There's no "The One"
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Yes as long as God remains the one you continuously chase everything else will fall into line. I did not have enough faith now, I am a solo mum to three kids, we were unequally yoked. I have now left it in God's hands as I should have done to begin with, but hey we all do silly things when we are young.
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Good grief, I feel like this is me. I don't do parties and I don't necessarily talk a lot, but when I like talking to someone I talk a lot and then afterwards I wonder why did I do that? And then I worry that I talked to much. But then I go and repeat the process! Bah.
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Ha, thanks... I often joke that my life plays in Heaven as a Truman Show-esque sitcom that entertains the angels . But you probably wouldn't find me that interesting if you knew me better, I spend most of my time working and pondering the dark mysteries of existence. Appreciate the compliment though! And I'm slowly learning that a word spoken in due season is the most effective way to be honest. Because even when my comments are 100% correct they can still be 0% helpful lol .
So, it sounds like, based on the post I quoted, that you kinda DO believe in "The One"? I definitely agree that marriage and male/female relationships are a huge part of God's plan for life here on Earth. And the vast majority of us do seem to partake in them, so that checks out. But I can't think of a verse or passage that promises that God has a special someone for everyone . And what about those like @Cold or @Noel25 , who don't even like the idea of having a "One"? Or @Lynx, who is contently indifferent? In that case would there only be a "One" for the ones who want one? I'm not arguing here, just trying to understand your position on the matter.
. But you probably wouldn't find me that interesting if you knew me better, I spend most of my time working and pondering the dark mysteries of existence. Appreciate the compliment though! And I'm slowly learning that a word spoken in due season is the most effective way to be honest. Because even when my comments are 100% correct they can still be 0% helpful lol .So, it sounds like, based on the post I quoted, that you kinda DO believe in "The One"?
I definitely agree that marriage and male/female relationships are a huge part of God's plan for life here on Earth. And the vast majority of us do seem to partake in them, so that checks out. But I can't think of a verse or passage that promises that God has a special someone for everyone . And what about those like @Cold or @Noel25 , who don't even like the idea of having a "One"? Or @Lynx, who is contently indifferent? In that case would there only be a "One" for the ones who want one? I'm not arguing here, just trying to understand your position on the matter.
Anyways. I'm here if you wish to carry on with this conversation.
I do believe in the one. And maybe God doesn't have anyone for us. Maybe He doesn't care. Maybe I'm wrong, and he doesn't mind us that much. Maybe God is indifferent to our needs. Lately the world (including Christian) seem to put God in this General army guy position and not so much as a loving father. Maybe all the years I thought great things about God I was wrong. I mean I've been wrong about seeing good in others... Why would God be exception? Ponders, ponders, ponders... Who knows what?
"Don't make questions... everyone hates questions... just be dumb and follow. either the world or religion"
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I'm not sure that, with the exception of Neo, there's a "one". Although, arguably, Adam had a "one". But, in this crazy loony world, there could be so many things that could hinder meeting such a person. Surely we now have, with over 7 billion people, more than one option.
Faceless... I hear some of what you're saying. Wanting a wife has been an idol for me, and while God did let me marry 20 years ago (the 29th of this month), He hasn't let me remarry after her death 15 years ago.
However, I do understand what you mean when you say that it would be nice to have the physical aspect of that relationship. I agree wholeheartedly. It is very hard for me to be content when it seems, even at 59, that my libido's not going anywhere.
So, currently I am having less and less hope that this "desire of my heart" is even going to be met. Or, if it is, not until I'm 90. And, frankly -- and this will tick some people off, oh well! -- I do not want my next sexual experience to be with a 90yo. So, I have prayed for the gift of celibacy, even though something inside me seems to push back on that. I'm doing it anyway. I need peace. And, until God becomes, finally, my "all in all", this is my only recourse.
I wish I had something more encouraging to tell you. I'm pretty bitter right now at the opposite sex in general, and negative when it comes to dating, marriage, etc. Not having a bonafide date in 13+ years does that to you. All I can say to you is, it may still happen for you. But, it may also be best to seek God's peace, despite the longing for the emotional, as well as the sexual intimacy a marriage (should) bring. I am asking for Him to become my everything... for the gift of celibacy, for contentment in all circumstances, etc. Not that any of those have yet to be answered, but it's either continue praying for those things or go out and sin.
Faceless... I hear some of what you're saying. Wanting a wife has been an idol for me, and while God did let me marry 20 years ago (the 29th of this month), He hasn't let me remarry after her death 15 years ago.
However, I do understand what you mean when you say that it would be nice to have the physical aspect of that relationship. I agree wholeheartedly. It is very hard for me to be content when it seems, even at 59, that my libido's not going anywhere.
So, currently I am having less and less hope that this "desire of my heart" is even going to be met. Or, if it is, not until I'm 90. And, frankly -- and this will tick some people off, oh well! -- I do not want my next sexual experience to be with a 90yo. So, I have prayed for the gift of celibacy, even though something inside me seems to push back on that. I'm doing it anyway. I need peace. And, until God becomes, finally, my "all in all", this is my only recourse.
I wish I had something more encouraging to tell you. I'm pretty bitter right now at the opposite sex in general, and negative when it comes to dating, marriage, etc. Not having a bonafide date in 13+ years does that to you. All I can say to you is, it may still happen for you. But, it may also be best to seek God's peace, despite the longing for the emotional, as well as the sexual intimacy a marriage (should) bring. I am asking for Him to become my everything... for the gift of celibacy, for contentment in all circumstances, etc. Not that any of those have yet to be answered, but it's either continue praying for those things or go out and sin.
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I'm sorry for your loss. That seemed to have left a hole in your heart. Which is what most losses do. I also understand about bitterness. We're not made of stone. Things do affect us, and some of them are not for the better. Spiritual people seem to forget about our human side and try to sell this fairytale that if we believe in God we're all strong, and invincible, and can overcome everything. But they forget we're still human. Trusting in God hurts. It goes against our sinful nature to put all our love and trust in God. This is a choice we make with the help of the Holy Spirit. And yet, still, we are human and we struggle. Just because we ignore the problem it doesn't mean is gonna go away or God will snap his fingers and magically will disappear. It's a process. A process that most times hurr because we're still made of flesh and bones.
Sorry if it feels like I've strayed from the topic, but i thought that to address these things were more important at the moment. Thanks for your attention and kind words.
Sorry if it feels like I've strayed from the topic, but i thought that to address these things were more important at the moment. Thanks for your attention and kind words.
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At what point we stop being humans and stop making mistakes? This is an internal/external question. Trust in God he will turn all your wrongs into his rights. For he's merciful, forgiving and loving. Christ came to redeem us and not condemn us, as we have repented, we will never be judged. All things in God are possible. Put your faith in Him. God bless you.
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And He will. God doesn't abandon his children or leave them in shame. God cares very much for you and loves you. We all do in Christ's love. There are different kinds of love and needs that we have as humans. Parts that only can be filled by romantic love, and parts can only be filled by fatherly and heavenly love like God's love. Focus on Him and everyone else will come up as extension of that faithfulness and love.
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Well... Maybe.
Sometimes people seek God first and realize there is no one for them. But the more they seek God, the more that doesn't matter to them.
Sometimes people seek God first and realize there is no one for them. But the more they seek God, the more that doesn't matter to them.
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If it doesn't matter to them, good for them. When it matters to some is another story; their story.
There exists a life that is so satisfying in God that causes all else to pale in comparison. That's what Psalm 23 is all about.
It might be helpful to read Matthew 11:1-6. John the Baptist finds himself in prison after having done all God asked him to do. After reminding him that everything is going just as the word of God said it would, Jesus makes an incredible statement...And blessed is he, whosoever is not offended in me. What was He saying? Blessing is found in being content with the way God is circumscribing the events of your life. He knows what He's doing.
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Thank your for your opinion. That being said don't assume what I do or don't realize. I'm pretty wise, and to be honest, above most. (Yes, I understand that I should allow God to hand me modesty). I find most "Christians" to be one track minds, with almost no education. I don't blame them. That was their choice. I made mine. What God offers is Spiritual. Ask a starving child to trust on God and feed on that and not give them any physical food that they can feed on. See how well that works? We're assuming that God is this magical entity who does things the way he does, and then dusts or shrugs it off. He gave us these needs for a reason. If not they wouldn't be there. I can debate Bible all day, but I don't have the energy to do so right now. I agree with one thing; God knows what He's doing.
And no, I don't think that's what John refers to in Matthew (about having a partner or not), and if I'm not mistaken David had six wives... So... I don't think he was celibate.
And no, I don't think that's what John refers to in Matthew (about having a partner or not), and if I'm not mistaken David had six wives... So... I don't think he was celibate.
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I get it. Your desire for a wife is greater than your desire for what God wants for you. That's why you have no contentment. That's what Matthew 11:6 is speaking to. The blessing is to be found in being ok with what God chooses.
I offered you scripture as one who has been in the same place and experienced the same thing, and what God showed me. When God is truly your Shepherd, you have no such wants...Psalm 23:1. The truth is, you aren't finding your satisfaction in God.
I haven't shared these things to harm or hinder you. Even if you got married today, you won't find ongoing satisfaction in it until you are first satisfied in God. Otherwise, you will be trying to find in a spouse the satisfaction that God alone can give.
But the choice is yours. I wish you all the best. Grace and peace.
I offered you scripture as one who has been in the same place and experienced the same thing, and what God showed me. When God is truly your Shepherd, you have no such wants...Psalm 23:1. The truth is, you aren't finding your satisfaction in God.
I haven't shared these things to harm or hinder you. Even if you got married today, you won't find ongoing satisfaction in it until you are first satisfied in God. Otherwise, you will be trying to find in a spouse the satisfaction that God alone can give.
But the choice is yours. I wish you all the best. Grace and peace.
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Again assuming. Such is humanity's ignorance. Sigh.
Good that God has showed whatever He showed you. That was for you. Not for humanity. I prefer to listen to Christ than rather than listening to you. Christ knows. You just simply assume. You don't know much about the Bible, do you? Do you really search deep into the Scriptures? I can see that may not be the case. I've met people like you, very condescending and very bitter. I'm trying not to fall into that category. (Although at times I fail) You don't see to actually understand what's being said, but that's to be expected. Thanks for your input. May God bless you and fill you with wisdom. No need for another reply. Thank you.
Good that God has showed whatever He showed you. That was for you. Not for humanity. I prefer to listen to Christ than rather than listening to you. Christ knows. You just simply assume. You don't know much about the Bible, do you? Do you really search deep into the Scriptures? I can see that may not be the case. I've met people like you, very condescending and very bitter. I'm trying not to fall into that category. (Although at times I fail) You don't see to actually understand what's being said, but that's to be expected. Thanks for your input. May God bless you and fill you with wisdom. No need for another reply. Thank you.
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