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seoulsearch

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I did have the advantage...I speak seoulsearchese.
And believe me, I obviously need as many "translators" as I can get!! :whistle:

(Should I have used single or double quotations here?!) :unsure:

At any rate, I'm just always grateful for people like @Cameron143 who can make at least some sense of what I'm saying! :ROFL:

This is yet another fine example of why I identify as a redhead.

I speak in tongues... That only a few can understand. :D
 

GaryA

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#62
jennymae clearly didn't understand what seoulsearch meant. Hence, I interpetated.

And, if I may expound a bit on what jennymae is saying here - if you were born and raised in the South, you were taught 'Southern Hospitality' - any 'aggression' is coming from something/somewhere else - it is not any part of what it means to be [truly] 'Southern'. :) :cool: :coffee:
She's actually referencing the war of "Northern Aggression".
I understood 'She' in this statement to be @jennymae and not @seoulsearch - where did you 'interpret' for jennymae?
 

Cameron143

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I understood 'She' in this statement to be @jennymae and not @seoulsearch - where did you 'interpret' for jennymae?
I didn't interpetate for jennymae. I just read her post as I did yours, and noticed you had misunderstood what seoulsearch meant. Being acquainted with the term War of Northern Aggression as the Civil War, and the wit and knowledge of seoulsearch, I deducted from previous statements.

It's a gift and a curse. I get invited to a lot of parties once.
 

seoulsearch

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I didn't interpetate for jennymae. I just read her post as I did yours, and noticed you had misunderstood what seoulsearch meant. Being acquainted with the term War of Northern Aggression as the Civil War, and the wit and knowledge of seoulsearch, I deducted from previous statements. It's a gift and a curse. I get invited to a lot of parties once.
I'm putting together a "War of Online Aggression" party as we speak.

Cameron is definitely in the top 5 on the guest list. :cool:
 

GaryA

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I didn't interpetate for jennymae. I just read her post as I did yours, and noticed you had misunderstood what seoulsearch meant. Being acquainted with the term War of Northern Aggression as the Civil War, and the wit and knowledge of seoulsearch, I deducted from previous statements.
My post #46 had absolutely zero to do with what @seoulsearch said in her post - it had everything to do with what @jennymae said in her post.

I think it is wonderful if you understood what seoulsearch meant. However, you still do not seem to "get" what I am saying...???

At this point, I am only trying to make a point - which has been made ten times over to anyone paying attention...

Other than the fact that I really would like to get jennymae's take on all of this - I see no reason to continue it.
 

Cameron143

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My post #46 had absolutely zero to do with what @seoulsearch said in her post - it had everything to do with what @jennymae said in her post.

I think it is wonderful if you understood what seoulsearch meant. However, you still do not seem to "get" what I am saying...???

At this point, I am only trying to make a point - which has been made ten times over to anyone paying attention...

Other than the fact that I really would like to get jennymae's take on all of this - I see no reason to continue it.
I acknowledge your interpretation of what jennymae posted as correct, and that your response was inline and expounded upon her thoughts. I was simply extrapolating upon seoulsearch's intention in sharing as she did.

My intention was only to bring clarity, not harm. My apologies.
 

GaryA

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I acknowledge your interpretation of what jennymae posted as correct, and that your response was inline and expounded upon her thoughts. I was simply extrapolating upon seoulsearch's intention in sharing as she did.

My intention was only to bring clarity, not harm. My apologies.
Okay - thank you.

But, do you realize that all you had to do to avoid all of this was to word your post a little differently?
seoulsearch is actually referencing the war of "Northern Aggression".
("corrected")

I realize that using the word 'she' made perfect sense in your mind. However, since you used the word 'she' in your post - and, quoted my post - in which only @jennymae was mentioned - I took your post to be saying that that was what jennymae meant in her post.

How important is it that we make sure we communicate properly just exactly who and what we are referring to?
 

GaryA

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When you post, you must be careful to word it in a way that others who read it will understand precisely what you mean - and, avoid writing simply what makes sense in your own mind at the time you are writing it. In a different situation, 'she' would have been perfectly fine if everyone knew beyond-a-shadow-of-a-doubt just exactly who 'she' was. But, you yourself pointed to @jennymae by quoting my post - in which only jennymae was mentioned. Do you see what I am saying?

Whatever you say in your post is by default going to be taken as having any quoted posts as reference.

So then, in answering the question "Who is 'she'?" - what are they to think? They do not realize that your mind is fixed on another different post entirely.

Make sense...?
 

Cameron143

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Okay - thank you.

But, do you realize that all you had to do to avoid all of this was to word your post a little differently?

("corrected")

I realize that using the word 'she' made perfect sense in your mind. However, since you used the word 'she' in your post - and, quoted my post - in which only @jennymae was mentioned - I took your post to be saying that that was what jennymae meant in her post.

How important is it that we make sure we communicate properly just exactly who and what we are referring to?
I appreciate the rebuke. Perhaps you will be so inclined.
Recently I was considering Isaiah 58 where God admonishes the people for their outward practices of religion that were self-aggrandizing, but did little or nothing for others. He didn't care for their fasts or feasts. Instead, He desired that their religious practices actual produced goodness in the lives of others. Specifically, He admonished them to free others of oppression, and undo burdens.
This got me to do a little introspection. Were there areas in my life where I was the cause of burdening others or adding to their already existing burdens?
I found more than I care to admit, and more each day. I doubt I'm alone in such need for introspection.
 

RodB651

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I speak in tongues... That only a few can understand. :D
Wooo!
You gotta throw them hands in the air, shout a "Ramma Shamma Lamma"..
Then you dance real fast and knock over the dear sista dancin next to ya!

If you been in one of them services, you know what I'm talkin bout! 😀

Sorry, it was time to derail this a bit further.
In regards to state lines and northern boundaries, there is a " Gnat line" in Georgia.
Everything above that line is Georgia. Everything below that is Jawga...
 

Lynx

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When you post, you must be careful to word it in a way that others who read it will understand precisely what you mean - and, avoid writing simply what makes sense in your own mind at the time you are writing it. In a different situation, 'she' would have been perfectly fine if everyone knew beyond-a-shadow-of-a-doubt just exactly who 'she' was. But, you yourself pointed to @jennymae by quoting my post - in which only jennymae was mentioned. Do you see what I am saying?

Whatever you say in your post is by default going to be taken as having any quoted posts as reference.

So then, in answering the question "Who is 'she'?" - what are they to think? They do not realize that your mind is fixed on another different post entirely.

Make sense...?
Lawd ha' mercy!

Y'all done with this pissing contest yet?
 

GaryA

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In regards to state lines and northern boundaries, there is a " Gnat line" in Georgia.
Everything above that line is Georgia. Everything below that is Jawga...
The only place I know of where the gnats are so aggressive - they continually try to crawl into every orifice you have - your ears, your nose, your mouth if you have it open - they are extremely annoying. And, I don't mean one or two - if it is not too hot or too cold you very often will be dealing with a horde/swarm of them.

There are some really nice folks in Georgia - but, I really hated the gnats... :censored:

The running joke is that you can tell the home-grown crowd from the rest by which ones don't seem to be bothered by the gnats - everyone else is constantly swatting...
 

Cameron143

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I was just joking, but yeah, that’s what the reference was about
I recognized your line of thought and the cleverness you employed. I was mainly just letting seoulsearch know her line of thought wasn't lost.
 

seoulsearch

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I recognized your line of thought and the cleverness you employed. I was mainly just letting seoulsearch know her line of thought wasn't lost.
Now that we all finally agree that an Act Swof Southern Aggression has DEFINITELY occurred in this thread (several of them, in fact,) I might just have to kick back with a 12-pack of POP (YEAH, I said it! 😬) to soothe my nerves. 🥤

I'm sorry sweet tea, you're going to have to go to the back of the line. 😎
 

Lynx

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Now that we all finally agree that an Act Swof Southern Aggression has DEFINITELY occurred in this thread (several of them, in fact,) I might just have to kick back with a 12-pack of POP (YEAH, I said it! 😬) to soothe my nerves. 🥤

I'm sorry sweet tea, you're going to have to go to the back of the line. 😎
And the worst part is, she's not just an ignorant yankee. She actually knows what she is talking about. She has sojourned in the South (and I don't mean Florida, I mean the real South) for MONTHS at a time.

And she still said that about sweet tea. This is just sad.
 

seoulsearch

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And the worst part is, she's not just an ignorant yankee. She actually knows what she is talking about. She has sojourned in the South (and I don't mean Florida, I mean the real South) for MONTHS at a time.

And she still said that about sweet tea. This is just sad.
I've learned that a Northerner visiting the South for an extended amount of time basically needs to have a native Southern host to refer basically as a travel visa to slide by.

After this thread, I have a feeling the next time I try to slip through, I'm going to find myself with a big ol' Southern:

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GaryA

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I appreciate the rebuke. Perhaps you will be so inclined.
Recently I was considering Isaiah 58 where God admonishes the people for their outward practices of religion that were self-aggrandizing, but did little or nothing for others. He didn't care for their fasts or feasts. Instead, He desired that their religious practices actual produced goodness in the lives of others. Specifically, He admonished them to free others of oppression, and undo burdens.
This got me to do a little introspection. Were there areas in my life where I was the cause of burdening others or adding to their already existing burdens?
I found more than I care to admit, and more each day. I doubt I'm alone in such need for introspection.
A worthy introspection indeed! (for each and every one of us - and, I am already giving it serious consideration - I am truly glad that you mentioned it...)

However, at the same time - what will it do for oppression and burdens if the watchers do not warn, the encouragers do not remind others to maintain high standards, etc. etc. etc. ?

Will using "lazy english" when we post help anything/everything? Or, will it cause a greater communication burden? more confusion? misinterpretation? bad/hurt feelings? misguided resolve? anger? What else? (I am pretty sure the list is long.)

Shall we all just play the PC game and see how that works out? :unsure: :rolleyes:

Believe-it-or-not, my efforts are - as you also said about yourself - intended to help - only, in a different way of helping than what you are trying to do.

Believe-it-or-not, my efforts are intended to get others to think more about others - to give consideration to the ramifications of the way they do the things that they do - in this case, how they write their posts.

A well-written post might keep seoulsearch's nerves intact and keep her from binge-drinking a 12-pack of POP. ;)

(I am pretty sure she is just kidding around, and I am not trying to put any 'blame', etc. on you - I am only making a point about ramifications.)

We certainly do not know in enough detail where our conversations will lead - or how they will affect people - the point is - that we "do our [reasonable] best" - [simply] because we should. And, admittedly, with regard to 'ramifications' - we are for-the-absolute-most-part talking about not-too-serious things here. I realize that. But, again, the point is that we do our [reasonable] best.

That means not letting our 'english' get 'lazy' when we post.

That means looking at what we write from the reader's POV.

As-and-after we write it, we should try to imagine how it will appear and come across to the reader.

You try to minimize unnecessary conflict and "raise the level of comfort in the room" by injecting "easy-going" discussion, humor, etc. - I try to raise awareness of the necessary things which may create self-conflict in those who are offended if a brother tries to encourage them to 'raise the bar' a bit for the good/sake of others.

Your efforts "feel good" - and, therefore, you are 'liked' by everyone - my efforts are important but do not yield the same "feel good" result in others - [often] I get judged for my efforts - sometimes, I "get the finger" (in essence) for my efforts. Yet, I judge no one. A [brotherly] "friendly reminder" is my only intent.

We each have our 'realm' where God put us.

Of course, I often make attempts at humor - because, I do have "a lighter side" - that I really wish other people would [be willing to] see.

If they did, it would probably help them understand that - if/when I "make a point" about something - it is intended to "help" and not be judgmental or harsh, etc...

I would hope that they should realize that - at the very least - my intentions are good - and, not be too quick to be offended.

Believe-it-or-not, I appreciate some of the things that you do and say in your posts - because of what you are trying to do.

I only wish people better appreciated some of the things that I do and say in my posts - because of what I am trying to do.

:coffee::coffee::coffee::coffee::coffee::coffee::coffee:

(plenty for everyone)