Non-believer Being Predictably Critical of Christians:
1.) "a lot of times I am embarrassed to call myself a Christian,"
Apparently you do not call yourself a Christian at all; your profile does not proclaim you're a Christian... it says you are "unsure."
2.) "What is it that unifies the Christian faith?"
Your profile makes it clear you aren't a Christian, and this question reinforces that... if you WERE a Christian you would KNOW what unifies them.
3.) "What is it that Christians are doing to impact the world in a positive way?"
Again, another questions that simply verifies you aren't a Christian - you wonder what Christians should be doing because you are not one, and you have no idea what Christian life is about.
4.) "typically the impression is the Christian churches are full of gossip, that they are mean and bigoted, and they are hypocritical,"
Here we simply have an admitted non-believing, ranting about how bad all the Christians are.
You could hear the same at the local pub.
Conclusion:
1.) NUFAN, you've admitted in your bio you are not a Christian, and every sentence in your OP confirms that.
2.) Hopefully the members here will ignore your rants, and simply share the gospel with you. You need to meet Christ; you need to have a personal conversion. Nothing will resolve your dilemmas except repentance and submission to Christ.
3.) FELLOW CHRISTIANS, I hope ALL believers reading this will recognize this post as stereotypical complaints from a non-believer.
These are the things non-believers say. These are the common, ordinary, predictable things non-believers say.
We should not get worked up about any of it.
We should not feel defensive about any of it.
We should ignore most of it, and just share the gospel... non-believers will exaggerate all real problems while also creating false problems out of thin air.
God Bless.
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