How do you share your life with others?

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TheIndianGirl

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How do you share your life with those not living with/near you?

At the moment I do not have any social media where I share personal information/photos (Facebook, Instagram, Tiktok, etc.) to friends. There are some instances where things cannot be described by words alone, but through pictures. I thought about sharing photos through Google photos but I don't like those type of photo-sharing sites. I was thinking of starting a private blog where I can share photos with a few close friends and family. I was thinking a blog was ideal, since I can share but I won't be spending time looking at other people's stuff (like Facebook). I only intend to post a few times a year (especially if I go somewhere new/interesting, maybe food I cooked and wanted to share, a new discovery, etc.). Any advice on this? I feel kind of odd sharing my stuff (I believe people would have to sign up for the blog site to view), yet I am not willing to sign up on Facebook to view their pictures. My friends are on Facebook, they might think I don't care enough about them to join Facebook yet I am requesting them to join the blog site (they have to sign up for private access, I believe).
 
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I don't share much unless I think somebody is interested. There are too many people sharing too much, desperately looking for an audience who will appreciate what they are sharing. I think I should not add to the flood.
 
Mii

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Why not just try out the blog section here on CC?

The ONLY issue that I find is that you can't edit posts past the 5 minute window and that you need to put more forethought into it but guests can see posts just fine. It's not as polished or anything, but to just test the waters and try it out?

Seems sufficient.


Just lay out some ground rules for people to know how best to na\/igate if it ends up being a bit jumbled.

Ex: if you are going to post in response to a blog post I made, please link the post # and show them how to do that or mention what @ing someone does, etc. You are sharing yourself each time you post on CC so it seems not unreasonable for someone to make that extra effort.

I'd go to whate\/er site someone directed me to if it were free and I had an interest in it in some fashion. I might only spend an hour reading what they wrote to get to know them a little better but not wanting to use FB isn't unreasonable.

I'\/e encountered a few people that are pretty rooted into what they use "...If you don't use FB, then you're not my FRIEND!@)!@*)(*"

For me, if let's say I only posted here and they didn't want to get on here, then we probably just wouldn't connect as much...just makes things more distant.


TheIndianGirl said:
yet I am requesting them to join the blog site (they have to sign up for private access, I believe).
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Magenta

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Mii said:
Why not just try out the blog section here on CC?
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Is such a thing then not viewable to the whole world? If privacy an issue and only a small selected
audience the desired target, such a widely publicly available blog would defeat that purpose :unsure:
 
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Magenta said:
Is such a thing then not viewable to the whole world? If privacy an issue and only a small
selected audience the desired target, such a publicly available blog would defeat that purpose.
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Oh lol I didn't really think about that element...*sigh*

I guess I just figure that strangers will look at anything you think is "private" on the internet anyway. Who is the blog master? Who built the site? What admins have access to your content if they so desired?

Here when you are using a randomized username that you only give out to friends...who else is going to really stumble on it? It's a very low traffic forum.


I'll admit though...being "mostly" public in that regard does change what I say.
 
Magenta

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Mii said:
Oh lol I didn't really think about that element...*sigh*

I guess I just figure that strangers will look at anything you think is "private" on the internet anyway. Who is the blog master? Who built the site? What admins have access to your content if they so desired?

Here when you are using a randomized username that you only give out to friends...who else is going to really stumble on it? It's a very low traffic forum.


I'll admit though...being "mostly" public in that regard does change what I say.
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I think when personal pictures are being shared aside from just comments
and life stories it takes it to a different level and makes a bigger difference.
I am a little leery of posting personal pics of myself but I have, simply because
I am a long time member of this online community. People appreciate it.
Although I speak of my daughter often, I have never posted her pic, or even
publicly said her name. Or my own given name, for that matter :giggle:
 
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They got my email and phone number, my wife's contact information, and they have other family members that have mine. They can contact me at any time and I return those missed calls and emails.

Otherwise it's just broadcasting. I am not a fan of doing so. They want to know or hear...they can ask me personally. I'll be very liberal with what I tell them.
 
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TheIndianGirl

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JohnDB said:
They got my email and phone number, my wife's contact information, and they have other family members that have mine. They can contact me at any time and I return those missed calls and emails.

Otherwise it's just broadcasting. I am not a fan of doing so. They want to know or hear...they can ask me personally. I'll be very liberal with what I tell them.
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If I create this blog, I would only give access to about 10 ten people I can think of. I am not a fan of broadcasting to the whole world either. I think it is just easier to post on a central site, instead of coordinating/emailing separately etc. With Facebook, even if I limit to only 10 people people will find me and add me either through search or friend of friends, and will get offended if I don't accept.
 
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There may be a better option than a blog. I'm all ears.
 
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TheIndianGirl

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Magenta said:
I think when personal pictures are being shared aside from just comments
and life stories it takes it to a different level and makes a bigger difference.
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Agreed. Pictures make a difference.
 
Hazelelponi

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TheIndianGirl said:
How do you share your life with those not living with/near you?

At the moment I do not have any social media where I share personal information/photos (Facebook, Instagram, Tiktok, etc.) to friends. There are some instances where things cannot be described by words alone, but through pictures. I thought about sharing photos through Google photos but I don't like those type of photo-sharing sites. I was thinking of starting a private blog where I can share photos with a few close friends and family. I was thinking a blog was ideal, since I can share but I won't be spending time looking at other people's stuff (like Facebook). I only intend to post a few times a year (especially if I go somewhere new/interesting, maybe food I cooked and wanted to share, a new discovery, etc.). Any advice on this? I feel kind of odd sharing my stuff (I believe people would have to sign up for the blog site to view), yet I am not willing to sign up on Facebook to view their pictures. My friends are on Facebook, they might think I don't care enough about them to join Facebook yet I am requesting them to join the blog site (they have to sign up for private access, I believe).
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What your describing is a Facebook page.

Why not join Facebook and put your page on private except for your friends that you allow access to view?

You can just note on your page as a message to your friends that you don't have time to visit the site often, that way they don't expect a lot of participation from you on their pages.

If it's a site they are already on, that's honestly your best bet. You don't have to have your Facebook posts public - just set everything you post to private except your freinds..
 
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Hazelelponi said:
What your describing is a Facebook page.

Why not join Facebook and put your page on private except for your friends that you allow access to view?

You can just note on your page as a message to your friends that you don't have time to visit the site often, that way they don't expect a lot of participation from you on their pages.

If it's a site they are already on, that's honestly your best bet. You don't have to have your Facebook posts public - just set everything you post to private except your freinds..
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I deleted Facebook because I was spending a lot of time on it, plus other issues such as privacy concerns, a lot of my "friends" I no longer contact, too many ads, Zuckerberg, etc. But, otherwise I really liked Facebook and how the page was set up. I don't plan on going back to Facebook.
 
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I use Discord with a bunch of my friends and we just go back and forth with stuff. If you create your own channel and post in there you could invite your friends while keeping everyone else out. You could also use Discord to post Youtube videos and link private/ unlisted link only videos that normal people can't see if you intend to go the route of making your blogs into vlogs but want to keep them under the radar.
 
JohnDB

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Considering my lack of social media and my family's lack of reaching out to just say "hello, how are you doing? What's going on in your life? "

I feel confident that if it was published in the newspaper that I had won the lottery....they all would suddenly find the gumption to find out.

Even cousins I'm not even sure of their familial relationship.
 
Mii

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Magenta said:
People appreciate it.
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Yeah I haven't yet shared a personal picture of me except the one recent(ish) thread but I was 3 lol.

I'm just weird about pictures. I don't particularly want to psychoanalyze how I feel about them at present...I'm sure I will though now just not in a post :p

Sometimes it feels selfish not to allow someone to have an image of me when let's say a 90 minute film of me would have well over 100,000 pictures if you took a snapshot of each frame. 1440 minute day = ??? frames...etc. etc.

but then...oy...each frame has different value and I maybe don't like taking selfies...

It gets unworkably complex for me sometimes and indeed I wonder if it's pride based to continue to postulate the reasons so I digress.



I finally said my name recently because someone asked me in a PM. Still feels a bit odd but like sharing a picture actually.


Not sure what all that is about frankly or why it feels the way it does but perhaps I'll get past it :)
 
Rosemaryx

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The Lord will open our mouths to speak the words to people's ears...
He puts the people on our path , and His Word will not come back void...
I think a lot of tend to want to speak to others from our own strength , and when we find nothing comes back , it disheartens us...

I have learned from my self with my unsaved children that I have spoke to much to them , about the Scriptures , so I laid off...Now , sometimes , they come forward and ask questions , and I like to think that God is drawing them Amen...
...xox...
 
Lynx

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JohnDB said:
They got my email and phone number, my wife's contact information, and they have other family members that have mine. They can contact me at any time and I return those missed calls and emails.

Otherwise it's just broadcasting. I am not a fan of doing so. They want to know or hear...they can ask me personally. I'll be very liberal with what I tell them.
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Yeah but... But... But what if they are conservative? What if they get upset about your liberal opinions? :p
 
Lynx

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Mii said:
I'\/e encountered a few people that are pretty rooted into what they use "...If you don't use FB, then you're not my FRIEND!@)!@*)(*"
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Hooo boy, ain't that the truth!

Tell them "I guess I'm out then. The price of admission to your friendship is too high." I refuse to clutter up my phone with every whatsapp and snapchat that comes along, just because "that's the only thing I use and if you don't use it you're out."
 
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