Why Do You Think God Made It So That Our Hormones Seem So Hyperactive When We're Young, and Not Older or Later On In Life?

[seoulsearch]

Hey Everyone,

I happened to catch parts of a music video from a young, popular popstar, and as could be expected, the "storyline" revolved around this young lady dressing as provocatively as possible and then catching the attention of every male who walked by.

This brought to mind something I (and probably many others) have often thought about.

Why did God make it so that our hormones are so hyperactive when we're young, thereby also less experienced in life and more prone to making impulsive decisions -- instead of putting them on a bit of a time delay, maybe "springing to life" more actively when we're older, possibly more mature, and hopefully able to make better decisions?

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard Christians say they got married (and were later divorced) because they were attracted to the person at the time and wanted sex. And of course, every person who is told a million and one times that it's better to marry than to burn with passion -- but getting married is obviously no guarantee, as we then learn about all the resulting marriages that have broken up and/or are struggling with pornography and infidelity (online and/or in real life.)

I have often thought, "Wouldn't it be better if we were able to make decisions about whom we marry under more rational thought, and then have our hormones activate later on down the road, either right after we've been married or several years after we've already built a strong, loving marriage with someone that's based on everything else except just sex?"

But it just doesn't seem to be that way, and that gets pretty discouraging.

I don't mean this to be any kind of absolute question with any absolute answers. It's more of a thinking exercise and discussion than anything that can be truly answered in this life. I've often wondered what it would have been like if Adam and Eve would have never sinned -- I'm assuming they would have stayed married -- and would have been satisfied to be married to only one another, literally, forever. But since the fall, the Bible now says that in heaven, people will no longer marry or be given in marriage.

I don't know (and I don't think anyone really knows) what true extent the fall of humankind had on human hormones, biological function, and sexual interest. And I'm certainly not trying to say that older people don't struggle with the influence of hormones and sexual feelings, either. I just read a recent devotional in which a pastor was surprised to learn that men in their 70's (in the men's group he led) confessed to still wrestle with lust.

All I'm saying is that I wonder why God didn't choose to delay some of our struggles to a point in life where we just might be at a place of making more mature decisions.

And I don't think there are any true absolute answers to these questions either way, at least not until we're in heaven and can ask God about these things ourselves (and at that point, I'm sure it won't even matter.)

But yet, I still ponder such things.

And I'm sure others do as well.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

 

[Lynx]

I have heard many comedians talk about this. Sometimes people have children later in life, and apparently after a certain point you no longer have the energy to keep up with the kid.

The comedians all say they believe people have such a strong drive to have kids young because they still have the energy to raise them. If you have a kid when you're 40, you have that kid until you're 58... Can you imagine trying to keep up with a teenager at 57?

 

[Susanna]

I had a kid when I was young. Couldn’t have done it later. She was a grown woman when I was 37 and that was great!

 

[Talljake]

I'd have to agree with lynx.

We also are to multiply, so maybe we have those stronger hormones to multiply and have the energy as well as a longer life span to raise our children. Then as well it gives us a chance to see our grandchildren.

If we had children in our early 20s and the Lord allowed us to live around 100.... We would have a chance to meet our great great grandchildren. That's crazy lol

 

[Talljake]

And by longer life span I mean as in more time to spend with our children.

 

[seoulsearch]

Very interesting thoughts about some of the hormone surges being correlated to having kids at an early age. When I was in high school, I thought I'd be married very young like my parents and have 4 kids by the time I was about 25. That obviously didn't pan out. But yes, my logic was very similar to the thoughts expressed in these posts -- I wanted to be young enough to enjoy an active life with kids and eventually their kids.

I'm always intrigued by the variety of people's experiences and responses. I've heard some say they enjoyed early parenthood, some who regretted it; some people who didn't like becoming parents later in life, and some who found mature parenthood a blessing because they said they were much more patient, as well as financially stable for their kids.

One of the things that also inspired my thoughts for this thread was a recent Discord discussion about a country that is apparently lowering the "legal age of consent" from 12 -- to a mere 9 years old -- so that men of any age, but especially those of advanced ages, would have the right to legally "marry" children.

Now I've read that in Biblical times, Mary, the mother of Jesus, was likely only around 13 years old herself, and it was considered normal at that time. I've read some accounts saying that Joseph could have been anywhere from in his teens or 20's to up to 90 years old, but no one will truly knows.

However, times have changed, and "marrying" off such a young child is deplorable, at least to me.

So something else I was thinking about was what if God had made it so that neither boys nor girls could biologically reproduce until say, age 19. At least no one could argue that the reason they want to have sex with 12- or 9-year-old child was because they wanted an heir, and I would hope it would cut down on at least some of the socially legalized sexual assault of children. Of course, there will always be people who have perverse desires and it won't stop everyone, but one could at least hope there would at least be less of a platform to make such crimes "legal."

However, that's just me.

I don't know what things might have been like if humankind had never fallen into sin, but I'm sure that even with things being as twisted as they are now, God has some kind of plan to redeem it all in the end.

These are just some things I occasionally ponder and talk to God about, and I was wondering if anyone else does, too.

 

[seoulsearch]

Very interesting thoughts about some of the hormone surges being correlated to having kids at an early age. When I was in high school, I thought I'd be married very young like my parents and have 4 kids by the time I was about 25. That obviously didn't pan out. But yes, my logic was very similar to the thoughts expressed in these posts -- I wanted to be young enough to enjoy an active life with kids and eventually their kids.

I'm always intrigued by the variety of people's experiences and responses. I've heard some say they enjoyed early parenthood, some who regretted it; some people who didn't like becoming parents later in life, and some who found mature parenthood a blessing because they said they were much more patient, as well as financially stable for their kids.

One of the things that also inspired my thoughts for this thread was a recent Discord discussion about a country that is apparently lowering the "legal age of consent" from 12 -- to a mere 9 years old -- so that men of any age, but especially those of advanced ages, would have the right to legally "marry" children.

Now I've read that in Biblical times, Mary, the mother of Jesus, was likely only around 13 years old herself, and it was considered normal at that time. I've read some accounts saying that Joseph could have been anywhere from in his teens or 20's to up to 90 years old, but no one will truly knows.

However, times have changed, and "marrying" off such a young child is deplorable, at least to me.

So something else I was thinking about was what if God had made it so that neither boys nor girls could biologically reproduce until say, age 19. At least no one could argue that the reason they want to have sex with 12- or 9-year-old child was because they wanted an heir, and I would hope it would cut down on at least some of the socially legalized sexual assault of children. Of course, there will always be people who have perverse desires and it won't stop everyone, but one could at least hope there would at least be less of a platform to make such crimes "legal."

However, that's just me.

I don't know what things might have been like if humankind had never fallen into sin, but I'm sure that even with things being as twisted as they are now, God has some kind of plan to redeem it all in the end.

These are just some things I occasionally ponder and talk to God about, and I was wondering if anyone else does, too.

Disclaimer: I apologize for using the (prepositional) phrase "at least" so many times in this post.

I haven't slept much the last few days, and it's obviously starting to show, lol.

Many thanks for your pardons in advance.

 

[Lynx]

Disclaimer: I apologize for using the (prepositional) phrase "at least" so many times in this post.

I haven't slept much the last few days, and it's obviously starting to show, lol.

Many thanks for your pardons in advance.

Well... "At least" you apologized.

 

[Lynx]

I remember this one comedian saying he envied 16-year-old mothers, because they have it all figured out. Get the having a kid part knocked out early, then you're 34 and free as a bird again.

 

[SaysWhat]

There are cl

I'd have to agree with lynx.

We also are to multiply, so maybe we have those stronger hormones to multiply and have the energy as well as a longer life span to raise our children. Then as well it gives us a chance to see our grandchildren.

If we had children in our early 20s and the Lord allowed us to live around 100.... We would have a chance to meet our great great grandchildren. That's crazy lol

Imagine living to 500 years old in today's times. The earth would be extremely populated. It's kind of large already at 8 Billion, I don't think it could support such a mass of people living for hundreds of years.

 

[Gideon300]

Hey Everyone,

I happened to catch parts of a music video from a young, popular popstar, and as could be expected, the "storyline" revolved around this young lady dressing as provocatively as possible and then catching the attention of every male who walked by.

This brought to mind something I (and probably many others) have often thought about.

Why did God make it so that our hormones are so hyperactive when we're young, thereby also less experienced in life and more prone to making impulsive decisions -- instead of putting them on a bit of a time delay, maybe "springing to life" more actively when we're older, possibly more mature, and hopefully able to make better decisions?

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard Christians say they got married (and were later divorced) because they were attracted to the person at the time and wanted sex. And of course, every person who is told a million and one times that it's better to marry than to burn with passion -- but getting married is obviously no guarantee, as we then learn about all the resulting marriages that have broken up and/or are struggling with pornography and infidelity (online and/or in real life.)

I have often thought, "Wouldn't it be better if we were able to make decisions about whom we marry under more rational thought, and then have our hormones activate later on down the road, either right after we've been married or several years after we've already built a strong, loving marriage with someone that's based on everything else except just sex?"

But it just doesn't seem to be that way, and that gets pretty discouraging.

I don't mean this to be any kind of absolute question with any absolute answers. It's more of a thinking exercise and discussion than anything that can be truly answered in this life. I've often wondered what it would have been like if Adam and Eve would have never sinned -- I'm assuming they would have stayed married -- and would have been satisfied to be married to only one another, literally, forever. But since the fall, the Bible now says that in heaven, people will no longer marry or be given in marriage.

I don't know (and I don't think anyone really knows) what true extent the fall of humankind had on human hormones, biological function, and sexual interest. And I'm certainly not trying to say that older people don't struggle with the influence of hormones and sexual feelings, either. I just read a recent devotional in which a pastor was surprised to learn that men in their 70's (in the men's group he led) confessed to still wrestle with lust.

All I'm saying is that I wonder why God didn't choose to delay some of our struggles to a point in life where we just might be at a place of making more mature decisions.

And I don't think there are any true absolute answers to these questions either way, at least not until we're in heaven and can ask God about these things ourselves (and at that point, I'm sure it won't even matter.)

But yet, I still ponder such things.

And I'm sure others do as well.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

We are not how God created us. I don't know why anyone would imagine that we are. God created Adam and Eve "Good". There was no sin in them to destroy their bodies. Even after they sinned, Adam lived for over 900 years. The sinful nature corrupts mankind.

Mankind rejected God, even though they knew Him. This continued after the flood. God's judgement was not what people imagine to to be. God simply gave people over to do what was in their hearts. Romans 1 traces this downward spiral.

Some ignorant people imagine that the first 11 chapters of Genesis are mythology or a series of parables. That is not supported by the original text or by lived experience. God's word is just that. Any problems are with our understanding, not with God's word.

 

[ValleyAnt]

Hey Everyone,

I happened to catch parts of a music video from a young, popular popstar, and as could be expected, the "storyline" revolved around this young lady dressing as provocatively as possible and then catching the attention of every male who walked by.

This brought to mind something I (and probably many others) have often thought about.

Why did God make it so that our hormones are so hyperactive when we're young, thereby also less experienced in life and more prone to making impulsive decisions -- instead of putting them on a bit of a time delay, maybe "springing to life" more actively when we're older, possibly more mature, and hopefully able to make better decisions?

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard Christians say they got married (and were later divorced) because they were attracted to the person at the time and wanted sex. And of course, every person who is told a million and one times that it's better to marry than to burn with passion -- but getting married is obviously no guarantee, as we then learn about all the resulting marriages that have broken up and/or are struggling with pornography and infidelity (online and/or in real life.)

I have often thought, "Wouldn't it be better if we were able to make decisions about whom we marry under more rational thought, and then have our hormones activate later on down the road, either right after we've been married or several years after we've already built a strong, loving marriage with someone that's based on everything else except just sex?"

But it just doesn't seem to be that way, and that gets pretty discouraging.

I don't mean this to be any kind of absolute question with any absolute answers. It's more of a thinking exercise and discussion than anything that can be truly answered in this life. I've often wondered what it would have been like if Adam and Eve would have never sinned -- I'm assuming they would have stayed married -- and would have been satisfied to be married to only one another, literally, forever. But since the fall, the Bible now says that in heaven, people will no longer marry or be given in marriage.

I don't know (and I don't think anyone really knows) what true extent the fall of humankind had on human hormones, biological function, and sexual interest. And I'm certainly not trying to say that older people don't struggle with the influence of hormones and sexual feelings, either. I just read a recent devotional in which a pastor was surprised to learn that men in their 70's (in the men's group he led) confessed to still wrestle with lust.

All I'm saying is that I wonder why God didn't choose to delay some of our struggles to a point in life where we just might be at a place of making more mature decisions.

And I don't think there are any true absolute answers to these questions either way, at least not until we're in heaven and can ask God about these things ourselves (and at that point, I'm sure it won't even matter.)

But yet, I still ponder such things.

And I'm sure others do as well.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

I saw this thread and stopped by to say just one thing: great question.

 

[Talljake]

There are cl

Imagine living to 500 years old in today's times. The earth would be extremely populated. It's kind of large already at 8 Billion, I don't think it could support such a mass of people living for hundreds of years.

500yrs.....I'm good lol. I don't think I'd want to live that long. I'm 36 now and I can't imagine going on for another 464 yrs lol. Id turn into one of the old timers whos chasing all the kids with a cane for stepping on my grass lol jk

 

[Magenta]

Why Do You Think God Made It So That Our Hormones Seem So Hyperactive When We're Young

What are your thoughts on the matter?

It may be that young people are naive and think love lasts forever, so they try
to make it so. Ugh. Haha. That sounds awful even to my jaded cynical self LOL.
But I think there may be some truth to the axiom that first loves cut deeper.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Hey Everyone,

I happened to catch parts of a music video from a young, popular popstar, and as could be expected, the "storyline" revolved around this young lady dressing as provocatively as possible and then catching the attention of every male who walked by.

This brought to mind something I (and probably many others) have often thought about.

Why did God make it so that our hormones are so hyperactive when we're young, thereby also less experienced in life and more prone to making impulsive decisions -- instead of putting them on a bit of a time delay, maybe "springing to life" more actively when we're older, possibly more mature, and hopefully able to make better decisions?

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard Christians say they got married (and were later divorced) because they were attracted to the person at the time and wanted sex. And of course, every person who is told a million and one times that it's better to marry than to burn with passion -- but getting married is obviously no guarantee, as we then learn about all the resulting marriages that have broken up and/or are struggling with pornography and infidelity (online and/or in real life.)

I have often thought, "Wouldn't it be better if we were able to make decisions about whom we marry under more rational thought, and then have our hormones activate later on down the road, either right after we've been married or several years after we've already built a strong, loving marriage with someone that's based on everything else except just sex?"

But it just doesn't seem to be that way, and that gets pretty discouraging.

I don't mean this to be any kind of absolute question with any absolute answers. It's more of a thinking exercise and discussion than anything that can be truly answered in this life. I've often wondered what it would have been like if Adam and Eve would have never sinned -- I'm assuming they would have stayed married -- and would have been satisfied to be married to only one another, literally, forever. But since the fall, the Bible now says that in heaven, people will no longer marry or be given in marriage.

I don't know (and I don't think anyone really knows) what true extent the fall of humankind had on human hormones, biological function, and sexual interest. And I'm certainly not trying to say that older people don't struggle with the influence of hormones and sexual feelings, either. I just read a recent devotional in which a pastor was surprised to learn that men in their 70's (in the men's group he led) confessed to still wrestle with lust.

All I'm saying is that I wonder why God didn't choose to delay some of our struggles to a point in life where we just might be at a place of making more mature decisions.

And I don't think there are any true absolute answers to these questions either way, at least not until we're in heaven and can ask God about these things ourselves (and at that point, I'm sure it won't even matter.)

But yet, I still ponder such things.

And I'm sure others do as well.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

Because we're supposed to bear children when we're young, and not so much when we're old. Young people have the energy and stamina to raise cute little wee people. As we age we lose muscle mass and our bodies don't produce or absorb nutrients like it used to.

 

[MeowFlower]

Hey Everyone,

I happened to catch parts of a music video from a young, popular popstar, and as could be expected, the "storyline" revolved around this young lady dressing as provocatively as possible and then catching the attention of every male who walked by.

This brought to mind something I (and probably many others) have often thought about.

Why did God make it so that our hormones are so hyperactive when we're young, thereby also less experienced in life and more prone to making impulsive decisions -- instead of putting them on a bit of a time delay, maybe "springing to life" more actively when we're older, possibly more mature, and hopefully able to make better decisions?

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard Christians say they got married (and were later divorced) because they were attracted to the person at the time and wanted sex. And of course, every person who is told a million and one times that it's better to marry than to burn with passion -- but getting married is obviously no guarantee, as we then learn about all the resulting marriages that have broken up and/or are struggling with pornography and infidelity (online and/or in real life.)

I have often thought, "Wouldn't it be better if we were able to make decisions about whom we marry under more rational thought, and then have our hormones activate later on down the road, either right after we've been married or several years after we've already built a strong, loving marriage with someone that's based on everything else except just sex?"

But it just doesn't seem to be that way, and that gets pretty discouraging.

I don't mean this to be any kind of absolute question with any absolute answers. It's more of a thinking exercise and discussion than anything that can be truly answered in this life. I've often wondered what it would have been like if Adam and Eve would have never sinned -- I'm assuming they would have stayed married -- and would have been satisfied to be married to only one another, literally, forever. But since the fall, the Bible now says that in heaven, people will no longer marry or be given in marriage.

I don't know (and I don't think anyone really knows) what true extent the fall of humankind had on human hormones, biological function, and sexual interest. And I'm certainly not trying to say that older people don't struggle with the influence of hormones and sexual feelings, either. I just read a recent devotional in which a pastor was surprised to learn that men in their 70's (in the men's group he led) confessed to still wrestle with lust.

All I'm saying is that I wonder why God didn't choose to delay some of our struggles to a point in life where we just might be at a place of making more mature decisions.

And I don't think there are any true absolute answers to these questions either way, at least not until we're in heaven and can ask God about these things ourselves (and at that point, I'm sure it won't even matter.)

But yet, I still ponder such things.

And I'm sure others do as well.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

When women are young and fertile they're able to continue reproducing our species and nursing their offspring from their own bodies. They have the energy to be a mom. And the family lines continue through her into the future.

Males seed can continue to reproduce even when they are much older than the woman. Again,this is so our species is able to continue reproducing.

Women lose sexual drive often after menopause because the reproductive system is receded. Not all women lose sexual drive after menopause however.

 

[ForgiveMeGod]

Hey Everyone,

I happened to catch parts of a music video from a young, popular popstar, and as could be expected, the "storyline" revolved around this young lady dressing as provocatively as possible and then catching the attention of every male who walked by.

This brought to mind something I (and probably many others) have often thought about.

Why did God make it so that our hormones are so hyperactive when we're young, thereby also less experienced in life and more prone to making impulsive decisions -- instead of putting them on a bit of a time delay, maybe "springing to life" more actively when we're older, possibly more mature, and hopefully able to make better decisions?

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard Christians say they got married (and were later divorced) because they were attracted to the person at the time and wanted sex. And of course, every person who is told a million and one times that it's better to marry than to burn with passion -- but getting married is obviously no guarantee, as we then learn about all the resulting marriages that have broken up and/or are struggling with pornography and infidelity (online and/or in real life.)

I have often thought, "Wouldn't it be better if we were able to make decisions about whom we marry under more rational thought, and then have our hormones activate later on down the road, either right after we've been married or several years after we've already built a strong, loving marriage with someone that's based on everything else except just sex?"

But it just doesn't seem to be that way, and that gets pretty discouraging.

I don't mean this to be any kind of absolute question with any absolute answers. It's more of a thinking exercise and discussion than anything that can be truly answered in this life. I've often wondered what it would have been like if Adam and Eve would have never sinned -- I'm assuming they would have stayed married -- and would have been satisfied to be married to only one another, literally, forever. But since the fall, the Bible now says that in heaven, people will no longer marry or be given in marriage.

I don't know (and I don't think anyone really knows) what true extent the fall of humankind had on human hormones, biological function, and sexual interest. And I'm certainly not trying to say that older people don't struggle with the influence of hormones and sexual feelings, either. I just read a recent devotional in which a pastor was surprised to learn that men in their 70's (in the men's group he led) confessed to still wrestle with lust.

All I'm saying is that I wonder why God didn't choose to delay some of our struggles to a point in life where we just might be at a place of making more mature decisions.

And I don't think there are any true absolute answers to these questions either way, at least not until we're in heaven and can ask God about these things ourselves (and at that point, I'm sure it won't even matter.)

But yet, I still ponder such things.

And I'm sure others do as well.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

I think when the right person comes into your life, that he has a way of igniting the flame. it’s not even a lust or idolatry thing. Just got to run from sexual immorality, such as being in the same room alone or sometimes leaving even in a text or phone conversation.

They don’t say God’s perfect timing for nothing.

Just make sure to guard your heart by setting boundaries.

If I never got a therapist a year ago, I would have never learned how to create boundaries. Highly recommend.

Not only do you guard your heart by setting boundaries but people learn to respect you when you set boundaries. You get more time with God and people, who are usually a drain on your energy, have to wait their turn.

if the person is able to respect your boundaries and your time with God, without straying, they are worth marrying.

i have spent the last ten years by myself and I’ve learned a lot being alone. Most of the time, I prefer being alone…and then, sometimes I catch myself on Christian dating apps or even worse, worldly dating apps, and I just have stop myself, and focus either of Christian activities or making music.

Story of my life….

 

[keepingthingsreal]

When I ponder that both males and females normally hit puberty in their early teens (by God's original design?), and when I ponder that many cultures have coming-of-age ceremonies where children pass to an adult status in their early teens, I wonder if the problem is not really with the parents of these teens, and not with the teens themselves. In other words, if, by God's original design, he created males and females with the ability to reproduce in their early teens, then maybe parents are failing to properly prepare their children for adulthood and parenthood which might truly begin in their early teen years.

Of course, when I have expressed such ponderings elsewhere in the past, I have immediately had my head torn off by those who wrongly link my ponderings to some sort of advocation for the sexual abuse of teens, but that is not what I am talking about at all.

 

[seoulsearch]

It may be that young people are naive and think love lasts forever, so they try
to make it so. Ugh. Haha. That sounds awful even to my jaded cynical self LOL.
But I think there may be some truth to the axiom that first loves cut deeper.

I think there is a lot of truth to this.

After all, people are always saying, "If I could go back in time..." -- there are a ton of things they say they'd do differently.

I think most everyone has something they would change if they hadn't jumped in while they are young and naive.

I'm also sure though that everyone here believes that even our most naive and ignorant choices can be used for God's plans. ❤️

 

[seoulsearch]

I saw this thread and stopped by to say just one thing: great question.

Thanks so much!