Is there a chance to find a partner at my age of 42
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Now that the thread is back on track (after 100 posts), I am pretty sure @mario313 would appreciate it if we would all leave it that way and let it continue on track... 
Yes indeed.
I'm hoping that Mario will come back and answer the questions about his profile status of being "separated" before seriously asking about dating anyone else.
For myself, this would be the first thing I would ask about when considering a potential partner.
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Now that the thread is back on track (after 100 posts), I am pretty sure @mario313 would appreciate it if we would all leave it that way and let it continue on track...
If I missed his answers to my questions, please feel free to point it out, because I've been trying to catch up but haven't found it yet.
This is just me, but I think that's really the first thing that needs to be addressed before answering the possibility of finding another partner.
If I remember right, when I signed up for CC, there wasn't an option for "divorced," so I chose "unmarried." I don't remember an option for "separated" but it obviously must exist now (unless I missed it when I joined the site, which is possible.)
Does anyone know, are there only options now for married, unmarried, and separated, with no option for divorced?
If so, then I can certainly see why someone who is divorced might choose the "separated" option if that's all there is.
I'm just asking the OP to clarify his status first.
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Thank you, Cinder -- this is very helpful.
I can't remember if "separated" was an option when I joined... If it was, I would still have chosen "not married" because my divorce had been finalized several years before then. But I could definitely understand if someone who was already divorced or waiting on the finalization would be somewhat undecided about which one to choose, depending on the circumstances.
However, I do like to clarify a "separated" person's specific status first though before trying to suggest any dating possibilities.
I can't remember if "separated" was an option when I joined... If it was, I would still have chosen "not married" because my divorce had been finalized several years before then. But I could definitely understand if someone who was already divorced or waiting on the finalization would be somewhat undecided about which one to choose, depending on the circumstances.
However, I do like to clarify a "separated" person's specific status first though before trying to suggest any dating possibilities.
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I wanted to explain that I have met a few people before whose status was difficult, if not nearly impossible, to define, so I don't mean this in a judgmental sense at all.
When I was a teen, I worked with a woman whose husband literally disappeared with another woman, and she had no way of sending him divorce papers because she had no idea where he was (this was in the days before internet searches.)
I don't know what wound up happening.
And I have also met a few people whose spouses refused to give them a divorce (refusing to accept or sign the papers, etc.) -- even when they were the ones having the affairs. I don't know what can be done in a situation like that, or what the church would tell someone in that situation to do.
So when I ask these questions I'm certainly not trying to criticize or judge -- I just think we need more information before we can really answer.
I wanted to explain that I have met a few people before whose status was difficult, if not nearly impossible, to define, so I don't mean this in a judgmental sense at all.
When I was a teen, I worked with a woman whose husband literally disappeared with another woman, and she had no way of sending him divorce papers because she had no idea where he was (this was in the days before internet searches.)
I don't know what wound up happening.
And I have also met a few people whose spouses refused to give them a divorce (refusing to accept or sign the papers, etc.) -- even when they were the ones having the affairs. I don't know what can be done in a situation like that, or what the church would tell someone in that situation to do.
So when I ask these questions I'm certainly not trying to criticize or judge -- I just think we need more information before we can really answer.
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Hello seoulsearch
With few words, about the past and my status "separated". I used to have a nice girl next to me. She does not like to go to work most of the time, so she spent the time at home or hanging around. After that came the pregnancy, everything looks normal. At some point she told me the truth. She is sex addicted, and probably the baby is not from me. It was the truth.
After that, at some point the biological father took her in his home, from what I know he is good guy, very well educated, with good job. After year or two they got second kid. At some point this man got the truth again - the second kid is not from him. Probably they had hard time after that but this is not my job.
This is the past. You can blame me because I look stupid when we check the facts. It is true and I do feel bad because of that.
But this past can not change me believes, we human can be good. Men or women, we deserve to be happy and to work for that. I do not hate my ex for what she did, this is her choice. Also this event is not able to change my believe that there are good girls out there.
With few words, about the past and my status "separated". I used to have a nice girl next to me. She does not like to go to work most of the time, so she spent the time at home or hanging around. After that came the pregnancy, everything looks normal. At some point she told me the truth. She is sex addicted, and probably the baby is not from me. It was the truth.
After that, at some point the biological father took her in his home, from what I know he is good guy, very well educated, with good job. After year or two they got second kid. At some point this man got the truth again - the second kid is not from him. Probably they had hard time after that but this is not my job.
This is the past. You can blame me because I look stupid when we check the facts. It is true and I do feel bad because of that.
But this past can not change me believes, we human can be good. Men or women, we deserve to be happy and to work for that. I do not hate my ex for what she did, this is her choice. Also this event is not able to change my believe that there are good girls out there.
Hi Mario,
Thank you very much for taking the time to reply. My goodness, it certainly sounds like you've been through a lot.
In your post, you said, "You can blame me because I look stupid" -- no, not at all, because every one of us has made wrong decisions in our lives and we are all trying our best to seek God and do better.
I greatly admire you for not letting these terrible experiences affect your general thinking towards women -- thank you for not thinking that all women are like your ex, and that there are still good women out there.
May I ask, are you part of a home church at all?
I would just like to suggest that you might want to take some time to spend with God your church family while recovering from these past few years.
I'm sure all of this has taken a toll on you both emotionally and spiritually, as it would on anyone, and only God can heal and restore your heart.
I wish you all the best as you continue on in following God's direction in your life, and please keep us posted on how it goes.
Thank you very much for taking the time to reply. My goodness, it certainly sounds like you've been through a lot.
In your post, you said, "You can blame me because I look stupid" -- no, not at all, because every one of us has made wrong decisions in our lives and we are all trying our best to seek God and do better.
I greatly admire you for not letting these terrible experiences affect your general thinking towards women -- thank you for not thinking that all women are like your ex, and that there are still good women out there.
May I ask, are you part of a home church at all?
I would just like to suggest that you might want to take some time to spend with God your church family while recovering from these past few years.
I'm sure all of this has taken a toll on you both emotionally and spiritually, as it would on anyone, and only God can heal and restore your heart.
I wish you all the best as you continue on in following God's direction in your life, and please keep us posted on how it goes.
I had to dig for what a foid is, but I found it!
Foid: Short for "femoid," an insult incels commonly use. A foid is an unintelligent woman, or a militant feminist who hates men but is constantly looking for a man to mooch off of.
Sorry, we don't have any of those here. At least I don't think we do. We DO have a few MGTOW guys though.
Maybe the foids have better things to do?
Foid: Short for "femoid," an insult incels commonly use. A foid is an unintelligent woman, or a militant feminist who hates men but is constantly looking for a man to mooch off of.
Sorry, we don't have any of those here. At least I don't think we do. We DO have a few MGTOW guys though.
Maybe the foids have better things to do?
