I asked in Bible discussion but thought I would ask here also

[Ava2010]

If a person sins do they have to confess to someone in person or just to God, just asking because I know Catholics and maybe some other religions may have the same thing. I know if we sin against someone, we should confess to that person but if there wasn't anybody else involved do we. just wondering

 

[Magenta]

Carrying the type or degree of shame that makes you want to hide whatever it is from everyone
is not healthy... having some type of accountability partner even if only for occasional one-offs
is a good idea, but even better is to forgive yourself whatever it is, and extend to yourself the
love and forgiveness God has for you. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable with others is a gift
to all. And not to make light of whatever sins you are concerned about, but learning to laugh
at your foibles can also be invaluable. I am reminded of this from my own youth:

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be
in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career,
however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you
to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for
in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress
yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the
universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore
be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann ©1927

 

[maxwel]

Keep your private things to yourself... you don't need to confess to humans.

If you need support, or help, share things with someone you know and trust... not weird people on the internet.


Oh, and if you're a teen, and any grown men here start PMing you... report them.

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[Magenta]

If you need support, or help, share things with someone you know and trust... not weird people on the internet.

I second this for sure...

 

[enril]

Keep your private things to yourself... you don't need to confess to humans.

If you need support, or help, share things with someone you know and trust... not weird people on the internet.


Oh, and if you're a teen, and any grown men here start PMing you... report them.

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if they are being weird, not if they are trying to help

 

[Ava2010]

Keep your private things to yourself... you don't need to confess to humans.

If you need support, or help, share things with someone you know and trust... not weird people on the internet.


Oh, and if you're a teen, and any grown men here start PMing you... report them.

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Dont you like have to pay extra to PM someone I dont got money to do that so im safe

 

[keepingthingsreal]

Dont you like have to pay extra to PM someone I dont got money to do that so im safe

Hi, Ava.

You do need to pay in order to be able to initiate private conversations, but if somebody else has those privileges, then they can initiate a private conversation with you. You would see a notification number on the white envelope in the upper right hand corner of your screen if that happens.

In that sense, you are not safe. Also, just because an adult man pm's you, that does not mean that he is up to no good. In other words, there still are some godly men in this world. Anyhow, should you ever receive an out of line pm from somebody, you do have the option of reporting it to the moderators here. There is a "report" button that will appear below the pm.

 

[Ava2010]

Hi, Ava.

You do need to pay in order to be able to initiate private conversations, but if somebody else has those privileges, then they can initiate a private conversation with you. You would see a notification number on the white envelope in the upper right hand corner of your screen if that happens.

In that sense, you are not safe. Also, just because an adult man pm's you, that does not mean that he is up to no good. In other words, there still are some godly men in this world. Anyhow, should you ever receive an out of line pm from somebody, you do have the option of reporting it to the moderators here. There is a "report" button that will appear below the pm.

Ok thank you didnt know that and I will if I feel somethings wrong but honestly it would be kinda nice to chat one on one with some who shares my beliefs but if its meant to be God will let it happen but thanks so much

 

[keepingthingsreal]

Ok thank you didnt know that and I will if I feel somethings wrong but honestly it would be kinda nice to chat one on one with some who shares my beliefs but if its meant to be God will let it happen but thanks so much

You're welcome.

Just so you know, you can post messages on members' profile pages, but you have a very limited amount of characters to use when doing that. To post on anyone's profile page, you simply need to click on their avatar/profile picture, and then click on their username. That will take you to their profile page where you can make your posts. However, those posts will be public, and not private.

If you do find someone with your same beliefs, then you can always ask them if they have private messaging privileges here. If they do, then they can initiate the private conversation with you.

Btw, welcome to the forum (even though I think that I already welcomed you in the introduce yourself section of this forum).

 

[Ava2010]

You're welcome.

Just so you know, you can post messages on members' profile pages, but you have a very limited amount of characters to use when doing that. To post on anyone's profile page, you simply need to click on their avatar/profile picture, and then click on their username. That will take you to their profile page where you can make your posts. However, those posts will be public, and not private.

If you do find someone with your same beliefs, then you can always ask them if they have private messaging privileges here. If they do, then they can initiate the private conversation with you.

Btw, welcome to the forum (even though I think that I already welcomed you in the introduce yourself section of this forum).

Thank you for the information and the welcome

 

[Bingo]

Magenta shared a profound © poem with great meaning.

 

[shittim]

Many of we Christian seniors are fathers and grandfathers of young ladies and men and strive to pass on our faith and life lessons to the glory of the Father and His kingdom.
bless you Ava2010

 

[j55]

Pray only to Jesus, and confess sins only to Jesus. Hosea chapter 5. Some churches have confession booths set up, and priests practice absolution. Some churches are business, and your lucky to get two verses out of them. There are few decent churches left. As fat as forgiveness goes, it applys to Body of Christ, if they ask for forgiveness, we must forgive. Not to non believers or false brethren. There are some good shepherds here. Watch out for false brethren on this forum. They might try to lure you into there circle. No, you don't pay anyone to hear God's word. Jesus, and the apostle s always taught God's word free. Watch out for false teachers.

 

[Bingo]

Surely this may apply to many websites as the "world turns" with escalating ugliness
corruption and unabated deception from prominent sources. "Guard the heart" surely
must be adhered to with diligence.

(Misguided means something is unreasonable or unsuitable because it is based on poor judgment,
wrong information, or incorrect beliefs. It can also mean having wrong or improper goals or values.)

 

[Bingo]

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Surely this may apply to many websites as the "world turns" with escalating ugliness
corruption and unabated deception from prominent sources. "Guard the heart" surely
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(Misguided means something is unreasonable or unsuitable because it is based on poor judgment,
wrong information, or incorrect beliefs. It can also mean having wrong or improper goals or values.)

 

[keepingthingsreal]

Ok thank you didnt know that and I will if I feel somethings wrong but honestly it would be kinda nice to chat one on one with some who shares my beliefs but if its meant to be God will let it happen but thanks so much

Good morning, Ava.

You just popped into my head, and I believe that God would have me to give you a piece of brotherly advice. Should you ever engage anybody here in either private or public conversations, please refrain from giving them too much private information about yourself. Especially, do not give them your phone number or address. Although this a Christian forum, not all that glitters is gold. In other words, there is no guarantee that all of the members here are truly Christians. I am not seeking to accuse anybody here, but I have been on several other Christian forums before, and I have seen a lot of online predators there, so just be careful.

Have a blessed day.

 

[shittim]

Good morning, Ava.

You just popped into my head, and I believe that God would have me to give you a piece of brotherly advice. Should you ever engage anybody here in either private or public conversations, please refrain from giving them too much private information about yourself. Especially, do not give them your phone number or address. Although this a Christian forum, not all that glitters is gold. In other words, there is no guarantee that all of the members here are truly Christians. I am not seeking to accuse anybody here, but I have been on several other Christian forums before, and I have seen a lot of online predators there, so just be careful.

Have a blessed day.

For the purposes of the Gospel and the Kingdom, posts and pm's should be enough to learn and grow to His glory.
blessings

 

[maxwel]

. Also, just because an adult man pm's you, that does not mean that he is up to no good.

No. We need to understand the value of prudence and propriety..

There is NO REASON for any GROWN MAN to PM an underage girl.
NO REASON.


The problems:
A.) This is exactly how real predators operate, they pretend to be "good guys."
B.) Because predators pretend to be good guys, young girls MUST be wary of grown men approaching them privately.
C.) Even if the man happens to be a genuinely good guy, and he has genuinely good intentions, his act of imprudent kindness can backfire and destroy HIM.
D.) How So?
-- Very Dangerous:
All an underage girl has to do, to wreck you, is state publicly a grown man is PMing her, and making her uncomfortable - then his reputation is PERMANENTLY DESTROYED FOREVER. She could even make accusations and have him arrested. This is very dangerous stuff for a grown man. One mere accusation and you can find yourself in jail. Law enforcement is continually monitoring social media, for just such things.
-- Makes you unqualified to offer advice:
Even if the man has good intentions, the very act of such a PM would serve as verification that he's too unwise, and too imprudent, to be offering anyone advice.

A More Prudent & Careful Response:
When I want to offer advice to single women, or young women, who are new to the forum:
A.) I post my advice PUBLICLY
B.) I ask a female member to pm her, and try to help her.
C.) I have ZERO private contact. None.

Christian men need to be WISE and PRUDENT.
Good intentions are not enough.


Conclusion - Value of Prudence:
A.) I DO agree with the other things keepingthingsreal said in his post: I don't dislike him, and I don't disagree with everything he said.
B.) Good Christian men often fail to understand the extraordinary significance of prudence and propriety... because churches fail to teach this.
C.) Prudence and propriety establish a protection, a wall of safety, for BOTH PARTIES. It protects everyone.


God Bless.

.

 

[maxwel]

Continued...

Many men on CC have had ministry training, of varying kinds... and anyone with formal ministry training has been TAUGHT, EXPLICITLY, that these deferences to prudence and caution are an ABSOLUTE NECESSITY.

The things I stated above are just simple, common knowledge... they aren't new or controversial.

.

 

[NotmebutHim]

First, welcome, Ava!

Second, you don't necessarily need to confess your sin(s) to other people, unless you have sinned personally against them. In any case, you should confess all of your sin(s) to God.

A few Scripture passages to consider would be in 2 Samuel 12, Psalm 51 and Matthew 18. The first two deal with David and his sins against Bathsheba and Uriah and the third deals with Jesus' words regarding church discipline.

Hope this helps!