No kidding! I'm too old, or perhaps my memory isn't very good, but I just can't keep track of what I told to whom. In fact, this is usually the reason for my backing out of extended conversations; I simply cannot remember what I've said and it is a massive waste of my time to recount and figure out previous interactions. It isn't that I don't want to engage, per se, but I may have some sort of psychological problem . . . maybe??!! Yes, maybe.
"How can God who rescues the helpless, hopeless, powerless dead from their grave violate anyone's will? "
I love that, assuming that I understand you correctly. Those who have yet to receive the Circumcision of Christ are in such that state, a state of Spiritual Death. Therefore, and as you say, how could their will be violated if they don't even understand the predicament they're in?
Look, 99:9% of all people have yet to experience the Terror of the Lord. Luckily, I have, and as Paul taught, knowing this Terror compels us to teach, precisely, the things he taught, and particularly that of Spiritual Circumcision.
Colossians 2:11-13 NLT - 11 When you came to Christ, you were "circumcised," but not by a physical procedure.
Christ performed a spiritual circumcision--the cutting away of your sinful nature. 12 For you were buried with Christ when you were baptized. And with him you were raised to new life because you trusted the mighty power of God, who raised Christ from the dead. 13
You were dead because of your sins and because
your sinful nature was not yet cut away.
Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins.
If a person has not received Christ's Circumcision, they will have no clue that they are on the Spiritual side of death and that they cannot simply choose their way out of it (Spiritual death). One must cross over from death to Spiritual Life before anything else can happen, and having the Grace to speak of this firsthand, if people knew the UNBELIEVABLY HORRIFIC evil that is waiting at their door, they would beg and scream to God that He would change them,
SO THAT, they could "make the choice" to put genuine Faith into His Son, and the Power than raised Him from the grave.
But here is the thing: If a person should be granted the beyond horrific experience of the Terror of the Lord, when God saves them from this certain death, their choice to believe in, trust, obey, and follow the Lord . . . will have been made. Anyone who has experienced this Holy Terror will do all things to avoid it, and that would include the likes of Adolf Hitler, Jeffrey Dahmer, and Gary Ridgeway. These evil men, having experienced pure evil, would want nothing to do with it . . . ever.