My wife is having a breakdown
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Father God, bless, TheLearner, and this prayer request. Lord please solve this problem also heal bro. Larry. Lord bless TheLearner, his wife and bro. Larry, in Jesus loving name, Amen!
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Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all of our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
—2 Corinthians 1:3-4
—2 Corinthians 1:3-4
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I know someone with a Colostomy bag. It isn't that easy to change by oneself.
If they don't align the bag opening correctly, they'll mess all over themselves the first movement they have.
Did you both agree to assume the duty of this care?
Did anyone make you aware of what this entailed beforehand?
If he has insurance, he may be able to have a home health aide take over. Worth a check.
My friend is married. He does the clean up when changing his bag. His wife has to assist with the new bags alignment and securing it to his person with the strap and such.
It's a horrible thing for someone to end up this vulnerable. Imagine how your brother feels. Imagine being in his place? Who really has it worse.
If they don't align the bag opening correctly, they'll mess all over themselves the first movement they have.
Did you both agree to assume the duty of this care?
Did anyone make you aware of what this entailed beforehand?
If he has insurance, he may be able to have a home health aide take over. Worth a check.
My friend is married. He does the clean up when changing his bag. His wife has to assist with the new bags alignment and securing it to his person with the strap and such.
It's a horrible thing for someone to end up this vulnerable. Imagine how your brother feels. Imagine being in his place? Who really has it worse.
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Ouch. That was painful to read. We need to have compassion and empathy. The man is the one with the bag. He's been through something traumatic and some people suffer worse than others. You do not know Larry or his situation. Saying things like 'terrorise' and 'manipulate' and 'childish behaviour' are total guesses, slanders, and there should be no place for such cold talk in a Christian forum.
We as Christians grow through our suffering. James 1. We should count it as joy.
We as Christians grow through our suffering. James 1. We should count it as joy.
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No we neither know the person or his exact situation but when my daughter was 21 years old due to radiation (intended to shrink an inoperable tumor) destroyed her internals and she had to have surgeries and ended up with double nephrostomy (one for each kidney) and a colostomy (for stool).
The mental aspect of this for a beautiful young married woman was devastating... She used to cry because of it.
But she changed everything herself, even in the hospital. It just took more time than before to "use the bathroom" since it was all about draining and changing bags.
She did it in horrible pain, sick with chemo and radiation, in tears because of the mental aspect . But she did it. Not anyone else.
I would sit in the bathroom with her when she was at her sickest, but she wouldn't even let me help, I was just company.
She ended up after all that dying anyway, but she was strong and did it all in the hope of living for her babies (of which she had two).
So it's very difficult to conceive of someone who won't take care of themselves when they have the ability.
The mental aspect of this for a beautiful young married woman was devastating... She used to cry because of it.
But she changed everything herself, even in the hospital. It just took more time than before to "use the bathroom" since it was all about draining and changing bags.
She did it in horrible pain, sick with chemo and radiation, in tears because of the mental aspect . But she did it. Not anyone else.
I would sit in the bathroom with her when she was at her sickest, but she wouldn't even let me help, I was just company.
She ended up after all that dying anyway, but she was strong and did it all in the hope of living for her babies (of which she had two).
So it's very difficult to conceive of someone who won't take care of themselves when they have the ability.
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