The Dating Age Range.
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I spent 10 years with a lady who was 17 years my senior. She also became a grandmother during that time. It was fine with her kids and parents. I think they were happy for her. My friends and relatives did not like it, and tried to sabotage it. My family never knew, it never came up in talks. Probably knew from overhearing me on the phone with her though. Both she and I were heathens, and she was kind of hedeonistic though, so was not godly. Just great at the time. Never did the familything with being in a shared household, responsibilities, familyevents, etc. As her oldest was 18, and the second oldest was 15, and they didd not need any extradad or their own father much. I was 25 at the time.- Going to meet her later today probably. Will be interesting.
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ok weird
but weird when men with children even if they are grown up hit on you.
if its a date its just a date, some people need to go out on dates. They have to get out of the house and have dinner with someone. I would just say go on group dates than just one on one or people may think you trying to be a couple. Theres such a thing as just going out with someone for the fun of it.
People are so serious in here its like 'I kissed dating goodbye because I cant control myself'
but weird when men with children even if they are grown up hit on you.
if its a date its just a date, some people need to go out on dates. They have to get out of the house and have dinner with someone. I would just say go on group dates than just one on one or people may think you trying to be a couple. Theres such a thing as just going out with someone for the fun of it.
People are so serious in here its like 'I kissed dating goodbye because I cant control myself'
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Time is an interesting thing.
So apparently I wrote this thread in 2009? So... Flash forward a couple years.
When I was younger (as in, even in my pre-teens,) older (and we're talking 40's-70's on up) men always hit on me, and I thought it was disgusting.
As I'VE gotten a bit older, something even stranger has happened that I never would have guessed. Now I find myself being asked out by guys who are so much younger than me, I was driving/graduating high school when they were born.
Everyone comes with their own baggage from life experiences, but my situation is a bit different because I don't have kids (let alone grandkids), and my peer group, for whatever reason, is often younger as well. I'm just someone who is trying to find/live out my purpose in life, and I guess a lot of younger people relate to that as well, so we wind up being friends.
I have had a few dates with some of these younger guys, and though they asked if it could turn into something serious, I found myself declining because they really are in their prime of life -- meaning, they are hoping to have families, which, for my own self (both medical and personal reasons,) is something that has already passed me by.
I find myself having no other choice but to encourage them to move on, as I would never want to deny someone a family. I've known a couple of similar situations in which the guy married a woman saying it didn't matter to him if they had kids, but later it DID matter and resulted in him leaving her for someone he thought he could have a family with.
I always wonder why God allows us to meet people with such impossible differences, because the results are often so heart-breaking.
For me, it's usually age (different places in life and wanting completely different things,) and distance (for some reason, everyone I meet that I might be interested in is a zillion miles away.)
Sigh.
Here's to another 12 years passing us by.
So apparently I wrote this thread in 2009? So... Flash forward a couple years.
When I was younger (as in, even in my pre-teens,) older (and we're talking 40's-70's on up) men always hit on me, and I thought it was disgusting.
As I'VE gotten a bit older, something even stranger has happened that I never would have guessed. Now I find myself being asked out by guys who are so much younger than me, I was driving/graduating high school when they were born.
Everyone comes with their own baggage from life experiences, but my situation is a bit different because I don't have kids (let alone grandkids), and my peer group, for whatever reason, is often younger as well. I'm just someone who is trying to find/live out my purpose in life, and I guess a lot of younger people relate to that as well, so we wind up being friends.
I have had a few dates with some of these younger guys, and though they asked if it could turn into something serious, I found myself declining because they really are in their prime of life -- meaning, they are hoping to have families, which, for my own self (both medical and personal reasons,) is something that has already passed me by.
I find myself having no other choice but to encourage them to move on, as I would never want to deny someone a family. I've known a couple of similar situations in which the guy married a woman saying it didn't matter to him if they had kids, but later it DID matter and resulted in him leaving her for someone he thought he could have a family with.
I always wonder why God allows us to meet people with such impossible differences, because the results are often so heart-breaking.
For me, it's usually age (different places in life and wanting completely different things,) and distance (for some reason, everyone I meet that I might be interested in is a zillion miles away.)
Sigh.
Here's to another 12 years passing us by.
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That's true, and I don't know where she necessarily stands on faith. But there's a chance I'll be finding out soon. I've been talking to one of the other ladies up at this place, and we are looking at the possibility of getting our group together at a winery where there's music and a dance floor. This older woman is on board, so we'll see what happens.
Anyway, I'm keeping options open, but, in the meantime, I'll continue to enjoy being single. I'm travelling more, been involved with more hobbies, and spending more time with my current and new friends. Figured just keep on moving and be happy.
Anyway, I'm keeping options open, but, in the meantime, I'll continue to enjoy being single. I'm travelling more, been involved with more hobbies, and spending more time with my current and new friends. Figured just keep on moving and be happy.
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I did meet her today. It was interesting, and not honest at all, because of the past and roles we have played since been estranged. But we had some laughs too. She was 6 cms shorter than when I last saw her. Had to bend my knees to give her a hug now. But she looked happy enough, but not happy. Bit haggered, but that is what partying does to you. She looks good for 60, but she was sad and angry still, as her face told me. And tired. And did not like that I forgave her, and felt only love for her and was at peace, for the first time in my life and live in celibasy for life. Not that she wants anything sinful with me, but do not like that I have become religious and will never live in sin with anybody ever again, which she calls love, or enjoy casual relations on weekends. Called it a limitation of life, not even recognizing the next one, and how it conflicts with it.
A bit true love, bit hate, bit jabs, bit lighearted jabs on the past that we mostly laughed over. Bit real talk, bit talking over how it ended like it did, and how communicationline was ended for 2 years. Why I stopped taking her calls and stopped talking to her. But without honesty, no resolution. I hope she got enough to feel better and do for her, what she feels is best now. Her kids was doing fine, and have given her many grandchildren that she says brings her joy, which was nice to hear. Said she was taking them on a boattrip tomorrow. Said the yougest kid of hers which I did have some part in raising, regarding fun stuff and no responsibilities, who has a special needs kid now, has some issues with health, which made me sad. She is also a single mother now, and that cannot be easy as a single mother.
Will make a new meeting next week sometime. I let her peel some more layers, but she does not want to be honest and talk about why it ended like it did, and want me to return as I was when I left, so none get what they want. Still want me to be what I am not. Easygoing and friend with my former drugdealers, while simultanious saying that drugs was not good for me. Going back to a life I hated. Because it is comfortable to the ones around me, because it is at least known for them, and they can relate to it. Pills and meth is better than religion I guess, for her. Got 9 more days to move it along for her. After that I am gone geographical, and do not really travel much. So it is kind of closure for us theese few days left. Hope she gets what she needs. to move on Pleasently surprised that there were not waiting 5 dudes to beat me up for ignoring her for two years though or calling her out on her wayward life. No fear works. If you did nothing wrong, and fear ill actions from others, just go into it head on. The lord will protect you. .
A bit true love, bit hate, bit jabs, bit lighearted jabs on the past that we mostly laughed over. Bit real talk, bit talking over how it ended like it did, and how communicationline was ended for 2 years. Why I stopped taking her calls and stopped talking to her. But without honesty, no resolution. I hope she got enough to feel better and do for her, what she feels is best now. Her kids was doing fine, and have given her many grandchildren that she says brings her joy, which was nice to hear. Said she was taking them on a boattrip tomorrow. Said the yougest kid of hers which I did have some part in raising, regarding fun stuff and no responsibilities, who has a special needs kid now, has some issues with health, which made me sad. She is also a single mother now, and that cannot be easy as a single mother.
Will make a new meeting next week sometime. I let her peel some more layers, but she does not want to be honest and talk about why it ended like it did, and want me to return as I was when I left, so none get what they want. Still want me to be what I am not. Easygoing and friend with my former drugdealers, while simultanious saying that drugs was not good for me. Going back to a life I hated. Because it is comfortable to the ones around me, because it is at least known for them, and they can relate to it. Pills and meth is better than religion I guess, for her. Got 9 more days to move it along for her. After that I am gone geographical, and do not really travel much. So it is kind of closure for us theese few days left. Hope she gets what she needs. to move on Pleasently surprised that there were not waiting 5 dudes to beat me up for ignoring her for two years though or calling her out on her wayward life. No fear works. If you did nothing wrong, and fear ill actions from others, just go into it head on. The lord will protect you. .
I had a girl 10.5 years younger than me want to date, but I said no because of the age difference. I regret that decision.
I probably would chase after a girl that much younger than me, but also am not against it. As for older, that's hard. Cause girl's baby making abilities tend to wane at my age. And I want kids.
I probably would chase after a girl that much younger than me, but also am not against it. As for older, that's hard. Cause girl's baby making abilities tend to wane at my age. And I want kids.
