Do People Over Share on Social Media?

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kaylagrl

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I'm not judging here, just asking a question. You may say, "well the answer is obvious". But this one disturbed me a bit and I wondered what others thought.

I have a friend, we're not really close, but attended the same church at one time, been in each others homes. Time passed and we got busy with life. Recently her mother took ill, not sure what it was but they moved her to special care. My friend got on FB and was angry about how bad medical care is for the elderly and the cost. They were struggling to find a place for her. This past week things got worse and they were asking for prayers and I let them know I was praying. She then announced that her mother had decided to come of the respirator and that she was ready to "go home". Again said I would be praying. But then the last couple days she took videos of her mother saying goodbye to each family member, from her husband to her children. And somehow it just didn't sit right with me. I can't put my finger on why I felt that way. It just seemed to me to be a private moment. She said something along the lines of wanting people to see what happens to the elderly, it just felt off to me. Maybe it's just me.

I don't know whether my friend is a Christian now. She left her husband and has a new man, new relationship and he's not a believer. I believe her mother is saved. So I just wanted to ask others if they would be ok if this was their parent. Somehow it seemed disrespectful? I don't even know if that's the right word. Let me know how you feel about it and if you would do the same, or feel like me.
 
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I have seem pictures of dead bodies in the coffin, as well as very sick people in the hospital when I was on FaceBook. I do not believe the people who post these photos have bad intentions; they tend to have a lot of extended family and it seems their easiest way to share is through FaceBook. I personally would not do it but that's also because I am an introvert and a more private person.
 
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Maybe it would be appropriate if she had made it for a private group , for family and also asking people before hand if they would like to see said footage...I can for sure understand why you feel the way you do sister...Some images stay with us , especially without warning...xox...
 
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Rosemaryx said:
Maybe it would be appropriate if she had made it for a private group , for family and also asking people before hand if they would like to see said footage...I can for sure understand why you feel the way you do sister...Some images stay with us , especially without warning...xox...
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This friend wrote the time her mom passed today and said "the end". I know she is in shock and pain so I gently said " the end here on earth, but a new beginning in her new home". Her name is Alicia, if you all could remember her and her family in prayer. I know they are hurting today.
 
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kaylagrl said:
I'm not judging here, just asking a question. You may say, "well the answer is obvious". But this one disturbed me a bit and I wondered what others thought.

I have a friend, we're not really close, but attended the same church at one time, been in each others homes. Time passed and we got busy with life. Recently her mother took ill, not sure what it was but they moved her to special care. My friend got on FB and was angry about how bad medical care is for the elderly and the cost. They were struggling to find a place for her. This past week things got worse and they were asking for prayers and I let them know I was praying. She then announced that her mother had decided to come of the respirator and that she was ready to "go home". Again said I would be praying. But then the last couple days she took videos of her mother saying goodbye to each family member, from her husband to her children. And somehow it just didn't sit right with me. I can't put my finger on why I felt that way. It just seemed to me to be a private moment. She said something along the lines of wanting people to see what happens to the elderly, it just felt off to me. Maybe it's just me.

I don't know whether my friend is a Christian now. She left her husband and has a new man, new relationship and he's not a believer. I believe her mother is saved. So I just wanted to ask others if they would be ok if this was their parent. Somehow it seemed disrespectful? I don't even know if that's the right word. Let me know how you feel about it and if you would do the same, or feel like me.
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Strikes me as odd, too. The passing of a loved one is normally private for friends and family. The general public didn't know them like their family did and may not honor their final moments in a respectful way, but rather observing it for the sake of curiosity and/or entertainment; those aren't noble intentions to have when observing someone's final moments. I would consider sharing something like that on social media to be inappropriate unless they made a final request for it to happen or they granted permission.
 
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Strikes me as odd, too. The passing of a loved one is normally private for friends and family. The general public didn't know them like their family did and may not honor their final moments in a respectful way, but rather observing it for the sake of curiosity and/or entertainment; those aren't noble intentions to have when observing someone's final moments. I would consider sharing something like that on social media to be inappropriate unless they made a final request for it to happen or they granted permission.
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Just took me by surprise. The lady was laying ill in her bed, not even dressed and everything was shared. Her sister clinging to her as they both cried. I've been in this situation several times and I can't imagine sharing it in that way. We all know what people go through, we don't need a moment by moment. My aunt died when she was 43 and over a year later I met a friend in the mall and I was unable to discuss it. Those moments to me were private and I cherish to this day what those last moments were. Maybe crass is too strong a word, maybe inappropriate. It just didn't seem respectful to the lady on her home going.
 
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I'm not on FB, so I feel somewhat unqualified to speak to this particular situation. But of course, most people I know ARE on FB, and there are many times I hear of postings that make me wanna say, "Why would you want to share that with the world?" So I do feel people over share on social media, for the most part. Probably the main reason I'm not on FB or most other public platforms. But my exposure to CC is teaching me much!

Lifting up your friend Alicia and her family in prayer. 🙏
 
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kaylagrl said:
I'm not judging here, just asking a question. You may say, "well the answer is obvious". But this one disturbed me a bit and I wondered what others thought.

I have a friend, we're not really close, but attended the same church at one time, been in each others homes. Time passed and we got busy with life. Recently her mother took ill, not sure what it was but they moved her to special care. My friend got on FB and was angry about how bad medical care is for the elderly and the cost. They were struggling to find a place for her. This past week things got worse and they were asking for prayers and I let them know I was praying. She then announced that her mother had decided to come of the respirator and that she was ready to "go home". Again said I would be praying. But then the last couple days she took videos of her mother saying goodbye to each family member, from her husband to her children. And somehow it just didn't sit right with me. I can't put my finger on why I felt that way. It just seemed to me to be a private moment. She said something along the lines of wanting people to see what happens to the elderly, it just felt off to me. Maybe it's just me.

I don't know whether my friend is a Christian now. She left her husband and has a new man, new relationship and he's not a believer. I believe her mother is saved. So I just wanted to ask others if they would be ok if this was their parent. Somehow it seemed disrespectful? I don't even know if that's the right word. Let me know how you feel about it and if you would do the same, or feel like me.
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That's a very sad thing which you shared. Yes, people share things on social media from zits, to marriages, to family history, to funerals to child birth, etc

See the kids this generation? They're glued to their phones. People seem more disconnected with being a person out of the internet. Taking the time to type this is a good example.

I do this because it's sort of therapeutic, I guess. I'm a stranger here. No one knows how I look. I like to keep it that way.
I am active here but not that much.

I'm non existent on most social media channels. It's unnecessary.
The likes, ratings. It could mean something to someone and the person receiving that like could feel special. But I'd rather be complimented in person.

No. It's just that this generation has changed with media. But yes. That moment should be heartbreaking for a child. I cannot say how that lady would have felt or what she would have gone through emotionally. Posting on social media sometimes means that people cry out for help or comfort which they are not getting in their life.

I don't think that's wrong. For some people, specific moments in their life are very private and sacred. It's not like that for everyone these days. It's a sad thing. When a soul is about to depart to it's Creator, I think we should pray and stay close by that person. God rest that mother's soul and bring peace to that family.

Those videos could have been private. But who am I to judge. It's their lives.
 
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Answer to title question, yes. By far and away
 
Lanolin

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maybe its not something YOU would do Kayla but something your friend felt she ought to do.
Also FB is just one way of sharing to ppl who may be far away.

Funerals etc are now recorded and livestreamed...so

anyway you dont have to watch it if you dont want to or even BE on FB. Theres also the ignore button.

I am not on FB anymore as I dont need to know everyones personal business. When FB started it was just asite to play games on with friends out of uni, but now baby boomers have got on it, they all post pics of their children (even though the children would be embarassed by it) , pets, holidays, weddings, funerals etc.

What do you expect.
 
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I rember reading that Tori Spelling had her own 'reality' tv show and she was filmed giving birth and if that wasnt TMI I dont know what is lol

She would also take pics of her toilet bowl contents and post them. Anything can be shared on FB, they dont always police what ppl post. If you wanna be a busybody and pass judgement on eveyone elses postings you can always leave a comment. Thats what its there for. lol
 
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Adjust your notions of privacy. Not everyone can live in a multimilliondollar private fishbowl.
 
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On the rant about elderly care

well, this is why proponents for and against euthansia or end of life care want ppl to see how it is for people that die.

Not everyone is going to die this way, some people just get shot while they are in the middle of a motorcade and their brains get spilled out on national tv. Ya know?
 
Lanolin

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Or on a cross, naked, in front of jeering spectators.
 
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Meh, social media is for narcissists. Some people record every little detail of their lives, even a visit to the john. Oversharing, for sure, but what can one do?
 
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kaylagrl said:
I'm not judging here, just asking a question.
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Why shouldn't you be judging? Have the social media contributed anything positive to any life or to any nation? They were designed to manipulate people and they certainly succeeded. Just like iPhones. It is all about manipulation and control, which most people do not realize. And the Arch Manipulator -- the devil -- is the one who is in full control.
 
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Moses_Young said:
Meh, social media is for narcissists. Some people record every little detail of their lives, even a visit to the john. Oversharing, for sure, but what can one do?
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Put a pink flamingo 🦩 on your head I guess. 😄
You're a man of many hats Sheriff Moses.
It's a lot more interesting than my boring letter.
 
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HealthAndHappiness said:
Put a pink flamingo 🦩 on your head I guess. 😄
You're a man of many hats Sheriff Moses.
It's a lot more interesting than my boring letter.
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There's a new sheriff in town...and this town ain't big enough for the 2 of you.
 
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HealthAndHappiness said:
Put a pink flamingo 🦩 on your head I guess. 😄
You're a man of many hats Sheriff Moses.
It's a lot more interesting than my boring letter.
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I like your boring letter. When I see the "H" at a side of a post, I relax a little and think to myself "Ah, this one will be a post I can trust!" :)

Cameron143 said:
There's a new sheriff in town...and this town ain't big enough for the 2 of you.
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Lol. There was a new sheriff in town. Whose hat do you think I'm now wearing? ;-)
 
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Moses_Young said:
I like your boring letter. When I see the "H" at a side of a post, I relax a little and think to myself "Ah, this one will be a post I can trust!" :)

Lol. There was a new sheriff in town. Whose hat do you think I'm now wearing? ;-)
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I'm jealous I want a hat too.
 
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