I haven't been single in many, many years. It's new territory for me and I'm not sure I'm going to like it. But I also can't imagine ever finding the right one. (Obviously the last was NOT the right one. So many wasted years. Sigh.)
How on earth do I do this? I already miss the comforts of married life (though I don't miss the abuse). Always having someone to go do things with. Boy is that now a thing of the past. I also get very anxious at the thought of social situations. I'm just a mess.
So here I am. In a chat room. Thank the Lord for modern technology.
I feel your pain/s. I really do. And, there is so much to be said in response . . . books have been written to do such.
First, Paul teaches that we are to remain in the position that we are in when our hearts are Circumcised by Christ. If we are married and can remain as such, then we should do it. If we are single . . . again, we should remain single. Well, you are now single, thus, according to Paul, he advises (as the Word of God) that you remain in this position. Unless, however, you (or any person) find that you are unable to control your sexual self. Then, by all means, become remarried.
Beyond this, what I can tell you is: Read Ephesians chapters 3 and then 2. Here, you will discover that there is a Mysterious Plan of God that you must, absolutely must come to know. The greatest clue to this Plan is found in Colossians 2:9-15. It reads this way:
Colossians 2:9-15 NLT - "For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. 10 So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority. 11 When you came to Christ, you were "circumcised," but not by a physical procedure. Christ performed a spiritual circumcision--the cutting away of your sinful nature. 12 For you were buried with Christ when you were baptized. And with him you were raised to new life because you trusted the mighty power of God, who raised Christ from the dead. 13 You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. 14 He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross. 15 In this way, he disarmed the spiritual rulers and authorities. He shamed them publicly by his victory over them on the cross."
As you come to know and understand this Plan, make the incredible decision to read the entire Bible in a timeline, Chronological order. And in by doing so, your old, worldly spouse will be replaced by your new and Holy Spouse . . . Jesus Christ.
Timeline Chronological 365-Day Reading Plan
Knowing Jesus in terms of His Purpose, Work and Effect, is the best way to overcome our desperate need for human companionship. Believe me, I've been through what you're going through and can testify that it is extremely difficult. That said, no one taught me what I am teaching you now, thus, you have a tremendous advantage.
So, begin your New Life with Christ in a way that you never thought imaginable. If you undergo this process that I am providing to you now, you will Truly know and understand what it means to be Transformed by the Renewing of your mind! You can do it!
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