May I ask you a sincere question?
How can you claim that Adam's placement over Eve is a remnant of the curse of the law in the light of the following?
Eph 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Eph 5:26
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Eph 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Eph 5:30
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Eph 5:31
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Eph 5:32
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Eph 5:33
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife
see that she reverence
her husband.
Here, Paul called the husband and wife relationship
a great mystery in that it was originally ordained to show the relationship of Christ and his church to the world, and it was ordained before sin ever entered into the world. How then is this allegedly
a remnant of the curse of the law?
Let me pause for a moment to quickly address the massive elephant in the room.
From what I see in scripture, a husband, as the head of his own wife, is called to lay his life down for her as Christ laid his life down for the church while nourishing and cherishing her as his own flesh. In other words, this headship is not a matter of "Hey, Babe! I am the king of this castle! Now, go and make me a sandwich!" Instead, it is a man having to demonstrate the most sacrificial type of love to his own wife that this world has ever known or that which mimics Christ's sacrificial love for his church. That is a tall order. I am not married, but if I was, then I would wish that I had been born a woman as opposed to being the man that I am. Why? Because the wife has it much easier in the marriage relationship in that she needs to revere her husband who is sacrificially and selflessly laying his life down for her. Granted, a wife will have to make sacrifices of her own, and especially if children become a part of the equation, but God place more accountability upon the husband as the head.
I think that these types of conversations go astray quickly because of a wrong understanding of what headship entails. It is not abusive dominance, but sacrificial selflessness instead. Are there many cases of abuse? Unfortunately, there are, but this is not what God sanctioned, and I am certainly not sanctioning the same here either. Abuses aside, we should not throw out the proverbial baby with the bathwater. In other words, there still is God-ordained authority within the confines of a marriage, and if followed properly, no women will be abused.