saying we must "give up" something to be His lapses back to the wrong idea we need to do things to make ourselves right to Him. jesus paid it all on the cross, religion makes people jump through hoops to sup[posedly make themselves right, that is the wrong thinking, you were raised in religion and it shows, we most all were, hence the lack of progress of the kingdom for the last 2,000 years. Jesus ,odeled how to live in relationship with the Father, He only did what He saw the Father do, He only said what He heard the Father say.
You seem to be "stuck" in the error of religious practice when the indwelling Christ would like to get out and manifest His presence through the believer.
Relationship- NOT religion.
best wishes