I wasn't ready for someone to evoke the 90's like that, you've got to warn people!
I might have understood that video when it came out if it wasn't so creepy looking. It's legit though; there are so many people in this world, attractive people that look and act happily married... until they don't. I definitely pray for them and hope things change for them; the Lord can restore them; but I'm glad that it's not me. I have some problems of my own design, but that isn't one of them. Loneliness or any kind of incompleteness or envy towards married people, I don't remember any better than Ace of Base- which I had almost forgotten about, until now.
When you hear a preacher that is exalting marriage as something higher than what it really is; trying to get their Sunday schools filled out, sometimes you need a reminder that it's not always what it's cracked up to be. Or if it's not a preacher it's some married person talking about "Look, I have a wife and kids, see how much more I have going on in my life?" But outside of church and their Sunday-best, it's not all smiles. Like Paul says, even Christians will have their struggles. So, unless a marriage is going to somehow make my walk with god better, where is the necessity?
Marriage itself is wonderful. God made it as part of His design for great reason.
Before I was a christian, I actually had a bias against marriage and women in general. I had only seen how evil and selfish and destructive worldly women can be. Even my family.
When I ended up dating in unbelief I was hurt in the same ways I saw all those around me hurt by women. The men and children and anyone they could take advantage of or use for gain.
When I became a christian I still had a chip on my shoulder unknowingly.
After starting to fellowship and try to share what I was learning in scripture and any questions that I didn't feel I had answers to, I had the pleasure of meeting many of Gods daughters who may not be perfect but would shine brightly and remind me so much of the changes He made in me.
It was then I knew I COULD marry God willing, the fear and disgust I had was ... not applied to all women anymore but to the evils of our own hearts and flesh. Just as God can change us, He can change anyone and correct them.
If you happened to find a woman who looks to Him for correction and accepts proper leadership, I think it would be a good time to pray for growth so you can not only be ready to lead but appreciate what a blessing marriage really is and not take it for granted as it seems you would now.
In my only relationship as a christian.... I remember praying often.
I would pray and pray and pray and ask God, "Is this woman right for me Lord? Can you show me so I know Father?" and similar prayers sometimes for hours...
After months of this on and off and me worrying or maybe us needing to work through things... I remember an instant understanding and sense of... guilt. I felt convicted.
I was praying wrong. I never once asked if I was right for this woman in those first few months. It brought me to tears but I then wanted to be better for her. I wanted to care as much for her future, as our future or my future.
Marriage isn't the problem. It is everything God made it to be. If we are so blessed with a chance to marry, I hope all of us can remember how precious it is and not take it, or our other half for granted.
