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Akigeno

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I have been dating guys who are telling me how they love me and everything was ok till a day all fall apart without any reason. They don't want to continue the relationship but they don't tell me why, they just disappeared. I don't see anything I did to push them out. I am wondering what's the problem with me. But all the time I tried to be a godly lady. Are christian guys find boring a godly and christian minded girl or?what do you think?
 
Lafftur

Lafftur

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Hello Akigeno, :love:

If I enter a relationship and make it all about me, then when the relationship fails I will also make the reason it failed all about me by asking the question.... "What's the problem with me? What's wrong with me?"

We need to open our eyes... it takes two people to have a relationship, not one. If the relationship fails, it failed because of both people.... there were things that both of you could not agree on.

Two people cannot walk together unless they AGREE. The feelings, thoughts, emotions, hopes, plans for the future, even the purpose for the relationship, and tons of other things, need to AGREE or you both need to AGREE to disagree on certain things.

My guess is... there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you! God has intricately designed you! You're amazing! Keep looking for the person you AGREE with by so doing, you'll open your eyes and understand - a relationship is about TWO people that become ONE by AGREEING... a relationship is a covenant... an AGREEMENT.

We are not to be unequally yoked because there is NO agreement between light and darkness. God is center stage always! It is good that you are being a godly woman as you pursue a relationship. Excellent! :love:(y)
 
JohnDB

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From Uganda?
Too many macho men!

Just saying....
When you don't fall over yourself at their maleness...they get their feelings hurt.

You are wanting a unique and special relationship...you think that it's going to follow the rules for average?

Just remember....good things come to those who wait but not to those who are too timid to act.
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

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Im a gonna hook you up with.. @Robertt he's looking for someone godly
 
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Akigeno

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Lafftur said:
Hello Akigeno, :love:

If I enter a relationship and make it all about me, then when the relationship fails I will also make the reason it failed all about me by asking the question.... "What's the problem with me? What's wrong with me?"

We need to open our eyes... it takes two people to have a relationship, not one. If the relationship fails, it failed because of both people.... there were things that both of you could not agree on.

Two people cannot walk together unless they AGREE. The feelings, thoughts, emotions, hopes, plans for the future, even the purpose for the relationship, and tons of other things, need to AGREE or you both need to AGREE to disagree on certain things.

My guess is... there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you! God has intricately designed you! You're amazing! Keep looking for the person you AGREE with by so doing, you'll open your eyes and understand - a relationship is about TWO people that become ONE by AGREEING... a relationship is a covenant... an AGREEMENT.

We are not to be unequally yoked because there is NO agreement between light and darkness. God is center stage always! It is good that you are being a godly woman as you pursue a relationship. Excellent! :love:(y)
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Thank you for your encouragement and words of wisdom. God bless you.
 
Subhumanoidal

Subhumanoidal

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Akigeno said:
I have been dating guys who are telling me how they love me and everything was ok till a day all fall apart without any reason. They don't want to continue the relationship but they don't tell me why, they just disappeared. I don't see anything I did to push them out. I am wondering what's the problem with me. But all the time I tried to be a godly lady. Are christian guys find boring a godly and christian minded girl or?what do you think?
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Perhaps it's time to reconsider who you're going out with and why. If you're going out with so many men and they're all telling you they love you that suggests you're picking the wrong kind of men.
It may be wise to date less and spend more time getting to know men better, first, before dating them.
Any man pushy to date or too eager to express their "love" for you is likely to be someone to avoid.
 
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