Im not a cold person but i have had my heart broken once a long time ago but it didn't make me cold, it just made me aware of the position of my lack and how i put myself there to be able to have that happen, i really just changed my view of myself and how i love now if that makes any kind of sense. Rejection is something i cannot have at this point because i am never looking to be accepted because i am already accepted mostly to myself first but rather im busy accepting everyone else so they don't need to feel rejected. When you know that most people are like that and don't want to feel rejection and are just looking for love and acceptance you can sort of flip the script by being and providing the something they feel they need or lack, doing this makes you valuable and people will be drawn and open to you real quick. It's not something you can just apply to hopefully attract a person but it has to be genuine and come from a deep-seated understanding of the nature of people and developed over time.
Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, some have theirs buried deep and locked in a box, but mine is in a glass display case that i carry around with the top open and i just go around touching people with it even though i don't always look approachable or like a "nice guy". Because of how i just move in general im open to relationships but im not always looking or needing
or lacking one if that makes any kind of sense.
I have seen many cases of people who end up sabotaging themselves though, i think i remember seeing someone on this site once say something like "because im overweight and i don't want children no man wants to date me". I remember seeing that and going "seriously?... you're saying absolutely no man wants to date you because you're overweight and don't want kids?". I can count on both hands 10 dudes that i know personally who like thick women and who aren't interested in having children. But the poster of that message will probably never realize it or be open to it because she is too busy living out her self devaluing realization and approaching men with that mentality that none of them like her. It's funny, the same reason she thinks they're running away from her can just as easily be the same reason as they could run to her, crazy how the same thing that makes a person seem not valuable has
the same potential to make them valuable, it's just a matter of perspective and realizing what others outside
of yourself might lack and want.
Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, some have theirs buried deep and locked in a box, but mine is in a glass display case that i carry around with the top open and i just go around touching people with it even though i don't always look approachable or like a "nice guy". Because of how i just move in general im open to relationships but im not always looking or needing
or lacking one if that makes any kind of sense.
I have seen many cases of people who end up sabotaging themselves though, i think i remember seeing someone on this site once say something like "because im overweight and i don't want children no man wants to date me". I remember seeing that and going "seriously?... you're saying absolutely no man wants to date you because you're overweight and don't want kids?". I can count on both hands 10 dudes that i know personally who like thick women and who aren't interested in having children. But the poster of that message will probably never realize it or be open to it because she is too busy living out her self devaluing realization and approaching men with that mentality that none of them like her. It's funny, the same reason she thinks they're running away from her can just as easily be the same reason as they could run to her, crazy how the same thing that makes a person seem not valuable has
the same potential to make them valuable, it's just a matter of perspective and realizing what others outside
of yourself might lack and want.
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