Signs You May be Addicted to Christian Chat.
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Don't let certain people here get you down.
There are some here who fancy themselves to be in charge of what can and cannot be done or said, but they just have overinflated opinions of themselves.
That said and fully meant, I just read your other post about your past.
I'm sorry that you had to go through all of those things, but I thank you for posting it just the same.
Perhaps if more people here shared some of their backgrounds and what they've had to endure in life, then others might not be so harsh in their judgments against them.
Have a blessed night.
There are some here who fancy themselves to be in charge of what can and cannot be done or said, but they just have overinflated opinions of themselves.
That said and fully meant, I just read your other post about your past.
I'm sorry that you had to go through all of those things, but I thank you for posting it just the same.
Perhaps if more people here shared some of their backgrounds and what they've had to endure in life, then others might not be so harsh in their judgments against them.
Have a blessed night.
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Hi Robertt,
I guess I'm one of those weird people who doesn't really mind seeing old threads being dug up. And since some of them are threads that I wrote in 2009, it's interesting to me to see what I was thinking back then. Thank you for adding to the discussions!
I know you must feel like you're caught in a real Catch 22 here. First, you're disappointed that the real-time chat is down, and all you want to do is connect with people. Next, you've come to the forums looking for conversation and have even been brave enough to start some of your own threads! Kudos for that, because not many people are willing to risk the criticism that writing threads will often bring.
I have written a ton of threads over the years and my biggest pet peeve is when someone who doesn't write threads or only writes threads about safe topics that don't generate much controversy tries to tell me what I should and shouldn't be writing, and what I should or shouldn't be asking. I always encourage them to write their own threads about their own topics if they're so interested in their own advice, but 99.99% of the time, they never do.
I don't mind feedback at all -- it's helped me develop a format I follow for almost every thread I write -- but when someone who won't do what they're telling me to do but thinks they can tell me how to do it, I just have to acknowledge that they have a right to their own opinion, and I move on (sometimes using the complaint they're bringing up as an idea for a future thread, since they won't do it themselves.)
So you were told to keep writing and posting here so that people can get to know you, and that's sound advice, but now there's this concern about old threads being brought up and apparently that's a big no-no (I don't see it as being a problem, but I guess forums apparently do.)
It kind of looks like you are being told: "No one can get to know you if you don't post!" (And so you keep posting.) "No, no, no, not THOSE threads! Yes, you should post more, but not in any thread that's over XXXX old!!!" But yet no one is writing any new threads to be responded to, so what exactly are you supposed to do? How can you post when there aren't any new threads to post on? So again, I give you credit for trying to start threads of your own, because I know it takes a lot of guts to do that.
Goodness. You must be banging your head against a wall by now. I know I would be!
I hope you will continue to find topics you're interested in and will just keep on trying. Don't give up!
May I suggest one thing though (and you can feel free to just brush this off as just my own opinion,) but I've noticed that you put yourself down in every post you write. It can be hard to know how to approach someone who does this, because you're not sure of what the other person wants you to say. I know that if I try to approach someone who is always negative about themselves, I'm not sure what to talk about when they're always telling me what a loser they are.
I can assure you that ALL of us here have been called losers by someone, all of us have been bullied, all of us have had failures in our lives, so you are definitely not alone.
What are some things that God has brought you through?
Do you have any positives, accomplishments, or skills that feel like achievements you've made?
What kinds of topics do you enjoy talking about when you're getting to know someone?
I guess I'm one of those weird people who doesn't really mind seeing old threads being dug up. And since some of them are threads that I wrote in 2009, it's interesting to me to see what I was thinking back then. Thank you for adding to the discussions!
I know you must feel like you're caught in a real Catch 22 here. First, you're disappointed that the real-time chat is down, and all you want to do is connect with people. Next, you've come to the forums looking for conversation and have even been brave enough to start some of your own threads! Kudos for that, because not many people are willing to risk the criticism that writing threads will often bring.
I have written a ton of threads over the years and my biggest pet peeve is when someone who doesn't write threads or only writes threads about safe topics that don't generate much controversy tries to tell me what I should and shouldn't be writing, and what I should or shouldn't be asking. I always encourage them to write their own threads about their own topics if they're so interested in their own advice, but 99.99% of the time, they never do.
I don't mind feedback at all -- it's helped me develop a format I follow for almost every thread I write -- but when someone who won't do what they're telling me to do but thinks they can tell me how to do it, I just have to acknowledge that they have a right to their own opinion, and I move on (sometimes using the complaint they're bringing up as an idea for a future thread, since they won't do it themselves.)
So you were told to keep writing and posting here so that people can get to know you, and that's sound advice, but now there's this concern about old threads being brought up and apparently that's a big no-no (I don't see it as being a problem, but I guess forums apparently do.)
It kind of looks like you are being told: "No one can get to know you if you don't post!" (And so you keep posting.) "No, no, no, not THOSE threads! Yes, you should post more, but not in any thread that's over XXXX old!!!" But yet no one is writing any new threads to be responded to, so what exactly are you supposed to do? How can you post when there aren't any new threads to post on? So again, I give you credit for trying to start threads of your own, because I know it takes a lot of guts to do that.
Goodness. You must be banging your head against a wall by now. I know I would be!
I hope you will continue to find topics you're interested in and will just keep on trying. Don't give up!
May I suggest one thing though (and you can feel free to just brush this off as just my own opinion,) but I've noticed that you put yourself down in every post you write. It can be hard to know how to approach someone who does this, because you're not sure of what the other person wants you to say. I know that if I try to approach someone who is always negative about themselves, I'm not sure what to talk about when they're always telling me what a loser they are.
I can assure you that ALL of us here have been called losers by someone, all of us have been bullied, all of us have had failures in our lives, so you are definitely not alone.
What are some things that God has brought you through?
Do you have any positives, accomplishments, or skills that feel like achievements you've made?
What kinds of topics do you enjoy talking about when you're getting to know someone?
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um if you talking about the chat app I have never been on it, I once tried it once but my ipad didnt support it, so, I cant be addicted to something I cannot even use.
so sorry, but the forum I do use, though I dont think Ive reached addiction status going by what others have posted.
Because, amazingly for this forum I have not been banned. Even though I do play on the banned game. Or come back as a different user, that's a bit suss....
However maybe its a matter of semantics. I would not say Im ADDICTED, but I am DEVOTED. or maybe FAITHFUL
and does it matter if I post here in my pyjamas? I dont think it matters.
so sorry, but the forum I do use, though I dont think Ive reached addiction status going by what others have posted.
Because, amazingly for this forum I have not been banned. Even though I do play on the banned game. Or come back as a different user, that's a bit suss....
However maybe its a matter of semantics. I would not say Im ADDICTED, but I am DEVOTED. or maybe FAITHFUL
and does it matter if I post here in my pyjamas? I dont think it matters.
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I could be wrong about this, so if other CC'ers who remember or if the rules have changed, feel free to correct me.
The only time I've ever seen someone get in trouble here for bumping old threads was when we had a member who constantly flooded the forum with his own "THIS IS WHAT YOU ALL NEED TO BE DOING TO PROVE YOU'RE REAL CHRISTIANS"-type threads/sermons/lectures.
When he didn't get a response or apparently didn't think enough people had seen his lessons for the day, he would bump all of his own threads, pushing any newer threads down or off the page so that his were always at the top, even though they were old and no one was answering them.
If I remember right, a moderator asked him to stop bumping them. I don't think he was told to stop writing threads (he could keep writing to his heart's content,) but he was asked to stop taking over the entire front page with his own threads.
Again, I could be wrong, but my point is just that I don't believe this particular forum has rules against bumping old threads. I know a lot of people don't like it, but as they notice the dates and make others aware that it's an older thread, they can always just choose to ignore it.
But that's just my own opinion and of course, everyone is entitled to their own.
The only time I've ever seen someone get in trouble here for bumping old threads was when we had a member who constantly flooded the forum with his own "THIS IS WHAT YOU ALL NEED TO BE DOING TO PROVE YOU'RE REAL CHRISTIANS"-type threads/sermons/lectures.
When he didn't get a response or apparently didn't think enough people had seen his lessons for the day, he would bump all of his own threads, pushing any newer threads down or off the page so that his were always at the top, even though they were old and no one was answering them.
If I remember right, a moderator asked him to stop bumping them. I don't think he was told to stop writing threads (he could keep writing to his heart's content,) but he was asked to stop taking over the entire front page with his own threads.
Again, I could be wrong, but my point is just that I don't believe this particular forum has rules against bumping old threads. I know a lot of people don't like it, but as they notice the dates and make others aware that it's an older thread, they can always just choose to ignore it.
But that's just my own opinion and of course, everyone is entitled to their own.
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I wrote this thread in 2009, and just to provide some background info, it was a completely different crowd and atmosphere back then. The live chat was hopping at the time, so many people were spending time both chatting AND posting here in the forums, which allowed us to get to know each other a little better at that atime.
We had several regulars here in Singles who were literally here ALL the time, with new threads and replies going up constantly -- there was so much activity that it was actually hard to keep up.
People would joke about the things they were missing out on in real life to be here, so I started this thread as continuation of all the jokes that we were all becoming addicted to CC and it was taking over our lives.
We had several regulars here in Singles who were literally here ALL the time, with new threads and replies going up constantly -- there was so much activity that it was actually hard to keep up.
People would joke about the things they were missing out on in real life to be here, so I started this thread as continuation of all the jokes that we were all becoming addicted to CC and it was taking over our lives.
I said so and he complained that I was correcting him, and proceeded to criticize me
some more. After he assumed things about me that were wrong. Like it is okay for him
to wrongfully assume things, but not okay for anyone to correct him when he does so.
Heh, I remember him. I did not realize he had gotten in trouble for it, though. That is, if we are
thinking about the same person. Did he used to bump his threads with no text, just a series of ***?
some more. After he assumed things about me that were wrong. Like it is okay for him
to wrongfully assume things, but not okay for anyone to correct him when he does so.
Heh, I remember him. I did not realize he had gotten in trouble for it, though. That is, if we are
thinking about the same person. Did he used to bump his threads with no text, just a series of ***?
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It may not be your choice to have had bad or negative things done to you in the past happen to you. It is your choice what you're going to do about it. So what do you like about yourself ( doesn't have to be a really important thing: really white teeth or being tall enough to reach the top shelf (or short enough to never bump your head on low ceilings) can be a starting place)? What would make your life better or at least more pleasant and what can you do to move towards that becoming a reality?
There's a lot of introverted nerds around here so you're in good company. And some of us have found that the first step to changing your life is to change your perspective. And maybe that won't materially change your life, but it can bring more hope into your life; and hope is a powerful tonic.
There's a lot of introverted nerds around here so you're in good company. And some of us have found that the first step to changing your life is to change your perspective. And maybe that won't materially change your life, but it can bring more hope into your life; and hope is a powerful tonic.
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Sorry , I know of no good thing about me , Whenever I think I find something people take great pleasure in destroying that thought . So I continue to seek anything they god placed within me for goodness .
What do I need . As I said so mint times . I am Adam , I need my eve ti treasure , to hehe her feel special , I yearn for that missing part of me . I feel gid has taken the rib but I cannot find her
Thanks for sone kind words hope I haven’t said too much again
What do I need . As I said so mint times . I am Adam , I need my eve ti treasure , to hehe her feel special , I yearn for that missing part of me . I feel gid has taken the rib but I cannot find her
Thanks for sone kind words hope I haven’t said too much again
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well the internet was probably a newish thing for a lot of people back in 2009, I am sure ppl didnt have wifi and broadband back then it would have been slow dialup. Though I think I first got online around 1998 it was in its infancy. I started out on Christian forums, not this one in 2011. Though I had been on other forums before that, so Ive always been a forum 'user' or 'member' of some sort. I actually prefer it to other forms of social media which has been overrun with advertising, at least with this forum its not
There is a sort of ettiquette (or netiquette) that you need to have online to stop all the overwhelming info dumps people put on it or the need to constantly respond to posts. oh and trolls. Nobody wants to wade through miles of someone elses rants and insecurities that got nothing to do with anything.
Most people are looking for some light relief from everyday grind and a chance to connect with someone or just to feel like they not alone in whatver they going through, if they dont actually have anything of interest to talk about.
I mean I can easily just start a thread on anything, say SOCKS and I would expect that anyone who posts in the sock thread would stick to the topic of socks.
There is a sort of ettiquette (or netiquette) that you need to have online to stop all the overwhelming info dumps people put on it or the need to constantly respond to posts. oh and trolls. Nobody wants to wade through miles of someone elses rants and insecurities that got nothing to do with anything.
Most people are looking for some light relief from everyday grind and a chance to connect with someone or just to feel like they not alone in whatver they going through, if they dont actually have anything of interest to talk about.
I mean I can easily just start a thread on anything, say SOCKS and I would expect that anyone who posts in the sock thread would stick to the topic of socks.
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chat rooms have always been notorious for people trying to hookups, well when we say someones chatting you up thats just code for a man trying to get you to go to bed with them
I dont know if thats the case on CC live chat but that has always been the thing with SOME internet chatrooms where you go with strangers and you arent like asking for help or anything.
I would have been wary of that kind of chatting if I add youto whatsapp whatever and you are online I expect you to respect boundaries and not assume that we are going out or anything (because of global timezones etc) but just as someone to talk to, like a friend, not oh am going to jump your bones and fantasize about stuff that is not goin to happen and come on to me (if you female, you understand what I mean)
which SOME men have done, even if they were married. Im like. I dont want to hear your dirty talk thanks. I hope CC isnt like that but it probably has its share of trolls on the livechat...
I dont know if thats the case on CC live chat but that has always been the thing with SOME internet chatrooms where you go with strangers and you arent like asking for help or anything.
I would have been wary of that kind of chatting if I add youto whatsapp whatever and you are online I expect you to respect boundaries and not assume that we are going out or anything (because of global timezones etc) but just as someone to talk to, like a friend, not oh am going to jump your bones and fantasize about stuff that is not goin to happen and come on to me (if you female, you understand what I mean)
which SOME men have done, even if they were married. Im like. I dont want to hear your dirty talk thanks. I hope CC isnt like that but it probably has its share of trolls on the livechat...
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