You are not looking at the full context of Paul's letter and the narrative that is seen throughout the whole Epistle.
The word Perfect in 1corinthians chapter 13 has no context without what is said below it, above, and throughout the book. Face to face
And if you read verse 12
For now, we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
They Perfect means mature in the Greek; the word is teleios
We see the work used in chapter two of 1Corthians verse 4-6
What is the perfect that is or has come? You don’t make that assumption in that one verse. We must read on and see if there is more said. Yes, there is. Verse 12 says
. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
Face to face is saying:
Prosōpon “the front of the human head” or person
“BUT Then I shall know” (epiginōskō ) by sight, hearing, of certain signs, to perceive who a person is
“even as I am known” to become thoroughly acquainted with, to know thoroughly.
Clearly, that which is perfect has not yet come. Or Paul would not have continued in chapter 14 about gifts that should have stopped.
Clearly you miss the point. The "Perfect" is not masculine. It would have been very easy for Paul to write "but when the Christ comes", but he did not.
The context is not Christ, the context is knowledge and prophecy. At the time of writing these things were imperfect, ie. not complete. When did these things become complete? For knowledge and prophecy? When John wrote Revelation and as it was disseminated those gifts gradually faded out just as Paul said. The word used is
katargēthēsontai is means to fade away, to die out gradually. Tongues, on the other hand uses the word
pausontai which means to stop suddenly and that happened at 70AD when the warning (which was the purpose of tongues), that Israel was rejecting it's Messiah, had ended. Tongues are for unbelievers.
The text says, at the time Paul wrote, the knowledge and prophetic utterance regarding this new way which Christ had established, was still partial but when these things are complete, then they will be done away with. To read it any other way, one must force into it a commentary that is not there.
1Cor.13:8-10
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
I understand you don't want to believe because you have a vested interest in speaking in tongues. You think you will be robbed of something if you give it away. I assure you, their use is holding you back.