It s a touchy situation you have. The second one, I would worry about it first. Getting Baptized. Don’t go to your husband asking his opinion on everything. Sometimes it’s better to just as forgiveness as they say. And if he wasn’t brought up in the church, he probably is worried that he is going to lose you. Or lose his authority over you. Which might be another problem that you need to pray to God about. If you have a husband that is over controlling.
As far as Baptism, keep having the faith that you will soon get baptized, let your husband get more used to the church and everybody, and he will see that most churches arnt overbearing on people. If the church you are going to,is like that, then find one that doesn’t try to control your life and has a big to not do this… lost. Just worry isn’t now about pleasing God. But the authority umbrella s God first, then your husband. As far as the word of God goes. So you need to let him know you really want to get baptized but just tell him every so often. Get baptized like Matthew 28:19, states in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Hly Ghost. And don’t let the people in the church pressure you into doing anything you don’t feel God leading yo7 to do. He I’ll tell you more than once, and you will have a great desire to do it. We all have a purpose, God gave each of us a talent to use for Hi, he will show you as you grow. But right now you are a baby in,Christ. Drink the milk of Hos word. I very thing a preacher says it sent always right. Trust me. Know, I was a pastors wife for 38 years. As for that other church, that was just a pure disgrace. They arnt your problem, it sounds l8ke they just don’t have the love for their sanctuary and Gods house. And anyone that likes to see things fixed up would feel the same way you do. Let God take care of them, and find somewhere else to go.
Just keep praying with Faith about your husband and the baptism problem. Most of all pray he will get the desire to serve God like you have, then you can get baptized together.