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Porn does, indeed, have devastating effects.
Accountability is one key factor in overcoming sexual immorality.
Covenant Eyes is a resource I encourage you to consider.
Accountability is one key factor in overcoming sexual immorality.
Covenant Eyes is a resource I encourage you to consider.
First, you aren't alone. The devil knows your weakness and will hit you every time, then make you feel guilty for giving in. If you have someone you can trust who can pray you through, or someone here of your same sex. I think a good thing to think on, and you can find documentaries on this, is a lot of these women are abused in that industry. Many are being sex trafficked and are drugged and doing this against their will. So maybe if you look at the bigger picture and realize these people are not enjoying the acts they are performing. Some of them are so high they don't even know what they are doing. Now think if it was a female friend of yours. How would you feel? You'd want to protect her from that abuse. You see the devil can twist things in our minds and make something look like it's something it's not. Movies and media they play a lot on sex, any sex you'd want, any fantasy to fill your desire, but the don't show the broken, helpless, hopeless person on the other side.
In the end, don't beat yourself up. It's a tactic the devil uses. Sex and desire is a temptation for pretty much everyone. But unless it's within God's loving rules, it will turn to ashes. It will be harder when you have a real partner, especially if you are still having issues with porn. Pray it though, ask a friend if you can to help, try to keep you mind busy on other things. Pay attention to when you feel the most tempted and go out with a friend, go for a walk, it may sound silly but little by little the devil will lose his hold. We all fight some kind of temptation, the devil is seeking to devour us. But when we see his trick and give in less and less, he loses his hold. I hope you find help. Blessings.
In the end, don't beat yourself up. It's a tactic the devil uses. Sex and desire is a temptation for pretty much everyone. But unless it's within God's loving rules, it will turn to ashes. It will be harder when you have a real partner, especially if you are still having issues with porn. Pray it though, ask a friend if you can to help, try to keep you mind busy on other things. Pay attention to when you feel the most tempted and go out with a friend, go for a walk, it may sound silly but little by little the devil will lose his hold. We all fight some kind of temptation, the devil is seeking to devour us. But when we see his trick and give in less and less, he loses his hold. I hope you find help. Blessings.
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Porn can be literally addictive, the same as cigarettes, drugs or alcohol. Therefore you need to treat it like an addiction. Trying to simply will yourself out of it isn't often successful.
Sometimes educating yourself on the facts of porn can be an aid to overcoming it.
One major one is that the porn industry is tied in to the world human sex trafficking organizations. These are the ones that kidnap or trick mostly women, but also lots of young children and teens, to be sold or rented as sex slaves.
These people can be chained up and forced to have sex, and even treated violently, some to the point of torture. So that the people that "own" them can make money. This can go as low in age as babies. That's what porn supports. Also some porn is made using these sex slaves.
For porn itself and how it behaves behind the scenes, not always much better.
One common tactic is advertising for modeling shoots. Often college age girls will show up, usually flying to a city they don't know, just to find out these men are actually making porn.
They'll give her drugs to make her easier to control and manipulate, start a photoshoot like normal. Gradually convince/pressure her into taking nudes photos. Often times they're so fearful, because there are always big, scary looking men to intimidate them into compliance.
Once those are taken they tell her she needs to film herself having sex with one of the men in the room. And if she refuses they blackmail her with the nudes photos they just took. Threatening to release them to her friends and family. Some give in at this point. Those that don't may be threatened physically or even hit.
When they give in what basically occurs is rape. She's expected to show compliance and enjoyment on screen. Then afterwards film a video stating that her part in the video was her own will, and that she was not coerced in any way to be in it. Then they kick them out of the room, sometimes days later, and post her videos on porn sites.
More info like this can be found on fightthenewdrug.org
They show evidences of the negative effects of porn, share the testimonies of former porn workers, prostitutes, sex trafficked individuals, etc... into what really goes on behind the scenes. Usually sharing their personal experiences. It can add quite a bit of motivation to overcome this addiction when you learn how evil the industry is, besides the obvious.
Of course that's only one helpful component and not a fix. So unless God decides to directly intervene and free you, then you will have to be active in your attempts to overcome this. Educate yourself on the matter.
One thing I've learned is when having something to overcome, learn more about it. Learn what's true and what's not. It's great ammunition in your fight.
Sometimes educating yourself on the facts of porn can be an aid to overcoming it.
One major one is that the porn industry is tied in to the world human sex trafficking organizations. These are the ones that kidnap or trick mostly women, but also lots of young children and teens, to be sold or rented as sex slaves.
These people can be chained up and forced to have sex, and even treated violently, some to the point of torture. So that the people that "own" them can make money. This can go as low in age as babies. That's what porn supports. Also some porn is made using these sex slaves.
For porn itself and how it behaves behind the scenes, not always much better.
One common tactic is advertising for modeling shoots. Often college age girls will show up, usually flying to a city they don't know, just to find out these men are actually making porn.
They'll give her drugs to make her easier to control and manipulate, start a photoshoot like normal. Gradually convince/pressure her into taking nudes photos. Often times they're so fearful, because there are always big, scary looking men to intimidate them into compliance.
Once those are taken they tell her she needs to film herself having sex with one of the men in the room. And if she refuses they blackmail her with the nudes photos they just took. Threatening to release them to her friends and family. Some give in at this point. Those that don't may be threatened physically or even hit.
When they give in what basically occurs is rape. She's expected to show compliance and enjoyment on screen. Then afterwards film a video stating that her part in the video was her own will, and that she was not coerced in any way to be in it. Then they kick them out of the room, sometimes days later, and post her videos on porn sites.
More info like this can be found on fightthenewdrug.org
They show evidences of the negative effects of porn, share the testimonies of former porn workers, prostitutes, sex trafficked individuals, etc... into what really goes on behind the scenes. Usually sharing their personal experiences. It can add quite a bit of motivation to overcome this addiction when you learn how evil the industry is, besides the obvious.
Of course that's only one helpful component and not a fix. So unless God decides to directly intervene and free you, then you will have to be active in your attempts to overcome this. Educate yourself on the matter.
One thing I've learned is when having something to overcome, learn more about it. Learn what's true and what's not. It's great ammunition in your fight.
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I think it is hard to stop looking at porn if the focus is to stop look at it. Also I don't think to replace it with something else is the only solution. Its good to replace it with something else but if that something else is only for a reason to not look at porn it will not help in long term. The focus must be see and change the root the problem not the problem it self.
If you have YouVersion Bible app I can recommend this reading plan
https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/24127-winning-the-war-in-your-mind
It is also available on web.
One other tip I have is top be social with friends and I would say christian friends if you have.
If you have YouVersion Bible app I can recommend this reading plan
https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/24127-winning-the-war-in-your-mind
It is also available on web.
One other tip I have is top be social with friends and I would say christian friends if you have.
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yeah. I did some thought, and I think, I am pretty sure, that I only am addicted to pleasure, not porn itself.
because I get on porn to masturbate, and when I reach peak pleasure, I reel back, and realize.
the old joke is true. ;God; I have some good news and some bad news, adam. I gave you a brain and a penis. bad news is, I only gave you enough blood to power one of them.' so what I need are some verses, And prayer. does anyone know how to turn safeshield on on duckduckgo?
because I get on porn to masturbate, and when I reach peak pleasure, I reel back, and realize.
the old joke is true. ;God; I have some good news and some bad news, adam. I gave you a brain and a penis. bad news is, I only gave you enough blood to power one of them.' so what I need are some verses, And prayer. does anyone know how to turn safeshield on on duckduckgo?
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I see the reason to think that, but it's not true.
That's akin to an alcoholic saying he's not an alcoholic he just likes being drunk. It's the alcohol that causes the drunkenness. And it's the porn that causes the pleasure. If it weren't true you wouldn't turn to it in those moments, but you do. That's cause and effect. Your brain connects porn with pleasure because nothing else is providing that feeling.
And if you're depressed this effect can be even stronger due to your brain creating less of the chemical naturally. So when you get a big blast of them from doing things to yourself the effect hits even stronger. And porn can generate or strengthen these feelings, which your brain becomes addicted to feeling.
If porn were not the problem then you wouldn't turn to it. In fact you'd not need anything of a sexual nature at all.
That's akin to an alcoholic saying he's not an alcoholic he just likes being drunk. It's the alcohol that causes the drunkenness. And it's the porn that causes the pleasure. If it weren't true you wouldn't turn to it in those moments, but you do. That's cause and effect. Your brain connects porn with pleasure because nothing else is providing that feeling.
And if you're depressed this effect can be even stronger due to your brain creating less of the chemical naturally. So when you get a big blast of them from doing things to yourself the effect hits even stronger. And porn can generate or strengthen these feelings, which your brain becomes addicted to feeling.
If porn were not the problem then you wouldn't turn to it. In fact you'd not need anything of a sexual nature at all.
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