Is it Biblical to marry a divorced person?

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Beckie

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Well, I was divorced. You seem to be saying that I am ineligible for marriage then?
did you not read this Is marring a divorced person the unpardonable sin ... NO Is divorce the unpardonable sin.... NO

Not paying attention to what the women in you life say or the women on forums is not a good idea :rolleyes:
 
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did you not read this Is marring a divorced person the unpardonable sin ... NO Is divorce the unpardonable sin.... NO

Not paying attention to what the women in you life say or the women on forums is not a good idea :rolleyes:
.... and if my wife had tried to stick a knife into me and tried to poison me, and divorced me because I wasn't acting like the man she thought I ought be, and was dissatisfied that I wasn't able to provide the luxuries of life she felt was her right to have.... I am then to remain single for the rest of my life even though I was innocent of that divorce? This is not my case, not literally at least. I'm just using it as an example, and it's one that certainly can happen, and it puts some of the black and whiteness of your list in question!

Your previous post has some correctness in it Beckie, but it also has a lot of ambiguity embedded in it too.

It's disappointing also to see a mature person adopt a sexist theme to support their indignation when their opinion is challenged. Now I see that you are married, and I'm going to assume that is to a Christian man. So, looking at Paul's instruction to the wives that they should discuss spiritual matters with their Christian husband, could I ask if you've had a discussion with him on this topic, and if so, what has been his take on it?
 

Beckie

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.... and if my wife had tried to stick a knife into me and tried to poison me, and divorced me because I wasn't acting like the man she thought I ought be, and was dissatisfied that I wasn't able to provide the luxuries of life she felt was her right to have.... I am then to remain single for the rest of my life even though I was innocent of that divorce? This is not my case, not literally at least. I'm just using it as an example, and it's one that certainly can happen, and it puts some of the black and whiteness of your list in question!

Your previous post has some correctness in it Beckie, but it also has a lot of ambiguity embedded in it too.

It's disappointing also to see a mature person adopt a sexist theme to support their indignation when their opinion is challenged. Now I see that you are married, and I'm going to assume that is to a Christian man. So, looking at Paul's instruction to the wives that they should discuss spiritual matters with their Christian husband, could I ask if you've had a discussion with him on this topic, and if so, what has been his take on it?
No my husband of 58 years is not christian.
Please point out the ambiguity. Our wants, failures , needs, desires ,hopes etc do not change the Word of God.
I have children ,siblings, in-laws who have divorced.. Some are Christian some not. in human minds the grass if often greener over the fence. People who i love. From a personal place of looking at/in something always dies because of divorce. Maybe the in the hearts of the children or grandparents who in a some way lost the grandkids as the kids lost them. Could be the testimony of the christian is damaged because s/he is going against the Word. as in Trust the Lord but get a divorce. God does not go against His Word. About 2 years in our marriage i did my best to find a scripture way out . The scriptures are sexist different responsibilities expected of him and her. I respect the Scriptures i did not adopt a theme . The passages are clear. There are more verses then i posted some which set a spouse free of the bondage. Chapter and verse are posted so anyone can read the context.
1Co 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
1Co 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
1Co 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1Co 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
1Co 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
1Co 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

I could have been a super $itch causing him to take off or cheat etc... using that for the excuse to divorce. That would have been sinful I need to be accountable for my sin.

We ( self included) as humans work to justify our wants our justification does not change the Word of God . The milk toast pastors of today will be held accountable for their distortion of Scripture.

Eph 6:11 EtC Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. While doing this seek a divorce? While putting on this armour rob a bank, steal the old women's bread. abuse your loved ones you get the picture.
 
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No my husband of 58 years is not christian.
Please point out the ambiguity. Our wants, failures , needs, desires ,hopes etc do not change the Word of God.
I have children ,siblings, in-laws who have divorced.. Some are Christian some not. in human minds the grass if often greener over the fence. People who i love. From a personal place of looking at/in something always dies because of divorce. Maybe the in the hearts of the children or grandparents who in a some way lost the grandkids as the kids lost them. Could be the testimony of the christian is damaged because s/he is going against the Word. as in Trust the Lord but get a divorce. God does not go against His Word. About 2 years in our marriage i did my best to find a scripture way out . The scriptures are sexist different responsibilities expected of him and her. I respect the Scriptures i did not adopt a theme . The passages are clear. There are more verses then i posted some which set a spouse free of the bondage. Chapter and verse are posted so anyone can read the context.
1Co 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
1Co 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
1Co 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1Co 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
1Co 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
1Co 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

I could have been a super $itch causing him to take off or cheat etc... using that for the excuse to divorce. That would have been sinful I need to be accountable for my sin.

We ( self included) as humans work to justify our wants our justification does not change the Word of God . The milk toast pastors of today will be held accountable for their distortion of Scripture.

Eph 6:11 EtC Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. While doing this seek a divorce? While putting on this armour rob a bank, steal the old women's bread. abuse your loved ones you get the picture.
Thank you so much for your kind explanation of your situation. I got the impression that may have been the case, not only from this thread but from other posts of yours that I have read. Your stoicism is to be applauded, and is an example to us all in what loyalty to the Lord Jesus really means. It complies with what JAHB referred to in a previous post, of the need for adherence to God's instructions on how we are to live even if that causes us to suffer in some way, and in doing we will be true followers of Jesus and His example.

Could I add though, that in reference to Paul's admonition that if we are bound in marriage to an unbeliever that is pleased to keep the marriage going, that 'pleased' must be accompanied with pleasantness towards the believing spouse.

I may have used the word 'ambiguity' incorrectly in reference to the list you made, sorry. In fact I should have said that some of the references to NO in the list could be changed to YES or a MAYBE, depending on the circumstance. For example, if we say that it is not a sin for a Christian to marry a divorced Christian, we may be incorrect particularly if that divorced person was an adulterer. I realise you expressed a similar belief elsewhere, but I think a MAYBE might be more appropriate in this instance.

Peace and goodwill to you 🙏
 

Beckie

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Could I add though, that in reference to Paul's admonition that if we are bound in marriage to an unbeliever that is pleased to keep the marriage going, that 'pleased' must be accompanied with pleasantness towards the believing spouse.
Sure, you, can add that but the Scriptures do not .
 
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ChristianTonyB

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Sure, you, can add that but the Scriptures do not .
Sure, you, can add that but the Scriptures do not .
Not everything that was done or said by Jesus is written in the Bible Beckie, as so the apostle that Jesus had a particular affection for indicated, if everything was recorded in detail and put into books, the whole world would not be able to contain them. And the same could be said about everything the apostles did and said too, it would not have all been recorded at all.

For the born again/spiritual men and women of God, the Holy Spirit is their teacher and guide, and He uses scripture to help them with that for sure, but He also interpolates and extrapolates it for them when they are unsure of the context of it, and its true meaning, at least that has been my experience!
 

Beckie

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The subtilness of the garden. Have it your way .
Not everything that was done or said by Jesus is written in the Bible Beckie, as so the apostle that Jesus had a particular affection for indicated, if everything was recorded in detail and put into books, the whole world would not be able to contain them. And the same could be said about everything the apostles did and said too, it would not have all been recorded at all.

For the born again/spiritual men and women of God, the Holy Spirit is their teacher and guide, and He uses scripture to help them with that for sure, but He also interpolates and extrapolates it for them when they are unsure of the context of it, and its true meaning, at least that has been my experience!
 

Naamini

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I was reading this book of Derek Prince about God is a matchmaker. Page 39 below quote..

"I was particularly interested in the answer to one question:
How had her marriage ended? If by divorce, as I suspected, on
what grounds? Earlier in my ministry, I had made a careful
study of the Bible's teaching on divorce and remarriage. I had
concluded that a person who divorces a spouse on grounds of
proven unfaithfulness has a clear, biblical right to remarry,
without any stigma of guilt or inferiority. "

He was hard pressed to marrying a divorced Ruth n maintain his ministry..
 
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ChristianTonyB

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The subtilness of the garden. Have it your way .
I'm not impressed by my way, or your way Beckie, but God's way. And to know what that is, we have to learn about the Spirit behind the scripture, and none of us can do that unless we have been born again.
But I agree, enough said!
 

Beckie

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I'm not impressed by my way, or your way Beckie, but God's way. And to know what that is, we have to learn about the Spirit behind the scripture, and none of us can do that unless we have been born again.
But I agree, enough said!
LOL dare to say God's way as you add to the scriptures what a sad joke
 

Naamini

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Yesterday I found this book..

To anyone interested in this book exposition on divorce and remarrying. By Derek Prince book called God is a matchmaker.
Page 39 and Page 1192

Page 39 below quote from him.

"I was particularly interested in the answer to one question:
How had her marriage ended? If by divorce, as I suspected, on
what grounds? Earlier in my ministry, I had made a careful
study of the Bible's teaching on divorce and remarriage. I had
concluded that a person who divorces a spouse on grounds of
proven unfaithfulness has a clear, biblical right to remarry,
without any stigma of guilt or inferiority. "

He was directed by God to marry a divorced woman. This verse caught my interest too from this book.

1Corithians 7:27-28
....If you marry you have not sinned.

Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you. (1Co.7:27-28 | NKJV)
 

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Yesterday I found this book..

To anyone interested in this book exposition on divorce and remarrying. By Derek Prince book called God is a matchmaker.
Page 39 and Page 1192

Page 39 below quote from him.

"I was particularly interested in the answer to one question:
How had her marriage ended? If by divorce, as I suspected, on
what grounds? Earlier in my ministry, I had made a careful
study of the Bible's teaching on divorce and remarriage. I had
concluded that a person who divorces a spouse on grounds of
proven unfaithfulness has a clear, biblical right to remarry,
without any stigma of guilt or inferiority. "

He was directed by God to marry a divorced woman. This verse caught my interest too from this book.

1Corithians 7:27-28
....If you marry you have not sinned.

Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you. (1Co.7:27-28 | NKJV)
and Boy oh boy was he right.... what trouble we would save too if we all could remain single (without the generally resulting sexual frustrations that accompany being unmarried of course.) :p
 

Gideon300

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and Boy oh boy was he right.... what trouble we would save too if we all could remain single (without the generally resulting sexual frustrations that accompany being unmarried of course.) :p
Derek Prince was married, and remarried when his first wife passed away. I've been single for the last 25 years. It's not for everyone.
 

Blade

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It's clear that divorce is not allowed unless it's because of unfaithfulness in marriage. So should we go ahead and get into marriage with other divorced person?
I don't know indepth of this topic from the Bible that's why I asked here.
Thanks for your contribution and study. Iron sharpens iron indeed.
This one can be hard. We are to forget the past yet me. In my life if for GOD FOR BID it was over not for any reason biblical. I would be pressed to never marry again. What she did would be between her and God. So no