I have said it before and will say it again. Its best to meet someone give and recieve a full disclosure, then decide if marriage is an option. If it is an option then further relational.exploration can be engaged in via spending time together and learning all the aspects of emotional health, spiritual health, temperment, NOT sex. Ideally both would be virgins, if not for what ever reasons that history should be disclosed before moving forward. Then Get married or dont, 6 to 9 months is enough courtship time.