Nonsense. There is a preacher I like more than most on youtube he is country preacher out of Knoxville by the name of Charles Lawson. One of the things he said that really sunk in and find he has some wisdom in the words he said. He said if you don't understand what someone is saying or they make it complex or complicated. He said be sure they are making money off of it.
That is the case here for one romance does not mean the things that we are told by this world. Romance means Roman like. Has to do with the passions, attitudes, appetites, language, and such. Derived of course from a time that Rome was the worlds super power and had the heaviest influence upon the world and it's culture and attitudes.
Romance is also defined as a love affair a passionate, way intense affair that does not last but it is short lived. For one we would have to say that is not what folks are truly looking for but something lasting.
I would say that this 5 languages of love is nonsense is only one language of love it is God. In the beginning we were created in the image of God. His image is love in fact God uses that word to define who he is and more importantly what we would define as personality. God describes for us in the bible how that is his personality, his nature, his being.
So there is only one love language. Now there are aspects of love such as there are aspects of our personality. God defines these for us in the bible. I Cor 13 is one, John 3:16 another, For God so loved the world he gave. So we can absolutely say that when we love we give we can't help it. Because love is God's nature and personality and he has defined it since it is him. He has define it as love gives as God is love and he gives.
In fact when we read the word love we can replace it with God. Love is not puffed up, let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who humbled himself and took upon him the form of a servant and became obedient unto the cross. In fact our redemption, reconciliation, salvation and such in simple terms is fixing what is broken. We were made in the image of God. We were made to imitate him to image him the bible contains this language. Bible calls us ambassadors, servants, those are words to note that you image or represent some one else represent a kingdom that has a king.
We were created in the image of God to represent him to operate as he does. We fell, Christ has come to fix that and return us to what he created us to be to image, to represent, to operate in his image. Again the bible contains such language, follow me as I follow Christ, let this mind be in you, we are dead to the flesh but alive unto the spirit, be made over after Christ. The bible contains this language and is God's plan to fix his broken creation and again have it in his image operating and representing him.
Man makes things that are simple such as love, which is only one language into the complex such as it is 5 languages to show how wise they are then to sell you their program or book. Like Lawson said if it is complex or complicated be sure someone is making money off of it.
Romance in our modern terms I would say is affirmation plain and simple. I think woman love romance for that reason it is daily affirmation. Women in my experience really have no problem with if you love you give. Time and again I have seen gals when they go shopping for example. They will go out to get themselves something. They will walk by the clothing rack for children and even though they had no intention that day to buy something as such. They will buy so, reason being is that child is on there mind and they buy cause of need or to bless. It is out and out love, plain and simple.
Same thing concerning a man in their life same scenario they are going for themselves pass by a sports team shirt and think my man loves this team and buys it for him. Reason being he is on her mind and what she sees reminds her of him as he is already on her mind. Women do this in so many ways daily and without real thought of the process they just love and a certain person is on their mind so they get something to give them cause they love them. Because love gives it can't help but do so because love is God's personality and so it has to operate as he doe because it is him.
So with that said I find romance as we use it today as nothing more than affirmation for a gal. Cause she knows how her day is filled in thought of her love for a person in this case her man. So she likes affirmation to just show her she is loved as much as she loves. Which I do agree that as a man it is hard to out love a woman cause every affirmation I give just makes her fall deeper in love and the deeper she falls the more I am on her mind and the more she gives in every way with the most important being her respect which as a man I need and crave the most.
So I find affirmation or we will use the word romance frees her because she is secure and that security breaks down walls so she can give more and just blow my mind to the extent that God has placed that nature of him inside of her. In the end as a example a daily example of using her to show how much more he loves me cause she is but in his image but he is the very image he is love it is his very personality and nature and is greater than us and our imaging of him.
So I find saying love is more than simply God and his very nature and to make it more than what it is to come across as wisdom, is foolish as love is God and the sum total of his personality as he has defined himself as such. God needs no formula as he is just him and man likes to make it a formula, a book something he can make himself look wise while he makes a buck. Which is nonsense. The more we become like God and image him the more we will love as it is who he is and when we are like him we can't help but be like he is. The best way to give and show love or to be romantic is to become more like God as we will love more and of course affirm more that we do in fact love. The more of him we become the more like him we will reflect him.
God is light, which he then describes us as a candle not to be hidden because we reflect him and the more we become like him the more we image and the process of fixing what is is broken so we are made over into what we were created to be a image a refection of him and his majesty for his glory.
In closing let me say that this is no indictment of the author Chapman as I have no clue who he is, is more a indictment against academia as a whole to take concepts and make them a formula to sell their wares and to do so to be applauded for their wisdom. However, do find it nonsense for him to say love is 5 languages when love is a person and who he is, his personality as he has defined his personality.
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