We all have different preferences when it comes to being attracted to someone.
Whether it’s their physical look or personality, we are drawn to that person because of that one thing that they can do to trigger excitement.
Apart from the obvious of wanting a godly man or woman of God, what is ONE thing that captures your eye when it comes to talking to the opposite sex (not just anyone but someone who you find attracted to) and WHY?
Is it their eyes?
Hair colour?
Their laugh?
Energy?
Lips?
Arms? lol
For our friends who are married or in a relationship, what was it for you?
Lets go! 🔥
Some Christians get upset at this kind of a discussion because we're all supposed to be so spiritual that we deny our physical selves. But, God never told us to do that. It is just not meant to be out of balance or obsessed over.
For me, I
love dark eyes and dark hair. Love. If she has olive-complection skin, all the better. I prefer curvy to skinny, although I do want her to respect herself enough to keep herself in shape, at least to some extent.
A soft, feminine, but articulate voice is
very sexy.
Eye contact is also sexy.
A good, back & forth conversation, like a good tennis match, is also a highly desirable. If you're dead in conversation or cannot contribute much, I will be thoroughly bored. And, that leads to something else: varied interests. If your interests include fine dining, nights on the town, spending time with family and friends, and 'living life to the fullest', none of that means anything to me. That shows me that you have no imagination, no passion.
This is a list of the first things that come to mind. But, none of these are written in stone. I've met blondes, fair-skinned, and black women who have knocked me on my butt. In fact, there's a stunning lady here of African descent that, if we were closer in age and both single, I would muster up the courage to talk to her.
For my late wife, we first "met" on the computer, and then on the phone. Her voice is, to this day, hands down,
the sexiest voice I have ever heard. Period. When this ultra-sexy voice told me she liked Godzilla, well, need I say more?
And, the good thing about a list like this is that you do not need all of these in one person. If you get 65% of your preferences, I think you've done real well.