oh such beautiful story.
Can we conclude that many people are not truly saved or many are struggling with sexual sin?
Since it's a built in temptation, it's the most common IMHO.
Like addictions to chemicals however, if someone has been able to remain a virgin through the teen years, there's more chance of maintaining self control for the years following. There must be motivation though. This is where I asked for help and have a mental list to help.
1. Saved so the Holy Spirit is available to keep the believer from temptation if they ask and take necessary steps.
2. Jesus' prayer in John 17:17 to" sanctify them through They truth. They Word is truth.".. He teaches me that I have the ability to be set apart from temptation and sins by frequent regular reading of the Bible and memorization.
3. We don't want a profane or whorish man/ woman like Gomer, Hosea 1:2,3,
so when approached by such a person, go the other direction. Stay focused on the gospel to get them saved, but don't date or do anything to allow yourself to be tempted.
Example was the other Redhead who we actually had a number of things in common. We worked together on a campaign to get a pro life republican elected for the House of representatives and other unique topics of importance. She kept asking me to take her out and even ignored an officer who traveled from Florida to see her. That made me feel great and thought that this must be a match made in heaven, but I was cautious and decided to not pursue her. I then found out that she was pretty popular with the guys and girls, so at the very least don't have STDs for lasting reminders of giving into temptation.
I applied these principles from the start of college to eventually leading the largest singles ministry in the state. There have been plenty of opportunities however it's much easier to establish the goals, boundaries before the potential temptation. Make no provisions for the flesh doesn't mean we aren't normal. It's using wisdom, foresight and avoiding situations that would be regretful.
Sometimes I only get one opportunity to get to know someone and that is the end, so I don't want to go to keep missing out on limited opportunities to get to know others in wholesome ways. That's why it was a good thing to get acquainted in a public place and not invite the interior design major home. That was the most recent example. Besides, I don't want to get married until I'm healed from a lot of injuries. I lost a lot and need to get back to a semblance of normal, so I can take my time today to get to know which gift from the Lord would be the best suited. He's helping me and expect this to happen sooner than average because He's close to me and been very kind
That's good that you are putting principle before the flesh.
If you want more links to learn how to lead the guys who cross your path to Christ, I have others. Eventually I'll post my own too. Just let me know.
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