Do You Keep Songs from Sad, Challenging Times/Bad Relationships in Your Playlist?

[ForgiveMeGod]

One song that i used to play all the time when relationships were annoying, THAT I CAN’T POST HERE, cause I’ll be instabanned from this website is ‘Superman’ by Eminem

 

[chunkypigs72]

Hey Everyone,

A song came on yesterday that I used to love, but it was popular during one of the most turbulent times of my life.

And I realized that even the first few notes had the effect of feeling like I was experiencing an emotional car crash, being violently thrown through the windshield, and then feeling every shard of glass piercing right through the depths of my soul.

In other words... All these years (decades) later, I still can't listen to that song.

What about you?

If a song reminds you of/is associated with a sad/traumatic event or relationship in your life, do you:

* Get rid of it immediately, never to listen to it again.

* Keep it as a reminder of lessons learned.

* Keep it in remembrance of something or someone you don't want to forget.

* Let it go for a while, but occasionally come back to see what your reaction is.

* Listen to it one last time, then let it go, or, keep it it if it no longer bothers you.


What do YOU do with songs Discover that remind you of the worst of times?

YES

 

[Lynx]

YES

Howdy chunk and welcome to the Forum.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

I don't really do playlists, I rather prefer listening to entire albums.
I don't have any songs, currently, that I can think of, I am affected by, sadness wise, anymore. Or at least not related to my past.
I do still have some songs that affect my depression, but those also tend to be a bit emotionally freeing.
I have tons of music from my teens, especially, that I enjoyed but find hard to listen to now. A lot of music from the 90s can depress me as that was a better time in my life. And it sucks knowing I'll never feel, now, how I did then. Hopeful.

 

[seoulsearch]

A lot of music from the 90s can depress me as that was a better time in my life. And it sucks knowing I'll never feel, now, how I did then. Hopeful.

Part of my heart just cracked while reading this Sub.

I am so, so sorry.

I know it must seem like little consolation after all you've been and are still going through, but over the years, I'd read your posts and pray for you.

And I still pray for you often.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

Part of my heart just cracked while reading this Sub.

I am so, so sorry.

I know it must seem like little consolation after all you've been and are still going through, but over the years, I'd read your posts and pray for you.

And I still pray for you often.

Thanks.
And I know you do, Seoul, and I do appreciate it and your commitment to continue.

 

[Sculpt]

Hey Everyone,

A song came on yesterday that I used to love, but it was popular during one of the most turbulent times of my life.

And I realized that even the first few notes had the effect of feeling like I was experiencing an emotional car crash, being violently thrown through the windshield, and then feeling every shard of glass piercing right through the depths of my soul.

In other words... All these years (decades) later, I still can't listen to that song.

What about you?

If a song reminds you of/is associated with a sad/traumatic event or relationship in your life, do you:

* Get rid of it immediately, never to listen to it again.

* Keep it as a reminder of lessons learned.

* Keep it in remembrance of something or someone you don't want to forget.

* Let it go for a while, but occasionally come back to see what your reaction is.

* Listen to it one last time, then let it go, or, keep it it if it no longer bothers you.


What do YOU do with songs that remind you of the worst of times?

LOL! That reminds me of one of my fav Olivia songs:

Olivia Newton-John - Sad Songs

Yes, there are a few songs tainted by... tainted love. They usually make me feel it right in the chest. But, I'm determined to "take them back", so to speak, over time by continuing to listen to them. They belong to the heart of the music composer and the joy they intend to bring.

 

[Sculpt]

Hey Everyone,

A song came on yesterday that I used to love, but it was popular during one of the most turbulent times of my life.

Say, what was that song?

 

[seoulsearch]

Say, what was that song?

There are several.

This particular one was from Titanic. The Song That Shall Not Be Named.

It was absolutely everywhere, for years, at the time my husband left me for his girlfriend.

Just hearing the intro makes my heart feel like the Titanic itself -- ripped in two and sinking to the bottom of the ocean.

Thanks for asking!

Now the whole stupid song is playing through my head.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

There are several.

This particular one was from Titanic. The Song That Shall Not Be Named.

It was absolutely everywhere, for years, at the time my husband left me for his girlfriend.

Just hearing the intro makes my heart feel like the Titanic itself -- ripped in two and sinking to the bottom of the ocean.

Thanks for asking!

Now the whole stupid song is playing through my head.

That same song was on my list for years too. I had no interest in the movie but my fiance did, so we went. It's the only time I ever watched that movie so I connect that song to her. The same fiance that ended up ghosting me.
It took me a long time to fully get past that relationship and hearing that song didn't help. But now I am, finally, no longer bothered by it.
It'll still make me think of her, but just as a passing memory, rather than the pain I used to feel. Though I still don't like the song haha. I doubt that'll ever change.

 

[seoulsearch]

That same song was on my list for years too. I had no interest in the movie but my fiance did, so we went. It's the only time I ever watched that movie so I connect that song to her. The same fiance that ended up ghosting me.
It took me a long time to fully get past that relationship and hearing that song didn't help. But now I am, finally, no longer bothered by it.
It'll still make me think of her, but just as a passing memory, rather than the pain I used to feel. Though I still don't like the song haha. I doubt that'll ever change.

We should start a support group.

Who knew such a cultural phenomenon would scar some of us for life!

Note to future self: Never watch or listen to mega blockbusters while thinking I'm in love or it could haunt me forever!

 

[Subhumanoidal]

We should start a support group.

Who knew such a cultural phenomenon would scar some of us for life!

Note to future self: Never watch or listen to mega blockbusters while thinking I'm in love or it could haunt me forever!

Yes. We could call it the Titanic Support Group... wait... that might give the wrong impression...

 

[Sculpt]

There are several.

This particular one was from Titanic. The Song That Shall Not Be Named.

It was absolutely everywhere, for years, at the time my husband left me for his girlfriend.

Just hearing the intro makes my heart feel like the Titanic itself -- ripped in two and sinking to the bottom of the ocean.

Thanks for asking!

Now the whole stupid song is playing through my head.

You're welcome!

Well, at least the title of the song fit the situation. Your heart did go on. Plus, that song is not a song you'd want to hear very often. It's a bit much.

 

[seoulsearch]

Say, what was that song?

This particular one was from Titanic. The Song That Shall Not Be Named. It was... at the time my husband left me for his girlfriend.Just hearing the intro makes my heart feel like the Titanic itself -- ripped in two and sinking to the bottom of the ocean. Thanks for asking!

Now the whole stupid song is playing through my head.

You're welcome! Well, at least the title of the song fit the situation. Your heart did go on. Plus, that song is not a song you'd want to hear very often. It's a bit much.

Maybe it's my own macabre sense of humor, but I found it beyond ironic that my opening post pretty much said, "Yeah, there's this particular song that causes me an immense amount of pain..."

And you bounce right in and nonchalantly ask, "Oh, what was it?!" almost gleefully.

Makes me wonder what questions you ask at funerals.

It's funny how much our emotional pain gets attached to things in pop culture. I've been even more melancholy than usual, as a movie came out a little while ago (you're probably going to ask me what it was -- The Crow) that my ex and I also had a very deep history with.
The soundtrack and even just the score was very popular, so music from the movie also causes my heart to feel shredded. Seeing thumbnails for the new movie all over YouTube when it first came out definitely had me in a deep depression for a while.

My ex looked a LOT like Brandon Lee (he used to get a lot of comments about that) and had occasionally dressed as The Crow -- I'm the one who painted his face. I was especially flattered when someone with an art background at the college we worked for told me I'd done a great job, since, being broke college students, all I had to work with was a pale foundation and black eye pencil.

People would get FREAKED OUT as to how much he looked like the movie character when all done up and dressed completely in black, and it was kind of a private joke between us. We would just glance at each other and smile, and he would nod his head as if to say, "Great work, babe."

My two biggest fears when he left were 1. that I'd always be alone; and that 2. I'd never find anyone like him. (I was young when I met him and he was an artistic, very deep thinker who had gone through the same kind of bullying I had in my life, causing me to form a very deep attachment to him -- that has apparently never left.)

So far, both of those things have come true and it looks like it's never going to change.

Yes, I know.

God is our Rock and our Comfort.

But it certainly doesn't erase all the pain.

 

[Sculpt]

Maybe it's my own macabre sense of humor, but I found it beyond ironic that my opening post pretty much said, "Yeah, there's this particular song that causes me an immense amount of pain..."

And you bounce right in and nonchalantly ask, "Oh, what was it?!" almost gleefully.

Makes me wonder what questions you ask at funerals.

It's funny how much our emotional pain gets attached to things in pop culture. I've been even more melancholy than usual, as a movie came out a little while ago (you're probably going to ask me what it was -- The Crow) that my ex and I also had a very deep history with.
The soundtrack and even just the score was very popular, so music from the movie also causes my heart to feel shredded. Seeing thumbnails for the new movie all over YouTube when it first came out definitely had me in a deep depression for a while.

My ex looked a LOT like Brandon Lee (he used to get a lot of comments about that) and had occasionally dressed as The Crow -- I'm the one who painted his face. I was especially flattered when someone with an art background at the college we worked for told me I'd done a great job, since, being broke college students, all I had to work with was a pale foundation and black eye pencil.

People would get FREAKED OUT as to how much he looked like the movie character when all done up and dressed completely in black, and it was kind of a private joke between us. We would just glance at each other and smile, and he would nod his head as if to say, "Great work, babe."

My two biggest fears when he left were 1. that I'd always be alone; and that 2. I'd never find anyone like him. (I was young when I met him and he was an artistic, very deep thinker who had gone through the same kind of bullying I had in my life, causing me to form a very deep attachment to him -- that has apparently never left.)

So far, both of those things have come true and it looks like it's never going to change.

Yes, I know.

God is our Rock and our Comfort.

But it certainly doesn't erase all the pain.

I'm sorry if my question brought you anymore pain. I tend to want to laugh, if possible, about past absurdities and pains. Sometimes a reassessment of the past, or at least a laugh, can bring closure or a little relief, sometimes not. Sometimes people bring a subject up because they want to talk about it. I'm sorry if misconstrued that. Thinking on good things and not past pain is definitely wise. I said I prayer that the Lord will comfort you in your pain.

 

[seoulsearch]

I'm sorry if my question brought you anymore pain. I tend to want to laugh, if possible, about past absurdities and pains. Sometimes a reassessment of the past, or at least a laugh, can bring closure or a little relief, sometimes not. Sometimes people bring a subject up because they want to talk about it. I'm sorry if misconstrued that. Thinking on good things and not past pain is definitely wise. I said I prayer that the Lord will comfort you in your pain.

No worries, Sculpt.

And thank you.

 

[jacko]

Hey Everyone,

A song came on yesterday that I used to love, but it was popular during one of the most turbulent times of my life.

And I realized that even the first few notes had the effect of feeling like I was experiencing an emotional car crash, being violently thrown through the windshield, and then feeling every shard of glass piercing right through the depths of my soul.

In other words... All these years (decades) later, I still can't listen to that song.

What about you?

If a song reminds you of/is associated with a sad/traumatic event or relationship in your life, do you:

* Get rid of it immediately, never to listen to it again.

* Keep it as a reminder of lessons learned.

* Keep it in remembrance of something or someone you don't want to forget.

* Let it go for a while, but occasionally come back to see what your reaction is.

* Listen to it one last time, then let it go, or, keep it it if it no longer bothers you.


What do YOU do with songs that remind you of the worst of times?

spill the beans, what is the song..??

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Hey Everyone,

A song came on yesterday that I used to love, but it was popular during one of the most turbulent times of my life.

And I realized that even the first few notes had the effect of feeling like I was experiencing an emotional car crash, being violently thrown through the windshield, and then feeling every shard of glass piercing right through the depths of my soul.

In other words... All these years (decades) later, I still can't listen to that song.

What about you?

If a song reminds you of/is associated with a sad/traumatic event or relationship in your life, do you:

* Get rid of it immediately, never to listen to it again.

* Keep it as a reminder of lessons learned.

* Keep it in remembrance of something or someone you don't want to forget.

* Let it go for a while, but occasionally come back to see what your reaction is.

* Listen to it one last time, then let it go, or, keep it it if it no longer bothers you.


What do YOU do with songs that remind you of the worst of times?

As a teenager, I thought that sad songs that I could identify with during times of depression were therapeutic. What did I know? I was just twelve. But by years of experience at the wise age of 16 I learned it was about as therapeutic as a drunk crying in his beer at a bar listening to country music.

 

[seoulsearch]

spill the beans, what is the song..??

Read post #29 and #34.

 

[jacko]

Read post #29 and #34.

Sorry to hear about what happened to you from your ex husband, Did she end up marrying that girl or is it just a fling?