I’m discouraged

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I’ve been praying for a godly virgin women for so long and it hasn’t happened yet. I’m very discouraged about this.
 

RodB651

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I'm not saying it's impossible because she might be out there...

What do you have to offer this woman?
 

TabinRivCA

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I’ve been praying for a godly virgin women for so long and it hasn’t happened yet. I’m very discouraged about this.
There are some very nice young ladies here. Start a Thread on a positive note and mingle. Be friends first, be patient and pray. Don't push or rush anything just have fun and be led by the Spirit.
 

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Hasn't happened for any of us yet either (except the few people we let stay around after their wedding because they were pretty cool). So welcome to our little club. Hope you enjoy your visit to our little corner of the internet.
 

Lynx

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I’ve been praying for a godly virgin women for so long and it hasn’t happened yet. I’m very discouraged about this.
What's so terrible about being alone? I rather like it. It's peaceful.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Marriage is not a promise. Especially when you're dictating what you want. But you may pass up lots of amazing women along the way whose pasts God has already forgiven.
 
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I’ve been praying for a godly virgin women for so long and it hasn’t happened yet. I’m very discouraged about this.
I know what you mean. I've always wanted to date a virgin Christian woman. I've been waiting for years for that woman to come into my life, but so far it hasn't happened. Maybe it's not in the cards for me. God knows what is best for me, so I just sit back and let him do his thing. Maybe I wasn't meant to be a husband or a father. I think my true calling is to be a blessing to others. Stay in faith. God will never do you wrong. Don't get discouraged my friend. God is good. I'm sure he's got some great plans for you. God bless.
 

Lanolin

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? what hasn't happened
what do you expect to happen?

Not sure I understand. I am sure all the virgin christian women currently in school need prayers more than anyone so they can pass their exams.
 
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George0115

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I was just saying I wanted to find a virgin Christian woman. I'm not really looking anymore. At my age I don't think there are any out there. I'm fine with that though. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Maybe God's plan for me is to remain single forever. He's know way better than I do. I'm fine with whatever his plans are for me. God bless.
 

Lynx

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I was just saying I wanted to find a virgin Christian woman. I'm not really looking anymore. At my age I don't think there are any out there. I'm fine with that though. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Maybe God's plan for me is to remain single forever. He's know way better than I do. I'm fine with whatever his plans are for me. God bless.
Howdy George and welcome to the forum.

So what do God's plans for you seem to be lately? Are you into music, computers, hunting, fishing, sports...?
 

JohnDB

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I was just saying I wanted to find a virgin Christian woman. I'm not really looking anymore. At my age I don't think there are any out there. I'm fine with that though. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Maybe God's plan for me is to remain single forever. He's know way better than I do. I'm fine with whatever his plans are for me. God bless.
In the meantime....

Make friends....be a friend.

Look, I might be married but I enjoy hanging out with the guys moreso than hanging out in a hen party. I also enjoy playing with children and doing things with them on a limited basis. (Returning them to their parents is always a blessed event)

You are in a unique position of not worrying if your wife is jealous or not....you can play with others in a dignified manner and relax. Plenty of bachelor's have great rich and full lives.
 

Karlon

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I’ve been praying for a godly virgin women for so long and it hasn’t happened yet. I’m very discouraged about this.
that could vey well be the toughest request! well we know if God has one for you He will deliver. are you a born again Christian? if you are, that's the best position to be in to ask God for a virgin. that's so tough its similar to asking God to send you a woman who has never sinned. ahhh, the waiting game, no one likes it! i don't know if you belong to a church but that's the best start. get people to pray for you. i will blessings to you.
 

PennEd

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I was just saying I wanted to find a virgin Christian woman. I'm not really looking anymore. At my age I don't think there are any out there. I'm fine with that though. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Maybe God's plan for me is to remain single forever. He's know way better than I do. I'm fine with whatever his plans are for me. God bless.
What about a virgin who at one time was addicted to drugs, but now no longer is?
Would SHE be acceptable?

The point is, we are all sinners, with a past.
Yes. It would be great to find the perfect, unblemished lamb of a person to marry.

IMO, your priorities for a spouse is someone who loves the Lord, and can love you.
 

Lanolin

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well if you cant find one then what.
Is it the end of the world?

Just be happy as you are...Paul gave this advice. Follow it. Most women actually dont want to marry. Its a burden these days. They want a full life in the Lord, not a half life in bondage.
 
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George0115

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I'm not really looking anymore. I'm 45 I feel I missed out on dating. I would of like to of met a woman when I was in my earlier 20s. If I dated a woman now I would feel like I missed out on so much of her life. I'm content with the way things are now. Dating was never a big priority of mine to be honest. If it happens that would be nice, but if it don't that's fine to. You don't seem to big on dating either. Dating can be hard I understand.
 

JohnDB

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I'm not really looking anymore. I'm 45 I feel I missed out on dating. I would of like to of met a woman when I was in my earlier 20s. If I dated a woman now I would feel like I missed out on so much of her life. I'm content with the way things are now. Dating was never a big priority of mine to be honest. If it happens that would be nice, but if it don't that's fine to. You don't seem to big on dating either. Dating can be hard I understand.
Life is what you make it.

You can be fun by having fun just being a single bachelor...you would be surprised at how much fun you really can have by being more social instead of looking to drag a woman off to your isolation cage.

Invite and be invited to do things....like bowling, Geo locators, picnics, and all sorts of stuff. And don't have a quiet contest by seeing how little you can speak at these events and get away with it.
The women will find you....the others you don't want.
 
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Relax, Eric, you’re not plain and not ugly, but we must wait on God. You’re desirable, seek God and become even more desirable. ;)
 
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George0115

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Howdy George and welcome to the forum.

So what do God's plans for you seem to be lately? Are you into music, computers, hunting, fishing, sports...?
Thank you for the welcome. Yeah I'm into music,watching movies, reading things like that. I will admit I'm not Mr. Adventure lol. Right now I'm into reading the bible quite often. I have a few charities I donate to that I care about. I even sponsor a kid from Nepal. I never had any kids, so I figured this might be something I would like to do. I really enjoy it. Take care.
 

Lynx

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Thank you for the welcome. Yeah I'm into music,watching movies, reading things like that. I will admit I'm not Mr. Adventure lol. Right now I'm into reading the bible quite often. I have a few charities I donate to that I care about. I even sponsor a kid from Nepal. I never had any kids, so I figured this might be something I would like to do. I really enjoy it. Take care.
What kind of music are you into? Which genres?

Are you more on building a music collection, making your own music, playing an instrument, or just streaming with spotify?
 
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George0115

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What kind of music are you into? Which genres?

Are you more on building a music collection, making your own music, playing an instrument, or just streaming with spotify?
I'm guess you can say I'm into rock & r&b music. I can go from listening to Metallica to Boys II Men just like that. My music taste is all over the place. You remember Nelly Furtado? For the last month her song "I'm like a Bird" has been in my head lol. I swear I listen to it everyday. I remember that song when it was a big hit in the early 2000's, I didn't even really like it back then lol. What type of music do you listen to?