A lot!
Well, I hope that was informative. Go get em' tiger!
Just kidding.
There are several ways to start a conversation with a woman that you should at least be aware of:
1. Informational flirting: After saying hello, you want to know more about her, so the best way is to ask, "What's the story behind that?" It's best if the object is personal, such as a piece of jewelry, a watch, or something she's holding in her hand.
For example, "That's an interesting bracelet. What's the story behind that?" Suppose she tells you that she got it on a trip to someplace wonderful. Now, is not the time to try and one-up her by saying, "Oh I gave my mom something similar for Mother's Day one year, but hers was 24-carat gold and had little diamonds on it and that's why she tells everyone I'm her favorite son, and I this and I that, and I, I, I..."
No, no, no! Don't do that! Instead, shut up and let her tell you about that wonderful once-in-a-lifetime trip she went on. And when she stops talking, ask follow-up questions.
As a general rule of thumb, she talks 70 percent of the time, while you talk 30 percent. I know this is difficult for some guys, but it's the way it has to be, at least in the beginning.
What if she's not wearing anything interesting or unusual?
You could always find something within the immediate environment to ask about. For example, Bill wanders into a bookstore located in an old, historic building. He has been trying to muster the courage to talk to one of the pretty female employees. Here's what he could say:
"Hi. This is my first time here, I am struck by how old and interesting this building is. What's the story behind it?"
Chances are, if she's worked there for more than a few months, she will know. Bill patiently listens intently to every word and thanks her. He also compliments her on her knowledge and willingness to give such detailed information about the store.
A good thing for Bill to do now is to very quickly give his first name and ask for hers. This way, he has a "point of contact" established for his next visit.
Sure, Bill could ask her about how she likes the job and let her direct the conversation from there. But when talking to people while they are at work, it's best to have several short interactions instead of one long, drawn-out "mini-date." After all, you don't want the boss to get upset with her.
So, the next time Bill visits this bookstore (which will be soon), he'll use a subtle wave (or a wink, depending on how things went on the first encounter), and say something like, "Hello, Julie. How's my favorite historian doing today?"
What Bill is doing is a segue into situational flirting, which I'll cover in my next post. For now, practice asking, "What's the story behind that?" You'll be surprised at how special and blessed she will feel!
Well, I hope that was informative. Go get em' tiger!
Just kidding.
There are several ways to start a conversation with a woman that you should at least be aware of:
1. Informational flirting: After saying hello, you want to know more about her, so the best way is to ask, "What's the story behind that?" It's best if the object is personal, such as a piece of jewelry, a watch, or something she's holding in her hand.
For example, "That's an interesting bracelet. What's the story behind that?" Suppose she tells you that she got it on a trip to someplace wonderful. Now, is not the time to try and one-up her by saying, "Oh I gave my mom something similar for Mother's Day one year, but hers was 24-carat gold and had little diamonds on it and that's why she tells everyone I'm her favorite son, and I this and I that, and I, I, I..."
No, no, no! Don't do that! Instead, shut up and let her tell you about that wonderful once-in-a-lifetime trip she went on. And when she stops talking, ask follow-up questions.
As a general rule of thumb, she talks 70 percent of the time, while you talk 30 percent. I know this is difficult for some guys, but it's the way it has to be, at least in the beginning.
What if she's not wearing anything interesting or unusual?
You could always find something within the immediate environment to ask about. For example, Bill wanders into a bookstore located in an old, historic building. He has been trying to muster the courage to talk to one of the pretty female employees. Here's what he could say:
"Hi. This is my first time here, I am struck by how old and interesting this building is. What's the story behind it?"
Chances are, if she's worked there for more than a few months, she will know. Bill patiently listens intently to every word and thanks her. He also compliments her on her knowledge and willingness to give such detailed information about the store.
A good thing for Bill to do now is to very quickly give his first name and ask for hers. This way, he has a "point of contact" established for his next visit.
Sure, Bill could ask her about how she likes the job and let her direct the conversation from there. But when talking to people while they are at work, it's best to have several short interactions instead of one long, drawn-out "mini-date." After all, you don't want the boss to get upset with her.
So, the next time Bill visits this bookstore (which will be soon), he'll use a subtle wave (or a wink, depending on how things went on the first encounter), and say something like, "Hello, Julie. How's my favorite historian doing today?"
What Bill is doing is a segue into situational flirting, which I'll cover in my next post. For now, practice asking, "What's the story behind that?" You'll be surprised at how special and blessed she will feel!
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