My sons find it difficult to find true christians sold out for Jesus
I reckon in response to your question, Are there many true Christians to date. I would have to say that is totally subjective, based upon what each individual would consider or define a true Christian.
Not saying or implying your sons do this by any means. However, anecdotally have observed that many folks eliminate others from the dating pool by their sometimes lofty criteria. Such as a woman may want a man who is over six foot, which is only about 15% of American males. Or want a man that makes over 100k a year again that is just a small percentage.
Men do it as well as they may only want a woman who may pass a certain beauty standard or weigh less than a certain amount or wear a particular dress size. So every criteria is going to eliminate possible prospects. That in and of itself is not bad as it can eliminate unhealthy relationships, but it can become bad when our criteria gets into the unreasonable spectrum.
Interesting on some of our criteria, lets take height for example. While only 15% of men are that height in the US. Of CEO's of fortune 500 companies 58% of them are that height. Which God ran up against that and had something to say when Samuel wanted to anoint a king based upon criteria of physical appearance. He said man judges the outside while God judges the heart.
I have oft heard from Christian woman that they want a Godly man a man that will have Godly leadership. So I often wonder and this goes for women as well as men. If what the problem is that we have been influenced by the world we live in. By which we live in a world of instant gratification and have it now. Drive thru windows, fast food, online ordering with express delivery. We live in a have it your way and get it now society.
So I often wonder has that influenced our mentality to believe that we have that same perspective when it comes to romantic relationships. Are we just waiting around at the finish line wanting the winners? When folks who have been married a lifetime are asked how did they do it. They answer such things as communication, never went to bed mad, and etc.
Undoubtedly each of their answers really is saying the same thing, we put the work in. Has our modern world crept in and now we all no longer want to put the work in but all want just the finished product? Is the problem with us as Christians is that we look on the outside and only want finished products instead of two becoming one and building a finished product together. Have we taken upon us the worlds mindset of wanting the finished product instead of a attitude of lets take us two raw materials and together put the work in and mold us into a finished product we can be proud of and God looks down and says it is good.
Have we eliminated possible prospects by merely looking for what is already done instead of being willing to do what needs to be done? So I would say for us men to find a woman who has a real heart for just wanting a Godly man. A woman who is willing to work with you and not against you. Two people working together it is my belief will find a way to iron out rough patches and will end up with a more customized personalized spouse of the one they truly wanted. As well as finding out along the way some of our expectations and criteria we had when we began was rather silly and unreasonable. I believe this will work for both the man and woman if they are willing to work together. So I have to wonder is the problem today as Christians when it comes to dating is that we want what is already built instead of doing the building.
