Can Men and Women Be Platonic Friends?
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Actually, I have no such flaw.
I heard what you said and understood it, but here's what you seemingly don't understand...
On the one hand, there are men who would hear about such an attraction and selfishly do whatever is necessary to maintain or grow that attraction with no real regard for you. In other words, they're only after what they can get from you.
On the other hand, there are men who would hear about such an attraction and selflessly do whatever is necessary to best protect you even if that diminishes or puts a complete end to such an attraction. In other words, they're only after what's best for you.
This guy is a misogynist, and, with such being the case, I view him as a danger to women like you.
If you find it unattractive that a man like me would stand up to somebody like him in order to potentially protect you and other women here, then so be it.
I have nothing else to say except thank you for telling me what you honestly believe.
I heard what you said and understood it, but here's what you seemingly don't understand...
On the one hand, there are men who would hear about such an attraction and selfishly do whatever is necessary to maintain or grow that attraction with no real regard for you. In other words, they're only after what they can get from you.
On the other hand, there are men who would hear about such an attraction and selflessly do whatever is necessary to best protect you even if that diminishes or puts a complete end to such an attraction. In other words, they're only after what's best for you.
This guy is a misogynist, and, with such being the case, I view him as a danger to women like you.
If you find it unattractive that a man like me would stand up to somebody like him in order to potentially protect you and other women here, then so be it.
I have nothing else to say except thank you for telling me what you honestly believe.
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I definitely hope to be one of them... 
I'll be that older woman you're friends with!
I'll be that older woman you're friends with!
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So what? If somebody does get offended, what can a random person on an internet forum do to you?
SonsofCaleb got offended and put me on ignore. So what? It doesn't affect my paycheck at my job. It doesn't affect how my friends think about me in real life. It doesn't affect anything about my family or my church.
Some people actively look for things to be offended about. So what? Ignore them and move on. If you dwell on it you'll just get a headache.
SonsofCaleb got offended and put me on ignore. So what? It doesn't affect my paycheck at my job. It doesn't affect how my friends think about me in real life. It doesn't affect anything about my family or my church.
Some people actively look for things to be offended about. So what? Ignore them and move on. If you dwell on it you'll just get a headache.
Personally I think that’s good you can identify those good things about yourself. I see a number of others have taken offense to it, but in context of a singles forum I think men and women should be cognizant of their self-worth and their marketability in the dating arena. Quite frankly, women want the qualities you have and there’s a long list of qualities men want women to have too.
There’s an ideal spouse and then there’s what someone is willing to accept. What someone is willing to accept may be the core necessities. I’d be willing yo accept a woman who singularly brought me peace, but a woman must have many other qualities to be capable of that. My ideal spouse would have a very impressive résumé.
Honestly I think people should be more empowered and enabled to say many good things about themselves and of course praise God for the good things He gives. Often times people are quick to assume the worst of someone and associate them with negative terms, but personally I just believe you’re confident and realistic because I feel like we’ve talked enough for me to understand that you’re genuine.
My opinion, Christians seem to try to imitate an overly humble persona, at least exteriorly, but those same people would be hard-pressed to accept a potential spouse who literally had nothing of value to offer a relationship even if they were a Christian. Christians just aren’t looking for other Christians to date, they want what all other humans want, too. They want their date and potential spouse to be attractive physically, mentally, they want them to be successful, among many other things.
There’s an ideal spouse and then there’s what someone is willing to accept. What someone is willing to accept may be the core necessities. I’d be willing yo accept a woman who singularly brought me peace, but a woman must have many other qualities to be capable of that. My ideal spouse would have a very impressive résumé.
Honestly I think people should be more empowered and enabled to say many good things about themselves and of course praise God for the good things He gives. Often times people are quick to assume the worst of someone and associate them with negative terms, but personally I just believe you’re confident and realistic because I feel like we’ve talked enough for me to understand that you’re genuine.
My opinion, Christians seem to try to imitate an overly humble persona, at least exteriorly, but those same people would be hard-pressed to accept a potential spouse who literally had nothing of value to offer a relationship even if they were a Christian. Christians just aren’t looking for other Christians to date, they want what all other humans want, too. They want their date and potential spouse to be attractive physically, mentally, they want them to be successful, among many other things.
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I guess you missed all his other posts where he's boasting and bragging (even while saying he isn't) , THEN went on to tell someone to be prepared for some serious bragging by him
See for yourself:
With an attitude like that it really doesn't matter how many "good traits" he lists, it just makes him look all that much more let's just say "undesirable".
All these girls he claims to be able to get, I seriously question that. But let's just pretend there is some truth to it, I seriously question the girls. Sure, some may be real good looking, but any female who falls for the B.S he's bragging about must be severely "damaged goods"
See for yourself:
With an attitude like that it really doesn't matter how many "good traits" he lists, it just makes him look all that much more
let's just say "undesirable".All these girls he claims to be able to get, I seriously question that. But let's just pretend there is some truth to it, I seriously question the girls. Sure, some may be real good looking, but any female who falls for the B.S he's bragging about must be severely "damaged goods"
I guess you missed all his other posts where he's boasting and bragging (even while saying he isn't) , THEN went on to tell someone to be prepared for some serious bragging by him
See for yourself:
With an attitude like that it really doesn't matter how many "good traits" he lists, it just makes him look all that much more let's just say "undesirable".
See for yourself:
With an attitude like that it really doesn't matter how many "good traits" he lists, it just makes him look all that much more
let's just say "undesirable".
The other context reads like a joke to me because the person he was responding to was humble-bragging.
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Youre continuing to do what makes you unattractive and that is badmouth others. How can you not see this? Please stop it. And if Caleb or anyone is doing it please stop it.
I dont need protection from anyone here tbh I had to rely on God to give me strength because I had come across so called nice guys online and they were the ones who were out to use me.
Christian women should not be getting themselves into trouble where they need or rely on their husband to get them out of a bad situation. There is a big difference between protecting a wife from an armed intruder in your home and a woman who disagrees with a man online.
I wasnt trying to upset you about the listening flaw. I have it too with my own family. It is something Im trying to correct.
I dont need protection from anyone here tbh I had to rely on God to give me strength because I had come across so called nice guys online and they were the ones who were out to use me.
Christian women should not be getting themselves into trouble where they need or rely on their husband to get them out of a bad situation. There is a big difference between protecting a wife from an armed intruder in your home and a woman who disagrees with a man online.
I wasnt trying to upset you about the listening flaw. I have it too with my own family. It is something Im trying to correct.
You didn't upset me at all.
It's probably best if we just end our discussion here.
Again, I sincerely thank you and respect you for stating how you honestly feel, and I agree with certain things that you've said, but on other points we're worlds apart.
No offense to you whatsoever, but I'm bowing out of this discussion altogether.
Have a blessed night.
It's probably best if we just end our discussion here.
Again, I sincerely thank you and respect you for stating how you honestly feel, and I agree with certain things that you've said, but on other points we're worlds apart.
No offense to you whatsoever, but I'm bowing out of this discussion altogether.
Have a blessed night.
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Are you coming into his threads looking to instigate tho? It seems like it does affect you, you keep returning to his threads and actively hoping he can read your replies. Why does he affect you that way? Or is it just entertainment where you do your gets out popcorn thing. He actually had valid points to make. Kinda like how a lot of people dissed Trump for the grab by the p remark yet Trump had policies that changed peoples lives. Why cant you ignore when he brags. You take the bait tho.
I might just have to answer the next thread and thats it. Not even bother reading what others have to say.
I might just have to answer the next thread and thats it. Not even bother reading what others have to say.
With somebody who is this much of a blowhard, how can I pass it up?
You keep talking about people ganging up on the guy. If a large group of people all say the same thing, you might want to look closer at the person they are talking about and see if maybe they are right.
If one person says something negative about a video game, I generally overlook it. If there are many reviews about a certain game having a weak story line, I might watch a YouTube video before I buy that game and see if maybe they all right about it.
You keep talking about people ganging up on the guy. If a large group of people all say the same thing, you might want to look closer at the person they are talking about and see if maybe they are right.
If one person says something negative about a video game, I generally overlook it. If there are many reviews about a certain game having a weak story line, I might watch a YouTube video before I buy that game and see if maybe they all right about it.
As a rule no but there are always exceptions to the rules based on the people involved. I know with me i do and can pull it off nicely because im not giving too much of myself over or trying to get her either. If you know what you're doing and if you're aware enough about both peoples feelings and position you can bend the rules.
If it's between two lonely, thirsty date crazy people then NOPE it'll never work,they won't be platonic for long.
If it's between two lonely, thirsty date crazy people then NOPE it'll never work,they won't be platonic for long.
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