Again my friend, I wouldn't say peopl ewho believe in eternal torment have no love for God. It is an unloving thing to say about God though. It's very difficult when people have been misled for a long time about the character of God to see the truth of what the scriptures say about him.
How should one show obedience to one's God? That is the question.
Consider discipleship to Jesus
Luke 9:59And he said unto another, Follow me. But he said, Lord, suffer me first to go and bury my father. 60Jesus said unto him,
Let the dead bury their dead: but go thou and preach the kingdom of God. 61And another also said, Lord, I will follow thee; but let me first go bid them farewell, which are at home at my house. 62And Jesus said unto him,
No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.
Consider the golden calf
Exo 32:25Moses saw that the people were running wild and that Aaron had let them get out of control and so become a laughingstock to their enemies. 26So he stood at the entrance to the camp and said, “Whoever is for the Lord, come to me.” And all the Levites rallied to him.27Then he said to them, “This is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘Each man strap a sword to his side. Go back and forth through the camp from one end to the other,
each killing his brother and friend and neighbor.’ ” 28The Levites did as Moses commanded, and
that day about three thousand of the people died. 29Then Moses said, “You have been set apart to the Lord today, for you were against your own sons and brothers, and he has blessed you this day.”
These are Archetypes and but these are goals to which we should strive as He is Our God. He is Greater than family and friends. So a little thing to not speak against God is overwhelmed by earthly matters and considerations. God is not spoken as God, but something on a family spectrum where God is not primary, like some crazy uncle thrice removed.
Matthew 16:23 But he turned, and said unto Peter, Get thee behind me, Satan:
thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men.
The delusion of the things of man now does not prepare them for an audience with God later and it is a prison.