Yes I understand your position as I've read some of your responses. I am neither Pentecostal or Charismatic. You don't have to be either to experience spiritual gifts and that is a major mistake cessationists make.
As far as pushing tongues? I have never done that. The op is about tongues; so are my responses. Whatever an op is about is what I will try to follow, not withstanding all the rabbit holes a thread can go down
Not to offend anyone here, but I will never ever darken the door of a Pentecostal church again. My worst experiences with Christians can all be traced back to Pentecostals and I mean actual damage. As for Charismatics? While there are actually churches referring to themselves as such, at one time, if I remember correctly, it was simply meant for a Christian, non-Pentecostal, who believed the spiritual gifts were still valid and probably spoke in tongues.
I do not see a connection between James and what Paul says about tongues, one is a spiritual gift and the other is the human tongue which can and does set the world on fire. We are responsible for our words. I don't and never have faked anything. You can pray in tongues (silently) in any church or any place as you should be in control. The gift...any gift...should never control a person and there are plenty of videos on youtube where you see the opposite. Such as people jerking uncontrollably or head bobbing or shrieking. IMO, these folks might need some deliverance from demons as that is not the Holy Spirit.
We could have one very long chat over coffee but I really cannot get into everything here. But, the bottom line is that I firmly believe the gifts are real and tongues included. I also believe that much of what goes on in some churches is absolutely fake with everyone saying how wonderful they feel no matter how bizarre the goings on are.
I am thankful I was not raised in a Pentecostal church. I have or had actually, a family member who went sideways when she became involved with Pentecostals and she messed up the lives of everyone around her.