Been a loner for years but now it's getting really bad.

[Bill733]

Hello to all. I'm 52 and got saved in 1995. But I've always been the type that never really connected with people, even people at church. Over the past 30 years I've jumped from church to church not attending each one long. I never had many friends whether Christian or not. In the 80s and 90s I was able to keep a small circle of friends. But about 20 years ago they started fading away-one became a Jehova's Witness, one just cared about chasing women, and one I would end up arguing about politics with. Since then I just can't find people that I've become good friends with. I've always been the type that women are not interested in. In 2013 I finally found a Christian lady and we got married in 2015. But it was a disaster and after 5 years she wanted a divorce(long story there). I had to get out of her apartment and moved in with my gradmother. I've had Parkinson's for about 6 years(and other health issues). Grandma died in Dec 2023 and I live here alone now. I inherited half of her house and my cousin the other half. Lately my condition has been getting so bad I'm very limited in what I can do physically. And there's no one who can come visit me regularly to help me with things Im not able to do around the house. I have a friend and my cousin who can come over ocassionally, but they live 45 minutes and an hour away. It just seems that everyoe is SO busy today no one can help me. Even when I call my cousin or friend they don't answer and it may take days or over a week to respond to my call or text.

In the past it didn't seem too important to be a loner when my health was good and I was independent. But now grandma's passed away, my ex wife left, and it's so depressing. Seems like no one cares. I watch videos on youtube and many people say the in the USA(and many Western natons)people are ALWAYS busy and they don't hang out and things like that. There are people that have relatives that live just a few miles from each other that never visit one another. In many other countries they interact with each other much more. I don't mean to [put out all my problems out here, but I don't know what to do. I keep praying, but God just seems so distant. About a year ago I started going to a non denominational church close to me. I went to Bible study and the service many times. I met a few people, but never made friends with anyone. About 2 months ago I had to stop going because fatigue was getting so bad I couldn't be out that long before I would have go lay down for awhile. And it's so difficult to go to the grocery store 1/2 mile away and get back home before I get tired, so I started having the groceries delivered. What should I do??

 

[Roughsoul1991]

Hello to all. I'm 52 and got saved in 1995. But I've always been the type that never really connected with people, even people at church. Over the past 30 years I've jumped from church to church not attending each one long. I never had many friends whether Christian or not. In the 80s and 90s I was able to keep a small circle of friends. But about 20 years ago they started fading away-one became a Jehova's Witness, one just cared about chasing women, and one I would end up arguing about politics with. Since then I just can't find people that I've become good friends with. I've always been the type that women are not interested in. In 2013 I finally found a Christian lady and we got married in 2015. But it was a disaster and after 5 years she wanted a divorce(long story there). I had to get out of her apartment and moved in with my gradmother. I've had Parkinson's for about 6 years(and other health issues). Grandma died in Dec 2023 and I live here alone now. I inherited half of her house and my cousin the other half. Lately my condition has been getting so bad I'm very limited in what I can do physically. And there's no one who can come visit me regularly to help me with things Im not able to do around the house. I have a friend and my cousin who can come over ocassionally, but they live 45 minutes and an hour away. It just seems that everyoe is SO busy today no one can help me. Even when I call my cousin or friend they don't answer and it may take days or over a week to respond to my call or text.

In the past it didn't seem too important to be a loner when my health was good and I was independent. But now grandma's passed away, my ex wife left, and it's so depressing. Seems like no one cares. I watch videos on youtube and many people say the in the USA(and many Western natons)people are ALWAYS busy and they don't hang out and things like that. There are people that have relatives that live just a few miles from each other that never visit one another. In many other countries they interact with each other much more. I don't mean to [put out all my problems out here, but I don't know what to do. I keep praying, but God just seems so distant. About a year ago I started going to a non denominational church close to me. I went to Bible study and the service many times. I met a few people, but never made friends with anyone. About 2 months ago I had to stop going because fatigue was getting so bad I couldn't be out that long before I would have go lay down for awhile. And it's so difficult to go to the grocery store 1/2 mile away and get back home before I get tired, so I started having the groceries delivered. What should I do??

I've never used the site but Bumble does have a friend match. Where people can look for like-minded friends. But what you are talking about is a struggle for a lot of people. Everyone is so busy and it has to truly be intentional for friendships to survive. Both people have to put effort in and for many they are exhausted of effort after working or family matters. I don't know the answer because I deal with it too and I'm even involved in a scouts ministry with other fathers and after 2 years still have not found others to make an effort to do anything beyond just scheduled events.

 

[keepingthingsreal]

Hi, Bill.

I can definitely relate to some of what you said. Especially the loner/lack of friends part. However, you also have health issues that I fortunately do not have, and my heart truly goes out to you. The only things that I can offer you at the moment are my prayers and a listening ear. I get that chatting online is not much of a substitute for actual in person fellowship, but I also know that it is better than nothing because it is all that I have myself at the moment.

Thank you for sharing your story with us, and, again, I am praying for you.

 

[Lynx]

Hello to all. I'm 52 and got saved in 1995. But I've always been the type that never really connected with people, even people at church. Over the past 30 years I've jumped from church to church not attending each one long. I never had many friends whether Christian or not. In the 80s and 90s I was able to keep a small circle of friends. But about 20 years ago they started fading away-one became a Jehova's Witness, one just cared about chasing women, and one I would end up arguing about politics with. Since then I just can't find people that I've become good friends with. I've always been the type that women are not interested in. In 2013 I finally found a Christian lady and we got married in 2015. But it was a disaster and after 5 years she wanted a divorce(long story there). I had to get out of her apartment and moved in with my gradmother. I've had Parkinson's for about 6 years(and other health issues). Grandma died in Dec 2023 and I live here alone now. I inherited half of her house and my cousin the other half. Lately my condition has been getting so bad I'm very limited in what I can do physically. And there's no one who can come visit me regularly to help me with things Im not able to do around the house. I have a friend and my cousin who can come over ocassionally, but they live 45 minutes and an hour away. It just seems that everyoe is SO busy today no one can help me. Even when I call my cousin or friend they don't answer and it may take days or over a week to respond to my call or text.

In the past it didn't seem too important to be a loner when my health was good and I was independent. But now grandma's passed away, my ex wife left, and it's so depressing. Seems like no one cares. I watch videos on youtube and many people say the in the USA(and many Western natons)people are ALWAYS busy and they don't hang out and things like that. There are people that have relatives that live just a few miles from each other that never visit one another. In many other countries they interact with each other much more. I don't mean to [put out all my problems out here, but I don't know what to do. I keep praying, but God just seems so distant. About a year ago I started going to a non denominational church close to me. I went to Bible study and the service many times. I met a few people, but never made friends with anyone. About 2 months ago I had to stop going because fatigue was getting so bad I couldn't be out that long before I would have go lay down for awhile. And it's so difficult to go to the grocery store 1/2 mile away and get back home before I get tired, so I started having the groceries delivered. What should I do??

Howdy and welcome to the Forum.

This is a nice start. Get involved in this forum. Start leaving comments in different threads here and there. The singles and miscellaneous forums are good places to hang out and chat.

It's not a personal friendship with somebody standing right in front of you, but it's a start. There are some pretty nice people hanging around here.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Hello to all. I'm 52 and got saved in 1995. But I've always been the type that never really connected with people, even people at church. Over the past 30 years I've jumped from church to church not attending each one long. I never had many friends whether Christian or not. In the 80s and 90s I was able to keep a small circle of friends. But about 20 years ago they started fading away-one became a Jehova's Witness, one just cared about chasing women, and one I would end up arguing about politics with. Since then I just can't find people that I've become good friends with. I've always been the type that women are not interested in. In 2013 I finally found a Christian lady and we got married in 2015. But it was a disaster and after 5 years she wanted a divorce(long story there). I had to get out of her apartment and moved in with my gradmother. I've had Parkinson's for about 6 years(and other health issues). Grandma died in Dec 2023 and I live here alone now. I inherited half of her house and my cousin the other half. Lately my condition has been getting so bad I'm very limited in what I can do physically. And there's no one who can come visit me regularly to help me with things Im not able to do around the house. I have a friend and my cousin who can come over ocassionally, but they live 45 minutes and an hour away. It just seems that everyoe is SO busy today no one can help me. Even when I call my cousin or friend they don't answer and it may take days or over a week to respond to my call or text.

In the past it didn't seem too important to be a loner when my health was good and I was independent. But now grandma's passed away, my ex wife left, and it's so depressing. Seems like no one cares. I watch videos on youtube and many people say the in the USA(and many Western natons)people are ALWAYS busy and they don't hang out and things like that. There are people that have relatives that live just a few miles from each other that never visit one another. In many other countries they interact with each other much more. I don't mean to [put out all my problems out here, but I don't know what to do. I keep praying, but God just seems so distant. About a year ago I started going to a non denominational church close to me. I went to Bible study and the service many times. I met a few people, but never made friends with anyone. About 2 months ago I had to stop going because fatigue was getting so bad I couldn't be out that long before I would have go lay down for awhile. And it's so difficult to go to the grocery store 1/2 mile away and get back home before I get tired, so I started having the groceries delivered. What should I do??

My heart goes out you. A lot of us are suffering and need to recover.
There are times in life we can help each other or need encouragement ourselves.

I wanted to add to that So, what I have done is learn from those who have seen good results in their prospective health field.
They have a lot of information available if you are willing to pray and dig for it. My choices of mentors, classes and Drs are mostly from areas that have given up on the medical /chemical model.
I'm a Nutritionist, not an MD.
That said, God provides a number of sources of information that can provide us what we need to heal.
I would specifically pray for that.

Do you have a paid membership that can PM/ Private Message? If so, send me a PM and I'll keep our discussion confidential.
If not, I'll do what I can to point you to possible help in this thread.

To your health and recovery 📖🙂👍

 

[GRACE_ambassador]

...it's so depressing. Seems like no one cares...

Precious @Bill733, I will pray for you - please Be Very Richly Encouraged And Edified
In Christ ( He Cares!), and In His Precious Word Of Truth!:

God's Grace Word for our infirmities!
+
Overcoming Depression Biblically And Naturally (Part I)
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Overcoming Depression Biblically And Naturally (Part II) (Dr Shober)

Amen.

 

[Bill733]

Howdy and welcome to the Forum.

This is a nice start. Get involved in this forum. Start leaving comments in different threads here and there. The singles and miscellaneous forums are good places to hang out and chat.

It's not a personal friendship with somebody standing right in front of you, but it's a start. There are some pretty nice people hanging around here.

Yes that's a good idea. I'll start posting here regularly. Thanks.

 

[Bill733]

My heart goes out you. A lot of us are suffering and need to recover.
There are times in life we can help each other or need encouragement ourselves.

I wanted to add to that So, what I have done is learn from those who have seen good results in their prospective health field.
They have a lot of information available if you are willing to pray and dig for it. My choices of mentors, classes and Drs are mostly from areas that have given up on the medical /chemical model.
I'm a Nutritionist, not an MD.
That said, God provides a number of sources of information that can provide us what we need to heal.
I would specifically pray for that.

Do you have a paid membership that can PM/ Private Message? If so, send me a PM and I'll keep our discussion confidential.
If not, I'll do what I can to point you to possible help in this thread.

To your health and recovery 📖🙂👍

No I don't have a paid membership at this time, but I'm going to look into it. Thanks.

 

[Bill733]

I want to say thanks for the replies and the prayers.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Hello to all. I'm 52 and got saved in 1995. But I've always been the type that never really connected with people, even people at church. Over the past 30 years I've jumped from church to church not attending each one long. I never had many friends whether Christian or not. In the 80s and 90s I was able to keep a small circle of friends. But about 20 years ago they started fading away-one became a Jehova's Witness, one just cared about chasing women, and one I would end up arguing about politics with. Since then I just can't find people that I've become good friends with. I've always been the type that women are not interested in. In 2013 I finally found a Christian lady and we got married in 2015. But it was a disaster and after 5 years she wanted a divorce(long story there). I had to get out of her apartment and moved in with my gradmother. I've had Parkinson's for about 6 years(and other health issues). Grandma died in Dec 2023 and I live here alone now. I inherited half of her house and my cousin the other half. Lately my condition has been getting so bad I'm very limited in what I can do physically. And there's no one who can come visit me regularly to help me with things Im not able to do around the house. I have a friend and my cousin who can come over ocassionally, but they live 45 minutes and an hour away. It just seems that everyoe is SO busy today no one can help me. Even when I call my cousin or friend they don't answer and it may take days or over a week to respond to my call or text.

In the past it didn't seem too important to be a loner when my health was good and I was independent. But now grandma's passed away, my ex wife left, and it's so depressing. Seems like no one cares. I watch videos on youtube and many people say the in the USA(and many Western natons)people are ALWAYS busy and they don't hang out and things like that. There are people that have relatives that live just a few miles from each other that never visit one another. In many other countries they interact with each other much more. I don't mean to [put out all my problems out here, but I don't know what to do. I keep praying, but God just seems so distant. About a year ago I started going to a non denominational church close to me. I went to Bible study and the service many times. I met a few people, but never made friends with anyone. About 2 months ago I had to stop going because fatigue was getting so bad I couldn't be out that long before I would have go lay down for awhile. And it's so difficult to go to the grocery store 1/2 mile away and get back home before I get tired, so I started having the groceries delivered. What should I do??

No worries. You don't have to get that.
In the chance you did, it would provide perhaps more opportunity to discuss details of your challenge. I want to respect your privacy. Maybe early this week I can find some information that you may find helpful. Please remind me if you haven't heard in the next couple days here.

As to getting assistance, I would call or better yet, visit your pastor where you last attended. He should understand and maybe offer helpful suggestions or maybe even a local connection. My town offers transportation to some meeting qualifications.
Perhaps the church will give you a ride and fellowship. If not, there's nothing lost for asking.

 

[Karlon]

Hello to all. I'm 52 and got saved in 1995. But I've always been the type that never really connected with people, even people at church. Over the past 30 years I've jumped from church to church not attending each one long. I never had many friends whether Christian or not. In the 80s and 90s I was able to keep a small circle of friends. But about 20 years ago they started fading away-one became a Jehova's Witness, one just cared about chasing women, and one I would end up arguing about politics with. Since then I just can't find people that I've become good friends with. I've always been the type that women are not interested in. In 2013 I finally found a Christian lady and we got married in 2015. But it was a disaster and after 5 years she wanted a divorce(long story there). I had to get out of her apartment and moved in with my gradmother. I've had Parkinson's for about 6 years(and other health issues). Grandma died in Dec 2023 and I live here alone now. I inherited half of her house and my cousin the other half. Lately my condition has been getting so bad I'm very limited in what I can do physically. And there's no one who can come visit me regularly to help me with things Im not able to do around the house. I have a friend and my cousin who can come over ocassionally, but they live 45 minutes and an hour away. It just seems that everyoe is SO busy today no one can help me. Even when I call my cousin or friend they don't answer and it may take days or over a week to respond to my call or text.

In the past it didn't seem too important to be a loner when my health was good and I was independent. But now grandma's passed away, my ex wife left, and it's so depressing. Seems like no one cares. I watch videos on youtube and many people say the in the USA(and many Western natons)people are ALWAYS busy and they don't hang out and things like that. There are people that have relatives that live just a few miles from each other that never visit one another. In many other countries they interact with each other much more. I don't mean to [put out all my problems out here, but I don't know what to do. I keep praying, but God just seems so distant. About a year ago I started going to a non denominational church close to me. I went to Bible study and the service many times. I met a few people, but never made friends with anyone. About 2 months ago I had to stop going because fatigue was getting so bad I couldn't be out that long before I would have go lay down for awhile. And it's so difficult to go to the grocery store 1/2 mile away and get back home before I get tired, so I started having the groceries delivered. What should I do??

i'm sorry to hear of your issues. i hope an answer arrives soon. don't give up praying to Jesus. Psalm 34:15- "the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous & His ears are open unto their cries". it sounds like you need a diet adjustment. more vitamins & nutrients may be the answer. have it checked. selfishness is rampant, especially in the u.s.a. as costs rise, job pay not fare, rents & mortgages increasing, people back off on friendship because they have to get out there & earn more money & take care of themselves. 1 example is small jobs needed to be done. customers have the most difficult time finding a contractor who will do a small job. & then a contractor wants $100 for half hour's work. well that's what it takes for the contractor to keep his life going. i shared some of the same problems as you my whole life. no friends, nobody liking me, family not getting along, mistreatment by women, etc. heck, we can't even find a proper teaching preaching pastor around here. they all are low level pastors. although my wife & i are in the "privileged class" of society & know a lot of people, the Christian relationship portion needs to be much better.

 

[Kireina]

We just talked to a sister in Christ. It lasted 3 hours...and she was so happy when she left the house because she said been quite a while since she last had a nice conversation with fellow believers....she said she doesn't have anyone to talk to at church... 🥲

Before she left we invited her to come back anytime for coffee or dinner or a chit-chat...

This is actually my silent prayer to be used in any way possible in the church where I am. Because there are many people out there who suffer from loneliness and feel left out.

I'll pray for you that someone comes your way and could be a friend for you 🙏 😌

 

[Karlon]

We just talked to a sister in Christ. It lasted 3 hours...and she was so happy when she left the house because she said been quite a while since she last had a nice conversation with fellow believers....she said she doesn't have anyone to talk to at church... 🥲

Before she left we invited her to come back anytime for coffee or dinner or a chit-chat...

This is actually my silent prayer to be used in any way possible in the church where I am. Because there are many people out there who suffer from loneliness and feel left out.

I'll pray for you that someone comes your way and could be a friend for you 🙏 😌

probably the top way to go for Christian fellowship, hosting a visitor.

 

[Tall_Timbers]

@Bill733, I like being alone, but I still do stuff. I'm involved in a couple of ministries where I interact with others and attend a Church home group. These kinds of things I would suggest for you. Praying for you, Bill.