Brother SHLee, First welcome!!! I am a Vietnam Veteran and had the pleasure of spending some R&R in Singapore I loved the people there. I was not a believer at that time though and missed out on many fine churches there, however now being a spirit filled believer now at my tender age of 70 lol I had the same problem living in Michigan!
First there is no perfect church you will find. 2. Here is what the Lord told me to do which I did and was fulfilled! First, find a church not far from you, pray first that Holy Spirit will guide you to where he wants you to go. When you arrive the most important factor is that the people do not talk bad about each other, that they generally care for each other, if not move on because (James 3:1-18) is the most important lesson to learn as we strive to follow our Jesus!
If they do care, then talk with the Pastor and ask him where he is leading his flock to? Again, first pray and ask the Lord to give you wisdom in how to go about this! (James 1:5) Brother I know in the Lord you have been given much wisdom probably far more than those you meet, have compassion upon them brother and by your fine example help them as a good disciple would do which indeed you are!! We brother who are older in the Lord then most, age matters not either! (1 Tim 4:12!!)
Remember!! Before Jesus talked about love, compassion etc... He SHOWED them!! Same with us brother!! By following we are to be an example, and from that example much good fruit is produced so others will follow with us! This has worked for me brother; I am not telling what to do!!
I as a true disciple of our Lord Jesus bless you in your struggle and pray and believe Jesus will guide your steps. He hears me!! And better yet he always answers me! AND!!!! He will both here and answer you!! Faith is not hope!! Faith is assurance in our hope!! Our hope lies in our Jesus not in ourselves. May Jesus bless you and grant you lasting peace!!