.
If you're a young Catholic person considering a vocation in the Church, I
strongly urge you to avoid getting to it right out of high school. Give yourself
a chance to grow up first; especially seeing as how the new 21 is around 26
these days.
My reason for this is because too many young novices are starry-eyed and
don't know yet just how unpleasant it is to live with perpetual sexual
frustration.
Also; God stated in the very beginning that it is not good for men to live solo
without a woman for companionship. And if so, then it must also not be good
for women to go it alone.
In Shaunti Feldhahn's book "For Women Only" (ISBN 1-59052-317-2) she
relates a survey taken among segregated groups of men and women with
this question:
"Given a choice; would you rather be disrespected, or would you rather be
alone and unloved in the world?"
Just about every one of the ladies chose disrespect over living alone and
unloved in the world and that's obviously because mankind's creator didn't
wire Eve to function solo; no, she was wired to be with a man; in a couple's
relationship.
Another example: some time ago, a Catholic priest here in Oregon broke his
vows and quit the vocation to get married after serving the Church more
than 30 years because he could endure gender segregation no longer. He
wasn't especially looking to get bedded, he was just plain lonely and wanted
very much to be with somebody; which is exactly how normal guys came out
of the box via intelligent design.
Back when I and my siblings were youngsters, my sister dated a guy who
dropped out of seminary because he came to the realization early-on that
there was just no way he could ever manage to suppress his natural
impulses forever without risking a nervous breakdown.
My point is: celibacy isn't everyone's cup of tea and no one should allow
themselves to be pressured into it against their feelings, their conscience,
and/or their better judgment.
_
If you're a young Catholic person considering a vocation in the Church, I
strongly urge you to avoid getting to it right out of high school. Give yourself
a chance to grow up first; especially seeing as how the new 21 is around 26
these days.
My reason for this is because too many young novices are starry-eyed and
don't know yet just how unpleasant it is to live with perpetual sexual
frustration.
Also; God stated in the very beginning that it is not good for men to live solo
without a woman for companionship. And if so, then it must also not be good
for women to go it alone.
In Shaunti Feldhahn's book "For Women Only" (ISBN 1-59052-317-2) she
relates a survey taken among segregated groups of men and women with
this question:
"Given a choice; would you rather be disrespected, or would you rather be
alone and unloved in the world?"
Just about every one of the ladies chose disrespect over living alone and
unloved in the world and that's obviously because mankind's creator didn't
wire Eve to function solo; no, she was wired to be with a man; in a couple's
relationship.
Another example: some time ago, a Catholic priest here in Oregon broke his
vows and quit the vocation to get married after serving the Church more
than 30 years because he could endure gender segregation no longer. He
wasn't especially looking to get bedded, he was just plain lonely and wanted
very much to be with somebody; which is exactly how normal guys came out
of the box via intelligent design.
Back when I and my siblings were youngsters, my sister dated a guy who
dropped out of seminary because he came to the realization early-on that
there was just no way he could ever manage to suppress his natural
impulses forever without risking a nervous breakdown.
My point is: celibacy isn't everyone's cup of tea and no one should allow
themselves to be pressured into it against their feelings, their conscience,
and/or their better judgment.
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