Disfellowship isnt a new word. I posted the Oxford dictionary definition for you.
Also offering coffee does not qualify someone for disfellowship. It needs to be something along the lines of what is generally poor behavior. In this case, making a false accusation against someone and then the other is gaslighting. These are dishonest and poor behaviors that need corrected. I refuse to deal with such people until they change the behavior
“I refuse to deal with such people until they change the behavior”
“But when Jesus heard that, he said unto them,
They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick.
But go ye and
learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and
not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”
Matthew 9:12-13 KJV
You should consider how Jesus is on the gospel , and how the Pharisees he’s constantly rebuking are towards “ sinners “ if Jesus refused to deal with people until after they become righteous no one would ever change and hear his call to repentance
“And the
Pharisees and scribes murmured, saying,
This man receiveth sinners, and eateth with them.”
Luke 15:2 KJV
That’s what saves the sinners his mercy and forebearance towards them and his fellowship with them is the very thing that corrects thier behaviors as the follow and learn from him and learn to trust in and believe firmly
if we believe ourselves to be righteous we need to look into the gospel and see if his teachings are reflected in our own behavior towards other imperfect people. If we try to judge everyone unworthy we’ve missed it completely but we want to speak the gospel to them so they will hear his call to repentance
If we’re only willing to associate with those we deem righteous already we’re really missing it badly
“Now when the
Pharisee which had bidden him saw it, he spake within himself, saying,
This man, if he were a prophet, would have known who and what manner of woman this is that toucheth him: for she is a sinner.”
Luke 7:39 KJV
a notice the Pharisees are always standing back and peering at all the “ sinners “ and the sinners are always flocking in droves to hear and follow the lord Jesus ?
The woman was a sinner it says plainly but the Pharisee was shocked that Jesus would allow “ such a woman this sinnner” to touch him
“Wherefore I say unto thee,
Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but
to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.
And he said unto her, Thy sins are forgiven. And they that sat at meat with him began to say within themselves,
Who is this that forgiveth sins also? And he said to the woman, Thy faith hath saved thee; go in peace.”
Luke 7:47-50 KJV
if we’re looking at sin in others and judging them by it it’s because we aren’t letting the light shine on us first
dear brother , consider how Jesus treated known sinners and how Pharisees looked down thier noses at them and who actually came to Jesus and who stayed away from Him and accused the sinners he was accepting so he could heal them and lead them to repentance and righteousness
