What's the best way to go about meeting a man?

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Bizzibro

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I'm looking for the right guy, so personally I am prepared to move/connect online first etc. I was wondering if anyone here could share their experiences with dating and how you met the person? I guess this is moreso directed toward the ladies but men are welcome to let me know their experience also. Thanks!
I am married but here is what think. 1. Dress like a feminine chick. My wife does this and gets a lot of attention. Dreeses. Never pants. 2. Take the time to alwsys look "Made-up". 3. Be as Godly as posdible and within this do some type of service to get out there. 4. Do not be afraid to ask a guy you are interested in iut for coffee/lunch.
 

Laura798

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I'm looking for the right guy, so personally I am prepared to move/connect online first etc. I was wondering if anyone here could share their experiences with dating and how you met the person? I guess this is moreso directed toward the ladies but men are welcome to let me know their experience also. Thanks!
Pray daily and ask other faithful Christians to pray. Let family and friends know
I am thinking some people must not get out much at all or live in all female households if they never meet any men.

ha, ha, seriously, lanolin? :unsure: there are many dogs out there, many sofas, cars,--MANY of EVERYTHING! But they may not be to your tastes or needs. For example a person living in a big city apartment may need to get a small dog. A person who lives in a dark small studio, may need a smaller sofa in a cheerful color. A person who has a large family may need to select a larger vehicle--not a 2 door corolla...


Marriage is a serious matter--for Christians it is ideally for life. . When considering a marriage partner one must first and foremost see if they align with one's Christian faith; then consider their character: are they kind and respectful? Then take into consideration if they have some interests and activities in common. I pity the man or woman who don't use discernment and would think any man or woman would do.:(
 

Laura798

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Is it because its there job to check oil?

Hmm? Personally, I wish my grandad wouldve taught me that stuff. I hope other women were taught this kind of thing. Personally, I like to check in with Jessica--which I just did today at the nearby full service gas station--she's the best!

I personally like the strength and dignity of the women of the bible--like Esther, Ruth, Deborah, Abigail, 'The Proverbs 31 Woman', etc. And if you want a man who is going to respect you and treat you as an equal, I would try other tactics--like praying first, and then just being yourself.:)
 

Laura798

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Over the last 4 years or so I have dated Christian men I met online. I regret dating all of them and I truly believe that if God wants to bring two people together then He will do it. I know of quite a few people this has happened to. Meeting people online can be dangerous, no matter how careful you try to be. Meeting people at Christian events, Church or better still, through friends seems much better than online. I have found that many people on Christian dating sites have personality disorder or other concerning aspects of their character, and talking online makes it easy for them to hide how they really are ; this is true of narcissists and those with Aspergers in my experience. It’s taken months before I’ve discovered the truth about them. I hope I’ve been of some help ... keep close to Jesus and His people x

Yes, I agree. I did try it when I first divorced--I did meet some 'nice' people, but no feeling of connection--plus it is a lot of work!
The two I dated (though eventually broke those off) were ones I met while out in the world. It's harder now as people so often live away from long time friends and family--so much safer and better to be introduced.

Sending up a prayer for you right now Salome. "Father, please help Salome get out and about doing things that interest her. Please let her find a place to serve with fellow Christians. Please bring a Godly man into her path, who will love and cherish her and she Him--let them always be the best of friends. Amen"
 

Laura798

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car club, navy, army, airforce, YMCA, yacht club, golf club, woodturning group, police force, hunting club, federated farmers, rugby club, bowling club ...come on women use your brains to find out where men go. Then join them.

If you go to a bar all you are going to meet are drunkards.

oh woodturning and the hunting club....why didn't i think of that...oh and the yacht club--of course! ;)

note to salome: average cost of a rifle is about $500, starting cost of a yacht is around$300,000--but you probably want something a little higher end to impress the gentlemen.... Just something to take into consideration.:whistle:
 

Laura798

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Over the last 4 years or so I have dated Christian men I met online. I regret dating all of them and I truly believe that if God wants to bring two people together then He will do it. I know of quite a few people this has happened to. Meeting people online can be dangerous, no matter how careful you try to be. Meeting people at Christian events, Church or better still, through friends seems much better than online. I have found that many people on Christian dating sites have personality disorder or other concerning aspects of their character, and talking online makes it easy for them to hide how they really are ; this is true of narcissists and those with Aspergers in my experience. It’s taken months before I’ve discovered the truth about them. I hope I’ve been of some help ... keep close to Jesus and His people x
And right now as I type this I am watching a show on Hulu "Dating App Horrors: the Untold Story" :cry:
 

Lanolin

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oh woodturning and the hunting club....why didn't i think of that...oh and the yacht club--of course! ;)

note to salome: average cost of a rifle is about $500, starting cost of a yacht is around$300,000--but you probably want something a little higher end to impress the gentlemen.... Just something to take into consideration.:whistle:
haha yes well stuff costs money

how about the soup kitchen for homeless at church

or real estate auctionswhat you do is go round open houses maybe if you are the one huNTING for a hsuband with enough cash to buy his own home. He might want to share it with you or let you have the garden part. Or you could just buy one yourself and offer part share.

If that is your game
otherwise, nothing wrong with being single!

Jesus was single, and he never met the 'right woman' in fact, people were always on at him for meeting the WRONG women.
 

Lanolin

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I read this National Geographic article about aspergers people dating. It was kinda interesting. I dont know why they dont really get social cues.

I think if you have aspergers, you would probably be more comfortable with someone else who also suffers from it, though its frustrating.

Lots of people suffer autism too and sometimes dealing with autistic people can be a bit draining because they really dont get certain things. Like you could be chatting away and they will be focusing on how many spelling mistakes they make or something...and to them it is extremely important.
 

Roughsoul1991

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I'm looking for the right guy, so personally I am prepared to move/connect online first etc. I was wondering if anyone here could share their experiences with dating and how you met the person? I guess this is moreso directed toward the ladies but men are welcome to let me know their experience also. Thanks!
My lady and I met while we were both volunteering to help run a special Olympics for kids. I was face painting kids faces/arms and she was working another booth. Well she wasn't getting anyone to participate at her booth so she came over and hung out at my station while I was painting. She asked if I could paint this lizard design I had pre-designed and I said sure. So I painted a orange lizard on her arm and it looked really good to be a quick painting so I asked as she was leaving if she could send me a picture of the lizard. About 30 minutes later I received the message and we have now continued speaking to each other for 10 years lol.
 

Laura798

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I read this National Geographic article about aspergers people dating. It was kinda interesting. I dont know why they dont really get social cues.

I think if you have aspergers, you would probably be more comfortable with someone else who also suffers from it, though its frustrating.

Lots of people suffer autism too and sometimes dealing with autistic people can be a bit draining because they really dont get certain things. Like you could be chatting away and they will be focusing on how many spelling mistakes they make or something...and to them it is extremely important.
well...that is one of the symptoms 'not getting social cues'--the brain hasn't developed in the right way, or i think something happened when they were developing--- not enough interaction with others, especially caregivers. often babies are left in childcare centers with many infants and toddlers--the caregivers spend little if any one one time with them--little ones need frequent touch and eye contact--their need to be acknowledged. and my personal opinion is the forced back sleeping to prevent sids has also caused problems--for example too much interrupted sleep--babies startle when lying on the back --also warmth on tummy helps with digestion--they tend to have more gerd. There are many benefits to baby sleeping on tummy--too many to write here!
 
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I'm looking for the right guy, so personally I am prepared to move/connect online first etc. I was wondering if anyone here could share their experiences with dating and how you met the person? I guess this is moreso directed toward the ladies but men are welcome to let me know their experience also. Thanks!
Hello dear,

I am in the same shoes. Probably will try online (just for the beginning). Wish you all the best, be happy and let the ocean of love be for you
 

Butterflyyy

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I have a question .... By pursuing romantic love/marriage are we in actual fact idolising this instead of trusting God to make it happen if and when He wants? Maybe it is a distraction or a way to lead us into stumbling into sin...
Surely He is able to do it if He wants that for us. I pray He helps us rest in trusting Him, that we will be kept in perfect peace. I regret the many times I have lost my focus on Him and I pray He has mercy on me. There are a lot of predators out there, even on Christian sites. I know I should have stayed in the Word more.
Be blessed.
Psalm 1.
 

Lynx

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I have a question .... By pursuing romantic love/marriage are we in actual fact idolising this instead of trusting God to make it happen if and when He wants? Maybe it is a distraction or a way to lead us into stumbling into sin...
Surely He is able to do it if He wants that for us. I pray He helps us rest in trusting Him, that we will be kept in perfect peace. I regret the many times I have lost my focus on Him and I pray He has mercy on me. There are a lot of predators out there, even on Christian sites. I know I should have stayed in the Word more.
Be blessed.
Psalm 1.
Shhh! What are you trying to do, take away the "brass ring" hope of true happiness so many people are chasing? :p

Chasing after the wind
Running around in circles again
Chasing after the wind
Looking for a pleasure to call my friend
Chasing after the wind
Breaking Your heart every moment that I spend
Chasing after the wind

- Sierra
 

listenyoumustAll

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If you let what you see that's fine . but sure to read the persons replies from the past on his page and ratings .. Then will have someone which sound learning .. Shoot your shot however you see fit fervently.
 

cinder

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I have a question .... By pursuing romantic love/marriage are we in actual fact idolising this instead of trusting God to make it happen if and when He wants? Maybe it is a distraction or a way to lead us into stumbling into sin...
Surely He is able to do it if He wants that for us. I pray He helps us rest in trusting Him, that we will be kept in perfect peace. I regret the many times I have lost my focus on Him and I pray He has mercy on me. There are a lot of predators out there, even on Christian sites. I know I should have stayed in the Word more.
Be blessed.
Psalm 1.

That's kind of like asking by pursing a job / employment (or a place to rent / buy to live in) are we idolizing those things instead of trusting God to make it happen if and when he wants. While you can make an idol out of just about anything, pursuing something you want doesn't equate to idolatry. Idolatry comes in when we think that the thing we're pursuing (job, perfect home, significant other, big screen TV, etc) will give us lasting fulfillment and permanent happiness / contentment.
 

listenyoumustAll

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You can find a man here . If you like what you see that's fine . but be sure to read the individual's replies in the forum from the past and ratings .. Then will have someone which sound learning .. Shoot your shot however you see fit fervently afterwards .
 

Lynx

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That's kind of like asking by pursing a job / employment (or a place to rent / buy to live in) are we idolizing those things instead of trusting God to make it happen if and when he wants. While you can make an idol out of just about anything, pursuing something you want doesn't equate to idolatry. Idolatry comes in when we think that the thing we're pursuing (job, perfect home, significant other, big screen TV, etc) will give us lasting fulfillment and permanent happiness / contentment.
Unfortunately that's what a LOT of people I know have made of a potential future spouse.

Strange, that... jobs and housing are more important, but people don't seem to idolize them. Finding a spouse is much more optional, but something people fixate on a lot more.

Now I'm wondering why people don't idolize jobs and housing more. Thanks a lot cinder. :p