Is it Biblical to marry a divorced person?

[Runningman]

If God forgives a man for not providing for not providing for his children, what is the man's next step forward. Should he continue to not provide for his children?

If a man were to divorce his wife, what is the next step forward?

As far as I can tell if someone isn’t feeding their family then they need to start feeding their family. If someone gets an illegitimate divorce then they shouldn’t get an illegitimate divorce again.

Forgiveness is remembering sins no more then doesn’t that free someone up to marry again?

Seems like it just depends how strict you want to be. If someone in your family is without food and going hungry for 10 minutes then is that a sin? There’s a lot of best judgment needed here because the Bible doesn’t clearly define what the criteria is. Divorce is more final so it’s difficult to compare the remedy to those two things.

 

[A-Sword-Cometh]

It is biblical in the sense that Lord Jesus said not to do such and that the Lord God hates it. Woe to the shameful generations that did these things for A Sword Cometh because of it.

 

[TheIndianGirl]

If he'd done so with an unbethrothed virgin, they'd have compelled him to take a second wife.

I think it is adultery if either man or woman is married. Fast forward to today, if a married man has affair with woman, single or married, that is adultery.

In the example you give, the woman didnt commit adultery.

Like, if a woman (virgin or prostitute) sleeps with a married man, both parties commit adultery.

 

[Butterflyyy]

The Bible says that only under certain circumstances is this allowed; for the sake of adultery, if an unbelieving spouse wants to leave or if the former spouse dies.
We are told to rightly divide the Word of God, and when studied, this is what it says. It is therefore important that we do not take one part of scripture out of context and thereby put fellow Believers in bondage which God Himself does not put them in; this can be damaging, very cruel and hurtful; God tells us to love one another and to do unto others as we would have done unto us. A proper study of the scriptures is needed in this matter, if we are to answer this accurately and Biblically.

 

[Runningman]

Another thing I thought of is that we should apply consistent logic to forgiveness. Either someone is forgiven or they aren't. In this case there is no in-between, buts, ifs, maybes. Forgiveness with conditions is not forgiveness at all.

Please consider the following thoughts.

If divorced people cannot be forgiven unless they never remarry then those who provide for their family cannot be forgiven unless they never provide for their family again. - This is the kind of warped thinking that spawns when people start fiddling with the word of God and is being used here as a teaching example.

If divorced people can be forgiven and allowed to remarry then those who provide for their family can be forgiven and allowed to provide for their family again. - Complete and total forgiveness is consistent with scripture and this is the correct Biblical perspective.

 

[presidente]

@Runningman,

If someone robs a bank, then asks God for forgiveness, do you think he should keep the money or give it back?

 

[Runningman]

@Runningman,

If someone robs a bank, then asks God for forgiveness, do you think he should keep the money or give it back?

Items like stolen property should always be returned to the rightful owner.

 

[Carry_Your_Name]

Jesus's words are crystal clear: "whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." (Matt. 19:9) Just think about in practical sense, man, there'll be ramifications, her kids, ex husband and maybe some other relatives may be involved and causing you a lot of trouble. You don't know what you're getting yourself into if you just fall in love with this divorced woman. There's no way for the two of you to start from a clean slate.

 

[Butterflyyy]

Jesus's words are crystal clear: "whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." (Matt. 19:9) Just think about in practical sense, man, there'll be ramifications, her kids, ex husband and maybe some other relatives may be involved and causing you a lot of trouble. You don't know what you're getting yourself into if you just fall in love with this divorced woman. There's no way for the two of you to start from a clean slate.

This is taking scripture out of context. We have to look at what the whole Bible says about this.
This comment is leaning on our own understanding which Procerbs 3 v 5&6 tells us not to do. Each one of us must be led by the Spirit of God. If God calls someone to a situation like this then He will equip that person and lead them.
When, for example, someone is widowed, there may already be children and other family; God does not say this is a reason for avoiding such circumstances. Love conquers all, and the Bible says it is the greatest thing; it also warns against hardness of heart; God is not pleased with hard heartedness .
I am reminde if the old saying...’ Unless you have walked a mile in another man’s shoes.”
It’s very apparent to me that there are many people who have a strong opinion on this subject, who have never actually experienced being in such a situation.
This mentality is legalistic and although it seems Godly it is not. The Pharisees were like this. The sad consequences of this are that some oGod’s children who have already been left heart-broken by adultery are then having the knife further twisted by other Christians who do not properly understand what the Bible teaches about this, and how God actually sees it.
I can give quite a few scripture verses to illustrate this when I’ve more time but right now I’m sat in McDonalds.🙂

 

[Gideon300]

The Apostle Paul teaches that if you are a True Christian, and if you happen to be single . . . remain in that position. The point is to offer yourself as a living sacrifice to the Lord and to not be divided in your professed dedication.

Is Jesus our Master . . . or not? Is Jesus the object of our Faith and lives . . . or not?

The same apostle said that forbidding marriage is a false teaching: 1 Timothy 4

" …2influenced by the hypocrisy of liars, whose consciences are seared with a hot iron. 3They will prohibit marriage and require abstinence from certain foods that God has created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. 4For every creation of God is good, and nothing that is received with thanksgiving should be rejected,…"

If you read the context, Paul was saying that it was good not to marry, but it was not a sin if you did. Some can cope, some not. It was also a time of persecution - "in view of the present distress".

 

[Gideon300]

Jesus's words are crystal clear: "whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." (Matt. 19:9) Just think about in practical sense, man, there'll be ramifications, her kids, ex husband and maybe some other relatives may be involved and causing you a lot of trouble. You don't know what you're getting yourself into if you just fall in love with this divorced woman. There's no way for the two of you to start from a clean slate.

Is the blood of Christ not good enough to cleanse the sin of adultery? Is that the one time that God cannot work all things together for the good? It's okay for God to remember our sins no more, but the self righteous refuse to accept that marriage failure is not the end of the world.

Sure, people need to know what they are getting into. That applies to all relationships. There would be far less talk about divorce if people got married on the right basis to start with.

I'm divorced, so i know what I'm talking about. I've not remarried by choice, not by some legalistic religious principle.

 

[Gideon300]

Do you believe it is wise to go against the teaching of Paul?

1 Corinthians 7:17 NLT - "Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches."

You are ignoring the context and the other teachings of Paul on this subject.

 

[Carry_Your_Name]

This is taking scripture out of context. We have to look at what the whole Bible says about this.
This comment is leaning on our own understanding which Procerbs 3 v 5&6 tells us not to do. Each one of us must be led by the Spirit of God. If God calls someone to a situation like this then He will equip that person and lead them.
When, for example, someone is widowed, there may already be children and other family; God does not say this is a reason for avoiding such circumstances. Love conquers all, and the Bible says it is the greatest thing; it also warns against hardness of heart; God is not pleased with hard heartedness .
I am reminde if the old saying...’ Unless you have walked a mile in another man’s shoes.”
It’s very apparent to me that there are many people who have a strong opinion on this subject, who have never actually experienced being in such a situation.
This mentality is legalistic and although it seems Godly it is not. The Pharisees were like this. The sad consequences of this are that some oGod’s children who have already been left heart-broken by adultery are then having the knife further twisted by other Christians who do not properly understand what the Bible teaches about this, and how God actually sees it.
I can give quite a few scripture verses to illustrate this when I’ve more time but right now I’m sat in McDonalds.🙂

Pharisees invented today's "no fault divorce" that permits a couple to divorce for any reason. They were abusing the mosaic law so they could sleep with another woman legally within wedlock, marriage and divorce became a casual thing. They thought they were so smart that they discovered a loophole and got to exploit it, but Jesus rebuked them by educating them with God's original design of marriage, their practice was adultery nonetheless in the eyes of God, that's the real context. He never encouraged or condoned divorce or remarrying, and neither did Paul in 1 Cor. 7.

 

[Tararose]

Where does it say that? The former part of the verse has the man divorcing his wife, except it be for fornication.

Can you find any passages where Christ speaks of women divorcing and remarrying in a positive way? He forbids men from divorcing and remarrying in Mark and Luke. Matthew contains 'except it be for fornication.' Matthew 5:23 says, "32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. "

Where is the passage that says a woman can divorce and remarry if her first husband committed adultery? The law of Moses did not allow for wives divorcing husbands. Christ only mentioned it in a verse where He forbade it.

Very true... although Jesus never actually meant adultery because the law of God ensured the innocent party was free to marry in such cases. Why are we condemning people for marrying an innocent divorced person as breaking scripture, yet we wouldn't dream of stoning an adulterer to death - as per the scripture - to set them free. Why is it okay for us to ditch the law but tie the person who was innocent in a divorce to it?

Jesus was talking to jews under law... Adultary was already covered. It didn't involve divorce so Jesus didn't need to cover it when discussing divorce. The entire point of God's intentions regarding the law where adultery is concerned is being missed. The innocent person was free to marry - that was the point. Had we asked Jesus if her were living in todays modern western society where all we can do is divorce in such instances, then I believe He would align himself with the character of God and say the same thing. The innocent is free and the guilty takes the punishment. Why would his character change because of the difference in laws? That is unthinkable.

By the by, a thorough examination of the original text and the law clarifies that it was highly probable he was referring to general indecency or immodesty (pornea) and could well have been about any incident where there was uncertainty of the woman's purity during the engagement period which was as binding as marriage to Jews. In any case Jesus never broke one part of the law nor taught anyone to break it. He wouldn't advocate divorce for something the law commanded death for. He wouldn't have brought it up as a Jew talking to Jews under law in a discussion about divorce.

 

[CS1]

It is biblical in the sense that Lord Jesus said not to do such and that the Lord God hates it. Woe to the shameful generations that did these things for A Sword Cometh because of it.

God hates divorce and it is sin to be divorced Biblically. However, there is a reason for it. Unfaithfulness, unforgiveness, and unloving.


does that mean I need to stay with my husband who uses me as a whipping post? No, you can separate. The Church has been all to helpful in divorce happening instead of restoration.

 

[A-Sword-Cometh]

God hates divorce and it is sin to be divorced Biblically. However, there is a reason for it. Unfaithfulness, unforgiveness, and unloving.


does that mean I need to stay with my husband who uses me as a whipping post? No, you can separate. The Church has been all to helpful in divorce happening instead of restoration.

You shall not break your oaths which you swore to the Lord my God lest you be cut off on one side of the curse. If it be you did this thing, you will acknowledge that your ways were in error and God's judgements are just and the mercy of the Lord God will be sufficient enough. You will not add error to error by committing adultery by remarrying and polluting every person and polluting all the land and rewarding the wicked for their wickedness lest you be cut off on the other side of the curse. Take heed oh four shameful generations for the four sore judgements of God already be breaking out upon your land for these things.

As for those churches that taught this thing which God said he hates, they will be fought against by Lord Jesus himself and the Sword of his mouth. The Lord God will winnow them out and then he shall tear them down, strong is the Lord Jesus Christ, amen.

 

[Carry_Your_Name]

Is the blood of Christ not good enough to cleanse the sin of adultery? Is that the one time that God cannot work all things together for the good? It's okay for God to remember our sins no more, but the self righteous refuse to accept that marriage failure is not the end of the world.

Sure, people need to know what they are getting into. That applies to all relationships. There would be far less talk about divorce if people got married on the right basis to start with.

I'm divorced, so i know what I'm talking about. I've not remarried by choice, not by some legalistic religious principle.

Didn't Jesus tell the woman who was caught in the act, "go, and SIN NO MORE?" Forgiveness of sin is not a license to sin. "Shall we continue to sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?" (Rom. 6:1-2)

 

[Live4Him2]

I'll just pop back in to say this...

If there was ever an "innocent party" in a divorce, then I'm probably right there near or at the top of the list. I don't say this just as a man with a biased or self-serving opinion (I've never remarried), but, instead, I know that God saw everything that transpired in my marriage, and he knows that my ex committed COUNTLESS unspeakable evils against me (I literally could have pressed criminal charges against her and had her arrested), including, but not limited to, multiple acts of adultery, and then culminated it by divorcing me.

I began with that to say this...

There are several people on this thread whose posts I've read that I literally fear for.

Why?

Because it seems that you have nothing but human reasoning to base your strong opinions on, and, quite frankly, you should just be quiet.

It might surprise you to hear that I'm actually referring to some on the side of "Yes, the innocent party can remarry", and not some on the side of "No, the innocent party cannot remarry"...although some on this side of the argument don't know what they're talking about either.

Personally, I've prayerfully and carefully read the entire Bible from cover to cover many times, to the point where I've actually read several books of the Bible 100 times or more, and I still have some uncertainty in relation to the topic at hand (and other topics as well).

I'm NOT mentioning how many times I've personally read the Bible to boast or anything like that.

Instead, I'm saying this to say that I'm hearing very little rightly-divided scripture being presented here on the "pro" side, and, again, lots of human reasoning instead...much of which flies directly in the face of what scripture actually teaches.

If anyone would love to be convinced FROM RIGHTLY-DIVIDED SCRIPTURE that he could remarry (not that I even want to at this point in my life), then it would be me.

Not just for myself, but more so for others who find themselves in situations similar to my own so that I could properly counsel them from God's word.

I'm not saying that someone like myself definitely cannot remarry without being in sin, but I'm also not saying that someone like myself definitely can remarry without being in sin either.

I will say this though for sure:

I'm beyond convinced that there are MULTITUDES of people, including MULTITUDES of professing Christians, who are living in adultery while believing that they're legitimately "remarried" in God's eyes.

Anyhow, there are a lot of variables involved in relation to this topic, with the primary one being that marriage was instituted by God to be a natural reflection of the spiritual union between Christ and his church. In other words, it's NOT just about the man and the woman, but much more about what they are reflecting to the world in relation to the ultimate Bridegroom, Jesus Christ, and his bride, the church.

I don't know that anyone here has even broached that topic, and that's basically what marriage is all about.

I'll leave it at that.

 

[CS1]

You shall not break your oaths which you swore to the Lord my God lest you be cut off on one side of the curse. If it be you did this thing, you will acknowledge that your ways were in error and God's judgements are just and the mercy of the Lord God will be sufficient enough. You will not add error to error by committing adultery by remarrying and polluting every person and polluting all the land and rewarding the wicked for their wickedness lest you be cut off on the other side of the curse. Take heed oh four shameful generations for the four sore judgements of God already be breaking out upon your land for these things.

As for those churches that taught this thing which God said he hates, they will be fought against by Lord Jesus himself and the Sword of his mouth. The Lord God will winnow them out and then he shall tear them down, strong is the Lord Jesus Christ, amen.

guy, you need to learn to write in the third person and stop saying " YOU". I have been married for almost 30 years to ONE wife and have no intention of divorce. The reason why my marriage is successful is that I help others with theirs.

 

[A-Sword-Cometh]

guy, you need to learn to write in the third person and stop saying " YOU". I have been married for almost 30 years to ONE wife and have no intention of divorce. The reason why my marriage is successful is that I help others with theirs.

You in a general sense meaning you, me, or anyone.