Is it possible to be too ugly to get IRL friends?

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Lynx

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KJ91 said:
Of course, being negative is not helping. But the thing is that i was not negative for 16 years, and yet, nobody wanted to be my friend. So what
is the problem? It must be that im too ugly and too dumb.
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In the words of the great Confuse-Us:

It is okay to sit on your pity-pot now and then. Just be sure to flush when you get up.
 
Moses_Young

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KJ91 said:
It was my therapist doing those tests with me. Its not wrong resualts.
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Do you think your therapist has a financial incentive to keep you from achieving your own independence?
 
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Lynx said:
In the words of the great Confuse-Us:

It is okay to sit on your pity-pot now and then. Just be sure to flush when you get up.
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another post where you attack me, you dont have a life bro
 
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yoriii said:
Well you probably are not ugly. But, if you think you are ugly you have two choices:
- Accept it, try to find romance with your personality
- Become not ugly. If you work out and have a really fit body, it doesn't matter what your face looks like at all, people will still be attracted to you. Humans are programmed to find fit people attractive.
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i worked on my personality, but my low iq is a problem.

i have a fit body, sure its nice etc, but my ugly face still scares away people.
 
melita916

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Well regardless of things, we still have a purpose in the Lord. Volunteer in a ministry that serves others less fortunate. Soup kitchen. Homeless shelter. Orphanage.
 
Lynx

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KJ91 said:
another post where you attack me, you dont have a life bro
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No attacks here. I'm just saying if you'd quit being such a downer all the time you might have friends. Nobody wants to hang around someone who's always dragging the party down.
 
I_am_Canadian

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KJ91 said:
Its not about my self esteem its about facts. I am objective ugly and thats how it is. It sucks to be that in a shallow society.

I surrended myself to the Lord a long time ago.
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What exactly convinced you that your ugly??

You know I can relate to how you feel, I used to get teased and picked on in school. In fact I think my post on this is going to simulate another post I put up a while back lol.

Some lost people with out Christ are just cruel and heartless.

Here is a project for you and it doesn't have to be on here. But try listing 10 of your good qualities
 
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I_am_Canadian said:
What exactly convinced you that your ugly??

You know I can relate to how you feel, I used to get teased and picked on in school. In fact I think my post on this is going to simulate another post I put up a while back lol.

Some lost people with out Christ are just cruel and heartless.

Here is a project for you and it doesn't have to be on here. But try listing 10 of your good qualities
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This comes under cognitive therapy. Change your thinking and you change your emotions. Negative emotions are often the result of imbalanced thinking. Get that thinking into balance, and you will find your mood lighten. Because, you see, I'm an expert in this :sneaky:
 
I_am_Canadian

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In my case all I heard growing up at school is that I am fat and smelly.... And the only kids who want to be around me are the ones that want to bully me and beat me up.

I wonder how life would have turned out if I had been raised around people who actually wanted me around. That's the greatness of Christianity the power to change lives through Christ.

Gojira said:
This comes under cognitive therapy. Change your thinking and you change your emotions. Negative emotions are often the result of imbalanced thinking. Get that thinking into balance, and you will find your mood lighten. Because, you see, I'm an expert in this :sneaky:
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KJ91 said:
If someone is 1 of 10 on the look scale, and is horrible ugly with no chance to improve his looks, is it not possible then that people
will be ashamed to be viewed with this person? This person would drag down their social status. Its hard
being friend with someone who everytime they look at you they are almost puking because of how unattractive you are.

Many have told me that im so ugly that nobody is gonna want to have me as a friend IRL. Im so ugly people dont even view
me as a human, they view me as some alien species from Star Trek or something.

Im talking about IRl friends now, not internet friends.


I know, nobody is ugly in Gods eyes, and that is what is most important. Im talking about human beings now only. We are living in a shallow modern society.
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I'm sorry you had to experience that, you're definitely surrounded by the wrong people who don't respect you as a human being, cheer up, too bad this is not RL, I would be more than happy to be your friend and defend you against anyone who tries to speak negatively of you, nothing I hate more than seeing people being treated unfairly
 
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I_am_Canadian said:
What exactly convinced you that your ugly??

You know I can relate to how you feel, I used to get teased and picked on in school. In fact I think my post on this is going to simulate another post I put up a while back lol.

Some lost people with out Christ are just cruel and heartless.

Here is a project for you and it doesn't have to be on here. But try listing 10 of your good qualities
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Maaany told me that im not only ugly, but super ugly, most ugly guy in town etc.

No woman ever showed me any interest.

Its just a objective fact that im ugly, i can see that im ugly myself.
 
Lynx

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KJ91 said:
Maaany told me that im not only ugly, but super ugly, most ugly guy in town etc.

No woman ever showed me any interest.

Its just a objective fact that im ugly, i can see that im ugly myself.
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The pity party is still going?

Man, that's gonna be SOME hangover!
 
melita916

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When I was 13, someone said they would rather burn in hell than to call me. That comment affected me for many many years.
 
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KJ91 said:
Maaany told me that im not only ugly, but super ugly, most ugly guy in town etc.

No woman ever showed me any interest.

Its just a objective fact that im ugly, i can see that im ugly myself.
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Hang in there brother. I'm sure there is a woman out there for you. We're always our worst critic. I'm sure people don't see you the way you think they do. I think most people get rejected in their life. I was told to kick rocks a few times. No big deal. Don't get too down on yourself.
 
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