What Kind of Wife Do You Want?
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I don't know.
Maybe I will know when I meet her. Maybe I won't. Maybe I will meet her and gradually realize she's the one I want. Maybe it will never happen.
In the meantime I am enjoying the life I do have.
One thing I do know: None of these "what I want in a spouse" lists ever survives until the wedding day. Everybody I know who has made a list has always changed it - usually either paring it down to nothing or throwing it out entirely.
Maybe I will know when I meet her. Maybe I won't. Maybe I will meet her and gradually realize she's the one I want. Maybe it will never happen.
In the meantime I am enjoying the life I do have.
One thing I do know: None of these "what I want in a spouse" lists ever survives until the wedding day. Everybody I know who has made a list has always changed it - usually either paring it down to nothing or throwing it out entirely.
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I'm not sure that marriage would ever again be in the cards for me, but I can easily tell you what type of woman I am interested in:
A woman whose heart would be genuinely open to both God and me, even as my own heart would be genuinely open to both God and her.
To me, that's a recipe for success.
Anything less is destined for failure.
A woman whose heart would be genuinely open to both God and me, even as my own heart would be genuinely open to both God and her.
To me, that's a recipe for success.
Anything less is destined for failure.
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At this point I think the ideal wife should just bring her husband peace. From my perspective, life is already chaotic. We can’t really control anything. I see that many things in life can be stressful such as our jobs, our commute to/from our jobs, interacting with the general public, but home should be a retreat from the world; an impenetrable fortress of peace, but what if it is compromised by the enemy within? The insider threat.
Someone once said, “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t know.” What if the devil we know is living under our roof and sleeping in bed with us?
What if even our home is stressful? Then we don’t really have any place in the world where there is peace except for maybe a retreat from the world into the solitude of nature or our inner sanctum.
So peace is a high priority for me. Social/economic status, intellect, and other things are low priorities. I would literally marry someone who had nothing else if she brought peace and happiness to my heart and soul.
Someone once said, “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t know.” What if the devil we know is living under our roof and sleeping in bed with us?
What if even our home is stressful? Then we don’t really have any place in the world where there is peace except for maybe a retreat from the world into the solitude of nature or our inner sanctum.
So peace is a high priority for me. Social/economic status, intellect, and other things are low priorities. I would literally marry someone who had nothing else if she brought peace and happiness to my heart and soul.
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Amen to each and every sentence. I told God (because I can be honest with Him), "I want one hundred common women or just one jewel from You." In high school, many of my friends were part of the gang called Gangster Disciples (or FOLKS depending on where you live). They wanted me to join, but the only reason I didn't join was because I knew I wouldn't be committed for life (it would just be a phase in life). In college, most of my friends were from the Sigma Phi Epsilon fraternity. They wanted me to join, but the only reason I didn't join was because I knew I wouldn't be committed for life (it would just be a phase in my life). I wanted to get tattoos in high school. The only reason I didn't get any was because I knew I wouldn't want the tattoos later on in life (they would just be a phase in my life).
When I commit to something or someone, I'm committed for life because I look into the future and consider it before committing. Therefore, if I'm going to commit to one woman rather than having one hundred, that one woman has to be 'perfect'. I love the word perfect which is also translated 'blameless'. What a beautiful word! I love when God told Abraham, "I am God Almighty. Walk before Me, and be perfect" (Genesis 17:1). Jesus also said, "Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect" (Matthew 5:48). And my favorite line in the movie 'Remember the Titans' was when the coach told the football team with tremendous resolve, "We will be perfect."
I believe only in good investments. I'm not committing to a woman unless God assures me that it is a good and lifelong investment. Period. I need assurance beforehand. I believe, looking on my heart and having watched me turn down women of every type and be more than happy to do it every day (their looks matter nothing to me if there's no godly or at least decent character), I believe God will honor my desire. The devils I know and don't know can't come on my property let alone be sleeping in the same bed. No deal.
Proverbs 18:22 gives us single men hope of finding a godly wife who, as you said, brings us peace. The Amplified Version unfolds it this way: "He who finds a [true and faithful] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor and approval from the LORD." That's beautiful. All the translations say it in poetic language: https://biblehub.com/proverbs/18-22.htm.
"Je suis Dieu Tout-Puissant. Marche devant Moi et sois parfait."
When I commit to something or someone, I'm committed for life because I look into the future and consider it before committing. Therefore, if I'm going to commit to one woman rather than having one hundred, that one woman has to be 'perfect'. I love the word perfect which is also translated 'blameless'. What a beautiful word! I love when God told Abraham, "I am God Almighty. Walk before Me, and be perfect" (Genesis 17:1). Jesus also said, "Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect" (Matthew 5:48). And my favorite line in the movie 'Remember the Titans' was when the coach told the football team with tremendous resolve, "We will be perfect."
I believe only in good investments. I'm not committing to a woman unless God assures me that it is a good and lifelong investment. Period. I need assurance beforehand. I believe, looking on my heart and having watched me turn down women of every type and be more than happy to do it every day (their looks matter nothing to me if there's no godly or at least decent character), I believe God will honor my desire. The devils I know and don't know can't come on my property let alone be sleeping in the same bed. No deal.
Proverbs 18:22 gives us single men hope of finding a godly wife who, as you said, brings us peace. The Amplified Version unfolds it this way: "He who finds a [true and faithful] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor and approval from the LORD." That's beautiful. All the translations say it in poetic language: https://biblehub.com/proverbs/18-22.htm.
"Je suis Dieu Tout-Puissant. Marche devant Moi et sois parfait."
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Amen.
"It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house." (Proverbs 21:9, 25:24)
"It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." (Proverbs 21:19)
"A continual dripping on a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike; Whoever restrains her restrains the wind,
and grasps oil with his right hand." (Proverbs 27:15-16)
Been there.
Done that.
Bought the t-shirt.
I still love women, though...
"It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house." (Proverbs 21:9, 25:24)
"It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." (Proverbs 21:19)
"A continual dripping on a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike; Whoever restrains her restrains the wind,
and grasps oil with his right hand." (Proverbs 27:15-16)
Been there.
Done that.
Bought the t-shirt.
I still love women, though...
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