumbing down/infantilisation of ordinary people, why literally worship physical beauty which is down to the luck of the draw, not achievement? Or even worse, surgical, the reasons for which open yet another can of worms.

Still having problems typing but the arthritis seems to be lightening up some, not feeling up to scratch, hope my comment makes some sense.

 

[tourist]

My rule of thumb is that if everyone else is telling you the same thing that you disagree with, it's worth considering that they might be right.

Other thoughts are that the happiest marriages are between two people who both think they married up.

I certainly married up, that's for sure. My wife thinks that she married up too but I can't figure out why.

 

[seoulsearch]

I certainly married up, that's for sure. My wife thinks that she married up too but I can't figure out why.

I think this might be the secret to a pairing that might be set up for a better chance at success.

Both people involved are humble and underrate themselves (out of honesty, not in false humility,) and truly see the one the other as being better than themselves (but out of inspiration, not worship.)

Just my own opinion though.

 

[LifelongLearner]

I certainly married up, that's for sure. My wife thinks that she married up too but I can't figure out why.

Bless you, think quite a few here have a decent idea why she thinks she married up too.