What are your relationship dealbreakers?
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Seeing how a lot of relationships wind up being broken, and seeing how there is often a lot of pain involved, I hope that you do not mind if I give a totally serious answer here.
For me, the primary deal breaker is if a woman will not truly let me know who she is on the inside. I mean, that is the real person, and if I am not granted access to the real person, then everything else, in my estimation, is just superficial, and eventually destined for disaster.
It just so happens that I am a very deep and passionate (I am not talking primarily about physically...especially since I truly feel no physical attraction to a woman who shuts me off internally) man, and that always seems to be a problem. In other words, I seem to always encounter women who are focused solely on the external, as opposed to matters of the heart, and I am pretty much the polar opposite.
I am sorry, to an extent, for momentarily interrupting the fun here, but I regularly encounter people who have basically been crushed by bad relationships, so this is a very serious matter for me. Also, by no means were any of my comments meant to sound detrimental to women as a whole. This is just one man's experiences, and my experiences do not apply solely to relationships that might one day lead to marriage by any means. Instead, my experiences definitely deal with friendships as well. If I cannot truly know a person, then I simply cannot be their friend because I care about my friends, and who they truly are on the inside.
For me, the primary deal breaker is if a woman will not truly let me know who she is on the inside. I mean, that is the real person, and if I am not granted access to the real person, then everything else, in my estimation, is just superficial, and eventually destined for disaster.
It just so happens that I am a very deep and passionate (I am not talking primarily about physically...especially since I truly feel no physical attraction to a woman who shuts me off internally) man, and that always seems to be a problem. In other words, I seem to always encounter women who are focused solely on the external, as opposed to matters of the heart, and I am pretty much the polar opposite.
I am sorry, to an extent, for momentarily interrupting the fun here, but I regularly encounter people who have basically been crushed by bad relationships, so this is a very serious matter for me. Also, by no means were any of my comments meant to sound detrimental to women as a whole. This is just one man's experiences, and my experiences do not apply solely to relationships that might one day lead to marriage by any means. Instead, my experiences definitely deal with friendships as well. If I cannot truly know a person, then I simply cannot be their friend because I care about my friends, and who they truly are on the inside.
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Just a quick addendum to my last post...
There is a young guy that I used to work with at a previous job of mine, and he and I have remained friends on Facebook.
Every day, for months, he posted pictures of himself and his girlfriend on his Facebook account, and, every day, they seemed to be engaged in some different activity together. You know, things like going to concerts together, going to museums together, or being at some sort of outdoor event together. As I was viewing their photos for months, I kept wondering to myself if they would truly get along with each other without being at some sort of stimulating event together. Well, a couple of weeks ago, he reached out to me in despair because their relationship had ended. I did not get the details from him yet, but I would not be the least bit surprised if the reason why they broke up is because they simply had nothing in common without all of the external stimuli.
My advice to everyone who is truly seeking a mate of any sort is simply this:
Find someone whose heart truly binds together with your heart.
Without this...
There is a young guy that I used to work with at a previous job of mine, and he and I have remained friends on Facebook.
Every day, for months, he posted pictures of himself and his girlfriend on his Facebook account, and, every day, they seemed to be engaged in some different activity together. You know, things like going to concerts together, going to museums together, or being at some sort of outdoor event together. As I was viewing their photos for months, I kept wondering to myself if they would truly get along with each other without being at some sort of stimulating event together. Well, a couple of weeks ago, he reached out to me in despair because their relationship had ended. I did not get the details from him yet, but I would not be the least bit surprised if the reason why they broke up is because they simply had nothing in common without all of the external stimuli.
My advice to everyone who is truly seeking a mate of any sort is simply this:
Find someone whose heart truly binds together with your heart.
Without this...
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