This is awesome, Burn. Not many people would come to this, and I wholeheartedly applaud you for being willing to see other's perspective.
To be completely honest, I've felt many of the same frustrations you've expressed in your post. I've been in a church where people would literally ask God what they should wear that day, and I was left feeling like, "Should I ask God if it's ok for me to get a glass of water?!"
Believe me, there are those of us who can relate to what you're feeling about these things and you're not alone. I've also seen you pray with/for several people in the Prayer section, so many thanks and kudos to you for having a heart for other people.
This is the great thing about this forum -- we're all here to work through our struggles, challenges, anger and frustrations -- together.
Glad to have you here!