I see obedience demanded in a woman throughout the Bible. It is in the Qur'an Surah 4:34. Do these works call for absolute obedience, or is there a burden on the male also to not be overbearing and mean?
When God made Eve she was a help mate so she has an input in the marriage.
The authority structure of God on Earth is God, Christ, man, woman, angels.
A man and a woman are equal in the Lord for the only thing that separates a man and a woman is the flesh, but the soul, and spirit, are the same, so when they put off the flesh, and receive a glorified body they are the same, which is why Jesus said they do not marry in heaven.
The world does not abide by the authority structure of God for they do not have Him in their life.
When the man is to be head of the woman as a husband he is supposed to lead in the ways of God, and not his own ways, so he has nowhere to glory, and she has an input in the marriage.
And her first commitment as a saint is to God to do what is right, so if her husband does not act Christlike she can say something as a saint to correct him for a man and a woman is equal in the Lord.
The world violates that authority structure which the man does not act appropriately towards the woman, or they battle with each other for control.
The man being head of the woman has to be done according to the ways of God, and if not then the man is out of order.
And the man is supposed to love his wife as Christ loves the Church.
It is not supposed to be I am the man so we will always do what I want, and you will do what I say because then they are not acting in accordance to leading in the ways of God.
And if it is any comfort to women the man is a servant to the woman for Jesus said whoever is the greater let them be a servant which Christ was a servant although He is the greatest of all, so if the man is the head of the woman then he is actually a servant of the woman.