Single And In Need of Advice

[SirSolaScriptura]

When I was in my early twenties, I met who I believed was meant to be my soul mate, a prayerful woman in whom I had everything in common. Her father prevented us getting together, she came from a tradition were you "honor your parents," to the extreme. It was so sad, because my father and her father were in same military branch, job, and war. Like that is pretty normal.. anyways ever since I have not been able to attract a godly women, and in contrast Witches and Neo Pagans show interest.

What is frustrating is when I go to single groups at Church, unless you have 401K and want to talk about the weather for two years you won't get any time of day with a potential mate. I have tried dating apps, but the same problems come up that you gotta play the social media thing, and I do not feel I have time for it anymore.

My concern is that the girl I am in love with now is a non-Christian, reports that she has no religion, but its majorly entertained by vampires and demons, and says, "she believes in them." I have no idea what that means, believes they are real? Or believes as in John 3:16 that we do with Jesus, meaning has faith in. This girl has been an emotional support through major tribulations I have gone through, and she is sweetheart, and yes I know the whole, "Do not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers," verse. But I tried to be yoked a with good Christian woman and it was obstructed, and I cannot get any righteous ladies to be interested since; so I feel my choices are falling to compromising on that verse or being alone, and I did not sign up for being a hermit. I do not have the gift of "eunuch for the kingdom of God." (Matthew 19:12).

Looking for some advice, and prayer support on this.

 

[Lynx]

I'm 46 and still single.

I may meet a girl tomorrow and marry her next week. I may still be single when I'm 80. Who knows?

I have learned from experience to live life as it comes, enjoy what I have while I have it, and not worry so much about what I don't have or what I used to have.

There is much wisdom in the 10th commandment. It makes following most of the other commandments a lot easier. There is also much wisdom in Philippians 4:11-13.

 

[tourist]

My advice is to stay clear of the vampire lady.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

When I was in my early twenties, I met who I believed was meant to be my soul mate, a prayerful woman in whom I had everything in common. Her father prevented us getting together, she came from a tradition were you "honor your parents," to the extreme. It was so sad, because my father and her father were in same military branch, job, and war. Like that is pretty normal.. anyways ever since I have not been able to attract a godly women, and in contrast Witches and Neo Pagans show interest.

What is frustrating is when I go to single groups at Church, unless you have 401K and want to talk about the weather for two years you won't get any time of day with a potential mate. I have tried dating apps, but the same problems come up that you gotta play the social media thing, and I do not feel I have time for it anymore.

My concern is that the girl I am in love with now is a non-Christian, reports that she has no religion, but its majorly entertained by vampires and demons, and says, "she believes in them." I have no idea what that means, believes they are real? Or believes as in John 3:16 that we do with Jesus, meaning has faith in. This girl has been an emotional support through major tribulations I have gone through, and she is sweetheart, and yes I know the whole, "Do not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers," verse. But I tried to be yoked a with good Christian woman and it was obstructed, and I cannot get any righteous ladies to be interested since; so I feel my choices are falling to compromising on that verse or being alone, and I did not sign up for being a hermit. I do not have the gift of "eunuch for the kingdom of God." (Matthew 19:12).

Looking for some advice, and prayer support on this.

First I'd, drop the soul mate stuff. There's no such thing. I've heard all the arguments claiming that it's true, yet I remain staunch in my belief.
As a teen I wanted to be married by 25. When that passed I thought by 30. I'm now nearly 50 and have never been married, no kids. And I have no prospects and don't see that ever changing.

Dating apps are a joke and mostly people looking for sex, even on the Christian ones.

I'm sure the current girl simply meant she believes in their existence. I'd consider it a stretch to say it's the second option.

Meeting someone anymore is really just a crapshoot as to whether or not it'll happen. Men and women come to this site frequently, with the same complaints you have. There really is no easy answer. If there were many of us here would no longer be single.

 

[Kainos]

My concern is that the girl I am in love with now is a non-Christian, reports that she has no religion, but its majorly entertained by vampires and demons, and says, "she believes in them." I have no idea what that means, believes they are real?

The girl you love is telling you that she doesn't believe in Jesus. She's seated at the same table as the witches and neo-pagans who are fluttering their eyelashes to test your allegiance.

Your attention is divided, which appeals to their ilk, because it's an invitation for them to lure you away from the faith. By the same token, your divided attention will be very unappealing to those women who are attentive to the Lord.

Not a catch-22 situation, but you're about to discover whether your loyalty is misplaced or not.

 

[MsMediator]

I would stop being emotionally too involved. I've had couple of friends who become or wanted to be witches, and I have stopped communicating them (and vice versa). Witches, etc. think Christians are dumb so that is a big dealbreaker for me. I also feel cleaner not being involved with them.

 

[SirSolaScriptura]

The girl you love is telling you that she doesn't believe in Jesus. She's seated at the same table as the witches and neo-pagans who are fluttering their eyelashes to test your allegiance.

Your attention is divided, which appeals to their ilk, because it's an invitation for them to lure you away from the faith. By the same token, your divided attention will be very unappealing to those women who are attentive to the Lord.

Not a catch-22 situation, but you're about to discover whether your loyalty is misplaced or not.

What about prophet Hosea marrying a Woman of Loose Morals? I mean Rachael was so pagan she stole her father's gods (Genesis 31:19), and yet Jacob loved her and God never told him to not marry her.

What of the Apostle's Paul's words, "For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." (1 Corinthians 7:14). Everyone quotes the "unevenly yoked" verse, but the same apostle wrote that too.

I mean I have always wondered what this means, "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household." (Acts 16:34-36)

 

[ATSTD]

When I was in my early twenties, I met who I believed was meant to be my soul mate, a prayerful woman in whom I had everything in common. Her father prevented us getting together, she came from a tradition were you "honor your parents," to the extreme. It was so sad, because my father and her father were in same military branch, job, and war. Like that is pretty normal.. anyways ever since I have not been able to attract a godly women, and in contrast Witches and Neo Pagans show interest.

What is frustrating is when I go to single groups at Church, unless you have 401K and want to talk about the weather for two years you won't get any time of day with a potential mate. I have tried dating apps, but the same problems come up that you gotta play the social media thing, and I do not feel I have time for it anymore.

My concern is that the girl I am in love with now is a non-Christian, reports that she has no religion, but its majorly entertained by vampires and demons, and says, "she believes in them." I have no idea what that means, believes they are real? Or believes as in John 3:16 that we do with Jesus, meaning has faith in. This girl has been an emotional support through major tribulations I have gone through, and she is sweetheart, and yes I know the whole, "Do not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers," verse. But I tried to be yoked a with good Christian woman and it was obstructed, and I cannot get any righteous ladies to be interested since; so I feel my choices are falling to compromising on that verse or being alone, and I did not sign up for being a hermit. I do not have the gift of "eunuch for the kingdom of God." (Matthew 19:12).

Looking for some advice, and prayer support on this.

First: change your profile picture to something less demonic looking. That should detour witches and neo pagans from being attracted you.

Second: demons are real.

Third: run from that nonbeliever. You do not want to be unevenly yoked!

Fourth: stop trying to be in a relationship and let it happen naturally. God has a great Christian woman for you.

Fifth: pursue God and His purpose for you and everything will fall into place.

 

[SirSolaScriptura]

First: change your profile picture to something less demonic looking. That should detour witches and neo pagans from being attracted you.

Second: demons are real.

Third: run from that nonbeliever. You do not want to be unevenly yoked!

Fourth: stop trying to be in a relationship and let it happen naturally. God has a great Christian woman for you.

Fifth: pursue God and His purpose for you and everything will fall into place.

My profile is simply a cross made of the sins that Jesus died for... that's demonic?

I know demons are real, I have been in Deliverance Ministry, and Seminary.

Did you read the passage where the same apostle says we can sanctify unbelievers? (1 Corinthians 7:14).

I have pursued God to the Holy Land and back, gone to Seminary, been faithful and exhorted his Family in the Faith. I have suffered for his name, even have been persecuted for my faith and told not to in a free country to share the gospel. I was even threatened with stoning as a youth..

 

[ATSTD]

My profile is simply a cross made of the sins that Jesus died for... that's demonic?

I know demons are real, I have been in Deliverance Ministry, and Seminary.

Did you read the passage where the same apostle says we can sanctify unbelievers? (1 Corinthians 7:14).

I have pursued God to the Holy Land and back, gone to Seminary, been faithful and exhorted his Family in the Faith. I have suffered for his name, even have been persecuted for my faith and told not to in a free country to share the gospel. I was even threatened with stoning as a youth..

I understand it’s a cross but it looks like a blood cross, straight out of a vampire movie.

By the way you wrote about the person you are seeing in your opening post, you made seem like you don’t believe in demons.

I’m just going based on experience, when it comes to wasting time, trying to get a non-believer to believe. Spent a decade trying; it just seemed like she continued to come in and out of my life after every man she left me for broke up with her. We never kissed or did anything sexual; I was simply there hoping she would come to Christ and never did.

You probably have done all these things. I’m not saying you aren’t a believer. We all have been persecuted and or oppressed in some way or another as believers.

I have been even told that i couldn’t read the Bible anymore, for almost a decade. I’d have to privately read it when that person wasn’t around.

I’ve never been threatened to be stoned but I’ve been threatened to be stabbed and shot, after gang members pulled a knife and gun on me.

 

[seoulsearch]

What about prophet Hosea marrying a Woman of Loose Morals? I mean Rachael was so pagan she stole her father's gods (Genesis 31:19), and yet Jacob loved her and God never told him to not marry her.

What of the Apostle's Paul's words, "For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." (1 Corinthians 7:14). Everyone quotes the "unevenly yoked" verse, but the same apostle wrote that too.

I mean I have always wondered what this means, "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household." (Acts 16:34-36)

I understand what you're saying. I really do.

I went to a Lutheran high school and the popular boys bragged about going to the local strip club every weekend. One would show off the condoms he carried in his wallet at basketball games. Many saw it as the cool way to rebel.

Meanwhile, I would meet guys who didn't specifically identify as Christian but were still virgins because, when asked, would say, "It just doesn't feel right to give myself away yet." Guess which ones I was always attracted to.

I also understand always being told not to be unequally yoked. What never gets talked about (and I've written threads about it in the past,) is that it's very possible to be unequally yoked with another believer as well. I've known Christian marriages that went horribly wrong.

And in dating situations, I've had guys try to "police" me into being what they felt was "more Christian." One scolded me for saying "Happy Holidays" rather than "Merry Christmas." I explained that sometimes I didn't see my family for 6 months and if it was before all the holidays, then yes, I'm going to say Happy Holidays. But that didn't live up to his Christian standards.

Anyway...

I also get what you're saying about Hosea and Gomer. But I think the other thing that also never gets talked about, and I'm sure you know all this, is that their marriage was about as awful as it could get. Not only did she cheat on him continuously, but he had to go looking for her and buy her back. It's also hinted that one of their kids might not even have been his.

So although this is always pointed out as an example of a God-sanctioned believer/unbeliever marriage, who on earth would have wanted it? Now I know God also instructed Hosea to do this as an illustration of God's own relationship with Israel, but I think it's also a cautionary tale of some of the additional challenges between mixed faith marriages.

This thread had me thinking of several mixed faith couples I've known over the years. The ones that involved an unbeliever didn't marry until the unbeliever was actively going to church with the believer and agreed to continue to do so. One couple became elders in the church. Another couple I knew also became strong leaders in their church, but it wasn't without a lot of challenges (including a separation and near divorce.)

And of course, troubled things happen in Christian marriages as well. But with two Christians, you're at least on the same page. You both know that there's a set of beliefs you adhere to, why you believe in them, and the One who backs them up. And of course, people choose to ignore those principles all the time, but at least they have a common base.

In a mixed faith marriage, each person is operating from their own set of rules, and it's going to be a lot harder to find a common ground to stand on. I'm more open-minded to mixed faith marriages (because I've seen unequally yoked Christians marry, too,) BUT, I also recognize that they're going to have a unique set of challenges and should be approached with EXTREME prayerful caution. If you try to say you believe in X because God says so, and she says she believes in Y because her goddess says so, that's going to be a lot tougher to work out.

I can sympathize with much of what you wrote in your opening post, and I wish I had the answers. Unfortunately, there are no easy answers. I've known a lot of people who got married because they felt time was running out or they couldn't find someone else, and sometimes it works, and sometimes it's a disaster. But those seem to be the risks in pretty much any scenario.

I'll definitely pray for you, and please keep us posted on how things go.

 

[cinder]

What about prophet Hosea marrying a Woman of Loose Morals? I mean Rachael was so pagan she stole her father's gods (Genesis 31:19), and yet Jacob loved her and God never told him to not marry her.

What of the Apostle's Paul's words, "For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." (1 Corinthians 7:14). Everyone quotes the "unevenly yoked" verse, but the same apostle wrote that too.

I mean I have always wondered what this means, "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household." (Acts 16:34-36)

I know we're all prone to doing this, but please don't pull scriptures out of context as an excuse to get what you want rather than what God wants for you. Chances of that turning out well are slim to none.

I think @seoulsearch covered the Hosea thing pretty well. Also God very specifically told Hosea to marry her and told him she would cheat on him. So if you're signing up for the Hosea thing, you're signing up to be cheated on. That's how that story went.


1 Cor 7 starts out speaking to singles, then very blatantly in vs 10 shifts to talking to those who are already married. Because in the early days of the church it was probably pretty common for a person to get saved and their spouse to not be a Christian (yet) and so all of that about the believing spouse sanctifying the marriage and children, pretty much assumes that that was the situation the person was already in when they became a Christian ( see v. 17). The principle in this passage is that you don't abandon your marriage because you became a Christian; not that now being a Christian it's in any way a good idea to go marry someone who is not.

And the context of acts 16 is these words are spoken to a pagan who has just seen God move in power and also had one of the followers of this god behave in an unexpected way that pretty much saved his life ( God sent and earthquake to open the prison, Paul convinced all the prisoners not to run away, guard's life would have been forfeit if any prisioners were missing and he was about to suicide to avoid the shame of such a failing being made public). So he had quite the story to gather his household and tell and Paul is taking the opportunity to push him toward following Jesus. Also if it was a more communal culture, people would decide as families and households rather than as individuals.

Yeah, obeying God is hard sometimes and we don't always get everything we think we want. And we can go down a lot of rabbit holes about if God wanted one outcome for us and someone else was unwilling can they cause us to miss out on what God wants for us. These days my line is that my goal in life is to outlive my parents and my dog (for their sakes) but after that I'm not sure what I'm going to do with me or if there's going to be anyone around me I can really count on.

Also about that silly gift of singleness stuff. It's not like the ability to be contentedly single is a spiritual gift. We're all called to be content in whatever circumstances God places us, even if we desire those circumstances to change. Singleness is a gift with certain advantages and challenges, and marriage is another gift with different advantages and challenges. And for today you're called to whichever state you currently find yourself in.

 

[Tall_Timbers]

What about prophet Hosea marrying a Woman of Loose Morals? I

Why did Hosea marry a woman of loose morals?

You're going down the worldly and destructive path of trying to justify decisions that you know go contrary to the Word.

Stay on the path you're on now and later you'll be asking why does God allow the suffering I've (you) experienced?

 

[Lynx]

I understand it’s a cross but it looks like a blood cross, straight out of a vampire movie.

Well... You keep things interesting around here, I'll give you that.

But with the weird things you keep seeing in other things... I don't know. Either I should watch more vampire movies or maybe you should watch fewer.

 

[RodB651]

There really should be a face palm reaction.

 

[ATSTD]

Well... You keep things interesting around here, I'll give you that.

But with the weird things you keep seeing in other things... I don't know. Either I should watch more vampire movies or maybe you should watch fewer.

Being a logo design artist for about two decades, it was my job to convey a companies brand and identity to the mass population.

I probably can count every vampire movie I’ve seen on my fingers…and maybe toes…

 

[Kainos]

What about prophet Hosea marrying a Woman of Loose Morals?

Hosea's marriage was an illustration of the relationship between a faithful God, and His two-timing (unfaithful) people who turned to other gods.

When the LORD began to speak by Hosea, the LORD said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry by departing from the LORD.” (Hosea 1:2)

In spite of Gomer's frequent adultery, God instructed Hosea to take her back again. Their reconciliation foretold how the nation of Israel would be forgiven and return to God.

I mean Rachael was so pagan she stole her father's gods (Genesis 31:19), and yet Jacob loved her and God never told him to not marry her.

Jacob marrying Rachel was another strand of God's unfolding plan for His people.

Rachel was barren for many years, and yes the Lord opened her womb to bear 2 children, but the instant her second child, Benjamin was born, to give Jacob the total of 12 sons for the 12 tribes, Rachel was taken from Jacob.

Keep the verses in their contextual relationship, and then compare your circumstance to that context. What does your love for a woman who daydreams about Count Dracula have to do with the origins of Israel?

What of the Apostle's Paul's words, "For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." (1 Corinthians 7:14). Everyone quotes the "unevenly yoked" verse, but the same apostle wrote that too.

Paul's instruction was for the husband and wife, those who were already married to an unbelieving spouse. He wasn't implying that anyone unwedded in Christ, could or should marry an unbeliever.

I mean I have always wondered what this means, "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household." (Acts 16:34-36)

Paul and Silas were addressing the Jailer. They spoke the word of the Lord to him and all that were in his house. They were all baptised (Acts 16:31-33) which means they all believed what they had heard.

 

[TheLearner]

Concentrate on serving others. While doing that one day eight ladies asked me to marry them.

 

[ResidentAlien]

Looking for some advice, and prayer support on this.

I'll be happy to pray for you. Best wishes.

 

[Karlon]

When I was in my early twenties, I met who I believed was meant to be my soul mate, a prayerful woman in whom I had everything in common. Her father prevented us getting together, she came from a tradition were you "honor your parents," to the extreme. It was so sad, because my father and her father were in same military branch, job, and war. Like that is pretty normal.. anyways ever since I have not been able to attract a godly women, and in contrast Witches and Neo Pagans show interest.

What is frustrating is when I go to single groups at Church, unless you have 401K and want to talk about the weather for two years you won't get any time of day with a potential mate. I have tried dating apps, but the same problems come up that you gotta play the social media thing, and I do not feel I have time for it anymore.

My concern is that the girl I am in love with now is a non-Christian, reports that she has no religion, but its majorly entertained by vampires and demons, and says, "she believes in them." I have no idea what that means, believes they are real? Or believes as in John 3:16 that we do with Jesus, meaning has faith in. This girl has been an emotional support through major tribulations I have gone through, and she is sweetheart, and yes I know the whole, "Do not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers," verse. But I tried to be yoked a with good Christian woman and it was obstructed, and I cannot get any righteous ladies to be interested since; so I feel my choices are falling to compromising on that verse or being alone, and I did not sign up for being a hermit. I do not have the gift of "eunuch for the kingdom of God." (Matthew 19:12).

Looking for some advice, and prayer support on this.

my thought is that you may be the one to convert her. calmly speak the word of Jesus to her, but 1st, practice what you are going to say. reminds me of a longtime friend i have who is an atheist. he does more good things for people than Christians! you need to speak to Jesus & the Holy Spirit on this. ask for wisdom. a huge amount of "resting patience: is needed for this. be willing to be patient with time as this is another important element. blessings to you.