Ok I think I get it Give this a read, or listen, see if it answers your question.
https://www.gty.org/library/sermons-library/45-09/the-wrath-of-god
https://www.gty.org/library/sermons-library/45-09/the-wrath-of-god
Romans 1
21For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.
There’s measure and balance with God’s wrath. It isn’t like God has only one switch that, once flipped, is either pure love or unfiltered wrath.
It’s like this:
Luke 12
47“The servant who knows the master’s will and does not get ready or does not do what the master wants will be beaten with many blows. 48But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.
And some other things toward the end were kinda off, but anyway it was pretty good and I wouldn’t be ashamed to share it with others.