I agree, you do decide, but once you make that decision and get married, GOD has joined you....for better or for worse. I can fine that troubling. No matter how good things look at the beginning, it could end up being horrible. I don't like the idea of being single, but I have seen Christians who have gotten married and said it was the worst mistake they ever made. They were far worse off than me. Marriage can seem like a crap shoot.