(05/11/2022) It's been a hard year at work.

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I'm almost to the 20 year mark and Relational speaking, this has been the hardest year I have ever had at work. I've always had, at least one person at work I could talk to on a regular basis. Someone that wasn't a teacher, someone that also helped clean the school. But back in 2020 my co-worker retired, and the guy they got to replace him, is almost deaf. Even when I can get him to hear me, He doesn't seem to understand me. That kinda pushed me into talking with teachers more. The problem is teachers are typically too busy for me, or they are completely gone home.

The teacher that some people, on this site, think I should ask out. Well.... I haven't seen her in days. I got to see her from a distance last Friday and then she was gone. So I don't think that is going to happen this year. Quite frankly asking her is probably committing suicide, anyways. Another teacher asked me if I liked that person too. And I admitted to it, but she cautioned me that my heart will get broken. I always get the impression that teachers think of themselves as being bigger and better, and more important than a little janitor.

I'm a big chicken. I know that some people are probably tired of hearing me put myself down. But I think you all know it's true. I am a chicken. Here is the thing, years ago I got into some trouble at work. I was knocked down a peg or two, on more then one occasion. And that is partly to blame for my chickeness. The other part is I the fact that m other half is a chicken. I get scared of the unknown. I don't have much self confidence. Never have!

I think at this point in my life, what I really want, is for the pain to go away. Not just the emotional pain, but also the physical pain too.

BTW I saw a really interesting video! Which talked about exclusion/rejection and physical pain. Perhaps you could do some additional research to fact check this youtuber. Anyways PLEASE DON'T COMMENT UNLESS YOU WATCH THE VIDEO FIRST.

 
Eli1

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I watched the video.
Id like to say that you shouldn’t put too much analysis to human behavior like you’re looking at life as an observer from outside but live your life as a participant and be confident in the things you already know based on your life experience without feeling any peer-pressure and above all by putting God first.
 
JohnDB

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Woah woah woah...

Friends and friendships at work are nice but that isn't the place for them.

It's like expecting angel food cake from a devils food cake mix. (Not going to happen)

You need to find a hobbyist group or what is referred to as an affinity group outside of work. This can be anything from radio controlled airplanes or cars to pottery classes or glass window classes and clubs. Even a small group bible study.

Look, I crossed school teachers off the list of people to have a relationship with a long time ago. You should as well. Include nurses in that "Do Not Date" list.

Their jobs warp their brains in ways that us normals will suffer innumerable pain from engaging them in a romantic relationship. Sure they look nice and appear nice enough...but the truth is something vastly different. I learned the hard way....don't do the same thing I did.

Feelings of always being on the outside are absolutely normal. If you don't have those feelings you are abnormal and usually require a stay in that Government Hotel...the one with bars on the windows.
Look, just figure out a hobby and go do it...and join a group of people who enjoy the same. And of course you will find (or they will find you) a few jerks in the group. That's to be expected.

That's where friends come from....
Guys and girls you like by your choice and not someone else's.

Jaycees, or Jr chamber of commerce...small group bible studies...hobo associations...
 
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That Teacher today. You know the one that it was suggested that I ask out? She shut her door, so that i couldn't come in. I hate it when she does that. It makes my job harder, since I got to go back to her room later, to clean it! She kinda sucks. When she first started at the school she was over the top nice to me. But as the years have gone on, it looks like she's kinda turning mean to me.
 
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